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Posted by: funked)out_frog Jul 3 2009, 02:59 AM

So, my friend and her partner have just celebrated their 6th year together. She was on a tube, dropped her DiscWorld book and he picked it up, they got speaking about Discworld. That's how they met.

So, I'm curious to hear what are your how you met you partner/ an ex stories happy.gif

Posted by: IrishGuy Jul 3 2009, 06:10 AM

On an online RPG chat. Yep.

Posted by: candice Jul 3 2009, 08:45 AM

Euuugh. The word "lover" creeps me out. It always makes me think of my aunt. She traumatised me when I was 12 by leaning over her husband's chair and saying, in a husky voice, "Hello, lover." Gross gross gross. Maybe you had to be there to fully appreciate the horror of that particular memory, but trust me. Bleugh.

Anyway. I think most people know the basics of how I met moop. tongue.gif We met on here, pretty much. There was also a lot of IRC, Skype, and I-sketch involved.

Posted by: leopold Jul 3 2009, 09:04 AM

I met an ex purely by chance. I was living in shared accommodation at Uni and this new chap moved in. He'd met some girl who he'd invited round with a view to going out with her. She asked if she could bring her housemate along and he agreed (on the basis it was better than being blown out, I expect!)

So I answered the door and was utterly captivated with this girl's housemate. So when I was asked if I wouldn't mind making up the numbers, I casually jumped at the chance laugh.gif It all went really well and we ended up going out for a few months. Until she dumped me. Oh well.

And my housemate got blown out! laugh.gif

Posted by: Mata Jul 3 2009, 12:38 PM

Sues and I worked together. I was dating someone else when we met, but we got together after that ended. It's not exactly a grand story!

Previously:
Friend of a friend, met in a pub.
Met in a pub, she had cool hair, we talked, she took me back to her place!
Long term friends who eventually became intimate for about six months, then a few more times over the years (we're still friends)
Long term friends who were intimate once (we're also still friends)
Met at a circus convention, she was very pretty and came on to me heavily. I've only seen her once since then!

Posted by: leopold Jul 3 2009, 02:07 PM

My current I met at work. We'd worked together for 10 years before we got together, and it was only because they were closing the site we were working at that anything happened!

Posted by: elphaba2 Jul 3 2009, 04:23 PM

"And my housemate got blown out! laugh.gif"

England, you talk funny. Splain me please?

I meet people while cooking. In my own kitchen. Hrm. Also dancing, but those barely qualify as Things; I am never like 'oh whatup québécois lovahhhh, buy me a drink and we will express our love thru crazy obscene dance moves and drunken makeouts!'

Posted by: Daria Jul 3 2009, 05:06 PM

QUOTE (elphaba2 @ Jul 3 2009, 05:23 PM) *
I am never like 'oh whatup québécois lovahhhh, buy me a drink and we will express our love thru crazy obscene dance moves and drunken makeouts!'


You could totally pull like that, though. Imagine the dancin'.

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 3 2009, 05:08 PM

Thinking about it, the internet has had a big impact on the number of relationships and my sex life in general. One ex from uni was a random meeting through a website, she turned out to be a (young) lecturer, not one of mine, but only because I chose one module over another. I've had a customer in my current job handing me her phone number, she turned out to be 12 years older, but a lot of fun... rolleyes.gif

Currently, I get lots of free coffee from a very pretty blonde in an Italian deli near where I work, she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles (it's a place, google it if you wanna), but we missed each other apparently. >_<

Posted by: Mata Jul 3 2009, 06:22 PM

QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 3 2009, 06:08 PM) *
she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

I read that as 'jazz in the panties'. That was a very different kind of image!

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 3 2009, 06:48 PM

QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 3 2009, 07:22 PM) *
QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 3 2009, 06:08 PM) *
she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

I read that as 'jazz in the panties'. That was a very different kind of image!


Please, what kind of hussy do you take me for?

Posted by: Yannick Jul 3 2009, 07:27 PM

QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 3 2009, 02:22 PM) *
QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 3 2009, 06:08 PM) *
she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

I read that as 'jazz in the panties'. That was a very different kind of image!

I read it as 'the jizz on her panties'.

Mostly just school. Sitting next to someone and eventually becoming their friend. One time there was this kid from summer camp, but we were friends for like three years before going out, and I can't remember exactly where/when I met him. I think we might have been playing Predator and were hiding behind the same tree.

Posted by: gothictheysay Jul 4 2009, 12:35 AM

#1: The least romantic place ever: high school cafeteria lunch table.

#2 (current): I went to visit my friends in Boston over my winter break from university. I went to the science fiction convention they go to every year. He was a friend of my friends' that I had not yet met. Yes, science fiction convention, keep laughing. it's better than #1, I'm sure. tongue.gif

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 4 2009, 10:25 AM

QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 3 2009, 08:27 PM) *
One time there was this kid from summer camp


Was there a flute involved?

Posted by: Yannick Jul 4 2009, 02:39 PM

QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 4 2009, 06:25 AM) *
QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 3 2009, 08:27 PM) *
One time there was this kid from summer camp


Was there a flute involved?

No?

Posted by: MrTeapot Jul 4 2009, 05:20 PM

I think I am the kind of man who gets jumped on...but I like it.

I don't recall ever taking any action to initiate anything after a chance meeting, such as at a party or a pub. On the other hand I can think of many times where I have awkwardly tried to approach someone and get shot down horribly.

One girl text me out of the blue a year after an engagement party I attended. I spoke to her twice that night, very briefly, and to this day have no idea how she tracked my number down. At the party, I was also jumped on by a very chavvy girl disguised as a goth.

The stalker was a predator red hair Sloane girl. She still occasionally messages me, despite my number and address having changed numerous times.

Posted by: TigerLily013 Jul 4 2009, 05:32 PM

Met last relationship I was in originally in a chatroom back in 2000. Friends for years, dated for 2ish years, back to besties again smile.gif He's married now and I see him more now as a brother figure. We've been friends almost 9 years together.

Posted by: saucy_tara Jul 5 2009, 04:49 PM

I was stalked for 6 months by my chap in various clubs, he wore me down. This was 14 years ago now smile.gif We have had some big bumps along the way and I daresay that there will be more, but we've managed to come through so far.
SPS, I also read it as panties, but I know you of old so I didn't think it was my eyes playing tricks :-P

Posted by: Daria Jul 5 2009, 09:16 PM

I seem to use Matazone as a dating website >_>

Posted by: voices_in_my_head Jul 5 2009, 09:33 PM

My first boyfriend I met through school, we had the same English class and ended up friends. It went from there.

The current love interest has a slightly more interesting story. The boyfriend mentioned above dumped me at the same time as the current love's girlfriend. My ex and his ex ended up going out with each other, so we started chatting through myspace since we figured we were in the same boat and should meet each other. We ended up really liking each other and...it went from there.

Posted by: leopold Jul 6 2009, 01:17 PM

QUOTE (elphaba2 @ Jul 3 2009, 05:23 PM) *
"And my housemate got blown out! laugh.gif"

England, you talk funny. Splain me please?

I know. This language we call "English" is so complicated it can get lost in translation over a distance of 40 miles. Or sometimes less. So it's of little surprise that you, out there in the bit of Canada that doesn't speak English as a first language, you didn't understand. So here is Leo's translation module:

Getting blown out = not getting as far as the first date

Now technically she showed up, his "date", for this "first date", but I'd not call it a date. She turned up for the night out and because he said he'd pay for her drinks. She didn't even like him all that much. He was pretty gutted, but after seeing her around a few times since then (she and my by then girlfriend were sharing a house), I came to the conclusion he'd had a lucky escape; she was one of those girls who knew she was good looking and used it to her advantage. Not a very nice person, frankly.

Posted by: Faerieryn Jul 6 2009, 05:26 PM

I think everyone on here knows the story of me and Matt. I've told enough people!

Posted by: candice Jul 6 2009, 05:31 PM

QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 4 2009, 03:39 PM) *
QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 4 2009, 06:25 AM) *
QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 3 2009, 08:27 PM) *
One time there was this kid from summer camp


Was there a flute involved?

No?


Hahahaha.

Pop culture reference, Izzy. tongue.gif You were around 4 or 5, so probably way too young to remember when people would finish your sentence with "At band camp?" if you said "This one time..."

Posted by: IrishGuy Jul 6 2009, 05:56 PM

QUOTE (candice @ Jul 6 2009, 01:31 PM) *
QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 4 2009, 03:39 PM) *
QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 4 2009, 06:25 AM) *
QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 3 2009, 08:27 PM) *
One time there was this kid from summer camp


Was there a flute involved?

No?


Hahahaha.

Pop culture reference, Izzy. tongue.gif You were around 4 or 5, so probably way too young to remember when people would finish your sentence with "At band camp?" if you said "This one time..."


Sh*t, that makes me feel old. What's up with all these kids on the internets now?!

Posted by: Daria Jul 6 2009, 08:50 PM

No way... was it really that long ago?

Posted by: candice Jul 6 2009, 09:19 PM

Yup. 1999. I was still in high school! ohmy.gif

Posted by: gothictheysay Jul 6 2009, 10:09 PM

QUOTE
I seem to use Matazone as a dating website


Totally acceptable, imho. wink.gif

Posted by: Mata Jul 6 2009, 10:28 PM

I can't believe it's been a decade since The Matrix came out!

Posted by: Daria Jul 6 2009, 10:31 PM

You know, the third Matrix movie is the only film I have ever seen that has made me walk out of the cinema before it finished. I was that unimpressed.

Posted by: Cath Jul 6 2009, 11:21 PM

QUOTE (candice @ Jul 6 2009, 10:19 PM) *
Yup. 1999. I was still in high school! ohmy.gif


*mutters something about starting Uni and it not even being straight from school....*

Posted by: DarkInferno Jul 8 2009, 10:05 AM

In order... (current to first):

In a pub. (Jokingly ordering her to the other side of the pub because she was far too happy to be on what was the depressed side, I seem to remember there were 4 or 5 people who had broken up with their partners on that day on that side the pub)

We met at college, friends at collage, however we didn't get it together till ~5 years after, turns out we both fancied each other like mad at college but neither of us thought the other fancied them. Met in a club 5 years later and got chatting about the fact we hadn't seen each other for so long, she gave me a lift home at the end of the night, and came in to see my passport because she didn't believe I'd been living in Florida (still friends)

'Tinterwebs. I owned a server in a large *cough*napster style*cough* network. She was the network owner (who lived in Florida).

In a club. she had cool hair, we talked, she took me back to her place! (Mata, it wasn't a really rich purple was it? lol)

In a club, A couple of friends were talking about this girl I had to meet, but she wasn't there that night and I should have a chat with her friends to see if she would be there next week... Turns out she was there, infact she was the person I spoke to, we hit it off straight away, didn't find out till a few weeks later when we were dating that she was the one that my/our friends were referring to.

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 9 2009, 05:49 PM

QUOTE (saucy_tara @ Jul 5 2009, 05:49 PM) *
SPS, I also read it as panties, but I know you of old so I didn't think it was my eyes playing tricks :-P


Quiet you.

Posted by: sizzlieswix Jul 10 2009, 05:17 PM

Met one when they sold me a chair and umbrella on the beach.
Met another when they came to buy jewelry for someone else.
Met another because I called a number to talk to one friend, but someone else answered.
Met another because I got a flat tire turning around in their driveway.
Met another because we were paired together in a mutual friends' wedding ceremony.

Posted by: Mata Jul 10 2009, 11:22 PM

You have definitely won this thread. Those are the most interesting ways of meeting people so far. I'm sure there's a rom com script in that post smile.gif

Posted by: craziness Jul 14 2009, 02:28 AM

I met my current boyfriend because he was a resident adviser in my dorm at college. he saw me running around making trouble for the other RA's and hunted me down because he thought what i was doing was hilarious. we caused a huge scandal by dating each other! it's been about 10 months we've been dating and everything is going well. luckily next year, we won't live in the same dorm (at least not on paper) and that should spare us a lot of headaches. i knew he was a keeper when i showed him matazone and mr. sb was his favorite animation, just like me! he's also one of the only people from my 'normal' life who knows that i post on the boards!

as for other former flames (these can get interesting, since i'm a bit of a flirt and i'm kind of daring):
-i once met someone on the train, and we started talking. we only went out a couple of times, but it makes for a good story.
-another one i met when i was at applebee's (a very sh*tty american chain restaurant) for my friend's bday. he was a sexy waiter and i kept checking him out, and when i left he gave me his #!
-i met one when i was on an exchange program in panama
-i met one at an after-school gingerbread house making party for the Gay-Straight Alliance club in my high school

Posted by: Mata Jul 14 2009, 12:38 PM

Why do I never get invited to gingerbread house making parties?

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 14 2009, 02:33 PM

Because you never invite us to your gingerbread house making parties.

Posted by: Hobbes Jul 14 2009, 07:49 PM

QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 3 2009, 06:08 PM) *
she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

You are a Tunbridge Wellsian?

Mine are as follows:

- I had some lessons in college with her. We were together two years. Never spoke to her again.

- She worked in a cafe next door to my place of work. Buying a hundred things each day from her, just so that I could see her, was not an especially subtle way to express my interest in her - and eventually her employer got us together by not letting her go home until she had spoken to me properly. We were together a couple of months. Didn't speak to her for about two years, and now only rarely.

- My sister was having singing lessons, and booked me two lessons for my birthday. A little over a year of lessons later, my teacher and I got together. We were together for exactly two years, and now avoid each other like the plague except for financial purposes (we are in the process of selling the house we bought together).

- She joined my place of work and, after several twists, turns, problems, situations, heartaches, cry-on-shoulder moments, etc., we got together for about six months (on and off). We are currently somewhere between being "friends" and "together" once more.

Other semi-lover/semi-relationships are scattered here and there between the above, most of which were concocted via t'Internet.

Posted by: craziness Jul 14 2009, 08:31 PM

maybe at the next matameet you can all sit around making gingerbread houses, then.

Posted by: Mata Jul 15 2009, 12:50 PM

Two years seems to be your limit Hobbes!

Out of interest, how many people still talk to most of their significant-others.

Posted by: IrishGuy Jul 15 2009, 04:57 PM

Mine broke up with me and then married my best friend. I don't talk to either of them anymore.

Posted by: MrTeapot Jul 15 2009, 07:35 PM

QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 15 2009, 01:50 PM) *
Out of interest, how many people still talk to most of their significant-others.


None, though I am tempted to speak to one purely to see if she is still insane.

Posted by: elphaba2 Jul 15 2009, 07:58 PM

Cripe, I can't imagine that! Still very good friends with just about everybody (again, not counting the quebecois one-night deals). They are lovely people, and lovely people are so rare that I can't stand voluntarily cutting them out of my life. Then again, it sounds as though the people who you two have stopped speaking with are essentially the opposite of lovely.

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 15 2009, 08:00 PM

QUOTE (Hobbes @ Jul 14 2009, 08:49 PM) *
QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy @ Jul 3 2009, 06:08 PM) *
she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

You are a Tunbridge Wellsian?



Uh....maybe... ph34r.gif

Posted by: Daria Jul 15 2009, 09:01 PM

QUOTE (MrTeapot @ Jul 15 2009, 08:35 PM) *
QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 15 2009, 01:50 PM) *
Out of interest, how many people still talk to most of their significant-others.


None, though I am tempted to speak to one purely to see if she is still insane.


Funny thing is, I know that's not me.

And to answer Mata's question: My relationships have broken up in this order: him, me (then me again with the same guy after I realised I hadn't made a mistake and I really didn't want to be with him), and finally him then me. Apart from the first one, which was decidedly ended due to the age difference, the rest have all been because of me. I've found that telling someone you don't want to be with them for whatever reason kind of screws up the chance of a friendship afterwards.

Posted by: MrTeapot Jul 16 2009, 12:03 AM

Just thought of another one. Technically we'd already met but I heard that someone I went out with had attempted suicide and was in Bedlam. I visted, stayed for a while and pretty soon we were hitting it off again. I hooked up in a psychiatric unit...wooyeah!

Posted by: IrishGuy Jul 16 2009, 01:58 AM

QUOTE (MrTeapot @ Jul 15 2009, 08:03 PM) *
Just thought of another one. Technically we'd already met but I heard that someone I went out with had attempted suicide and was in Bedlam. I visted, stayed for a while and pretty soon we were hitting it off again. I hooked up in a psychiatric unit...wooyeah!


That's my boy!

Posted by: Mata Jul 16 2009, 12:49 PM

Aww, now there's a love story to tell the grandchildren!

Despite having had a couple of pretty messy breakups, I know I'd still help any of my ex's if they needed help. It's one of those funny things - no matter what a person has done and all the other things that get in the way, you still love them a bit. Or at least, that's how I feel.

Posted by: Witless Jul 16 2009, 06:40 PM

My turn, my turn!

Ok met my first girlfriend while holidaying in spain, it was a holiday romance that continued when we both came back to england for another 18 months!

Second I met through a friend while in a bar, I told my friend she looks cute, my friend then proceeded to march over to said person and say "you see that tall guy there? he thinks your cute."

Third I met through a friend again. This relationship went a little crazy.. far too long a story for this thread.

Fourth was someone I met online when I was 16 and used to chat to close to daily, then we lost touch for a long while, then when we regained contact and met up, stuff happened and we got together "officially".

Fifth was almost entirely online.

Sixth I am with now. I met her through her sister that I was once good friends with.


I am friends with four of the exs listed above, and am in regular contact with two of them. Froggy being one of those and the second on that list.

Posted by: candice Jul 16 2009, 06:46 PM

I don't talk to my ex. If I was still living in Oregon, the answer would probably be "I don't talk to my ex, except when he shows up at my door, unannounced." rolleyes.gif

I hope he has a nice life, but I don't want to be involved in it in any way. I don't love him at all. I'd help him the same amount I would help any random stranger, but beyond that no sir. That way lies madness.

Edit: Hmm, does this post make me sound bitter? I'm honestly not. The relationship was a learning experience, and without it I probably wouldn't be where I am today (I met Lo through my ex, and Lo introduced me to Matazone). I just don't care to have him in my life for about 29,348,394,823 reasons, which are too complex to get into in this thread.

Posted by: Hobbes Jul 16 2009, 08:56 PM

QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy)
QUOTE (Hobbes)

QUOTE (Sir Psycho Sexy)
she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

You are a Tunbridge Wellsian?

Uh....maybe... ph34r.gif


"Ye knows too much!"

QUOTE (Mata)
Two years seems to be your limit Hobbes!


Okay okay, no need to rub it in biggrin.gif

Posted by: gothictheysay Jul 17 2009, 02:47 AM

My first relationship ended pretty much mutually after it had been obvious we were having some issues, and I was going away to school. I tried super hard to stay friends, but he became judgmental and somewhat hurtful, and after that whenever we talked things got awkward. Since we didn't end on a bad note, I still want to keep in touch with him. Spoke with him recently after a few months, but I don't know if we'll end up being as close as friends. If things don't end well I can understand not talking, but I think I would have trouble not talking to someone, at least occasionally, that I shared that much with - at least for some situations. I can quite easily imagine a situation where I wouldn't want to talk to them, and I hope none of my relationships end up like that, but it does happen!

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 19 2009, 04:40 PM

QUOTE (Hobbes @ Jul 16 2009, 09:56 PM) *
"Ye knows too much!"


Little bit, especially when one of my jobs is there. :-P
you've been there?

Posted by: Hobbes Jul 20 2009, 11:07 PM

^--- reply to

I have a friend who lives near the town centre. I visited her a couple of weeks ago and I was introduced to the Pantiles. I had never been to T.Wells before (at least, not that I remember).

Posted by: sizzlieswix Jul 21 2009, 03:00 PM

QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 10 2009, 11:22 PM) *
You have definitely won this thread. Those are the most interesting ways of meeting people so far. I'm sure there's a rom com script in that post smile.gif


*bows graciously* And I'm not making it up, those were in no particular order, but my current is the one who came in to buy jewelry for someone else at my last job. :HAR: ph34r.gif

Posted by: sizzlieswix Jul 21 2009, 03:04 PM

QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 16 2009, 12:49 PM) *
- no matter what a person has done and all the other things that get in the way, you still love them a bit. Or at least, that's how I feel.


AMEN

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 21 2009, 06:28 PM

QUOTE (Hobbes @ Jul 21 2009, 12:07 AM) *
I have a friend who lives near the town centre.


Interesting, small world huh? If she's young and hip she may have taken you to my place of work (a pub).

Posted by: CommieBastard Jul 26 2009, 01:31 PM

I've almost always been friends with someone a while and then the relationship has gotten more intimate. The exception is my last-but-one girlfriend, whom I met at a party and overwhelmed with irresistable charm*.

At the moment I'm unemployed and broke; sitting around at home doesn't lend itself to meeting new people sad.gif I'm starting uni in September though, hopefully that will expand my social circle a bit. Or drive me mad trying to learn Ancient Greek. One or the other.

*reports that I was drunk and made a bit of a tit of myself but in an endearing enough fashion that she got in touch out of pity are scandalous and unfounded. I am a Smooth Operator. *nodnod*

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