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Posted by: voices_in_my_head Aug 14 2009, 08:38 PM

I wouldn't call this a game, exactly, but it IS really fun to do!

What is your dream life?
Forget reality, for awhile - it doesn't matter if you're working in fast food right now, ect. What do you want your life to be like?

What career do you want to have, and why?
What kind of house do you want to have?
Do you want to be rich?
Where would you live?
Married? Children?

I love learning about people, so this should all be really interesting to me - remember, it doesn't have to be realistic - if you want a gigantic mansion with 1,000 sex-slaves at your service, go for it!

So, what's your dream? smile.gif

Posted by: CheeseMoose Aug 14 2009, 10:54 PM

I'm not very good at this game, 'cos what I really want is actually pretty achievable.

I would work as a mathematician at Manchester University, have a nice flat in the city, and a house in the Lake District. Career-wise, I want to be a mathematician, it's what I do. I choose Manchester, because it's the nearest credible research university to the Lakes, which is where I've always wanted to live. I love the country there so damn much, just to have a house where I could wake up in the morning and look outside and see those hills would be heaven for me. And it'd be awesome for hiking, which is pretty much my main hobby.

House-wise, I've only ever given thought to the kitchen, which I pretty much have pictured in my head. A lot of stainless steel counters and white gloss surfaces. Other than that, I guess a pretty normal house, wired up technologically, and a fair amount of room for people to stay would be nice.

Speaking of people, to answer the last question, whenever I think about what I want for the future, I see myself alone.

Posted by: LoLo Aug 14 2009, 11:30 PM

I've been working for years to become a graphic designer and ideally that is what I would picture myself doing, unless of course I managed to come into enough money to just be a loaf and travel all the time. Actually let me change that to my career of being a loaf and traveling all the time, since this is supposed to be an ideal. With this in mind I guess I would have to be rich, because I would want a main residence near the coast in in Northern California, somewhere around with a minimum of 3 bedrooms, a large kitchen and a guest house that I would make into an art studio. I want to be able to have a large enough place that I could have people come to visit me and a kitchen that would make it easier for me to cook for those visitors. In this ideal I would also have a condo or two in other cities that I like would like to travel to frequently. I wouldn't have kids, or be married, but it would be nice to have a committed boyfriend, possibly my sugar daddy. laugh.gif Just kidding, I don't think I could handle having a sugar daddy, so the money would have to be mine.

The more realistic fantasy that I have, and really wish would begin to happen sometime soon, is to get a job as a graphic designer anywhere away from the current town I live in, though staying in California would be the ideal, have medical benefits, and making enough to be able to afford a small house for myself and to be self sufficient. Having a nice boyfriend would be good too, but no kids.

Posted by: craziness Aug 15 2009, 03:11 AM

I would like to have a career that would be rewarding, beneficial to the world/public well being and health/the environment/all of the above. It is a huge goal of mine to make a positive impact on the world and reverse some of the damage that has been done. I would like to be able to travel frequently, but not to the point where I would be jetlagged all the time. More like: for the next month or so i'd live in a country to develop a project there. I want to see the world and I think living in a country and experiencing what life is truly like there is the best way to do it. In terms of houses, I would want to have a medium sized house. I would want there to be enough room for me to spread out and feel comfortable but not have a house that is big enough that I get creeped out if I am there alone. I really don't like big houses anyway. I feel like everyone would like to be rich, or at least have financial stability and the option to have some luxuries. I would be happy being well-off but not rich. Enough so that I have everything I need and can work for the things I want, but not so much that I become lazy and take things for granted. I have no idea where I would live because although I have done a lot of traveling I feel that there is still so much more for me to see before I can make that decision. Marriage is an option but not a necessity. A deep, committed relationship doesn't need a contract to be meaningful. I don't like kids all that much and I would rather not experience pregnancy and childbirth, but I will probably end up having them anyway due to family pressures and my future partner's wishes. Or as everyone keeps telling me, once I turn 25 I'll suddenly get goo goo eyes whenever I see a baby and start wanting one of my own. Who knows.

Posted by: elphaba2 Aug 15 2009, 03:30 AM

But...but...why do you have to MAKE a baby when there are perfectly good ones laying around all over the place?

Just kidding, I totally get it. People gets the genes itch, wanna pass em on, gotta pass em on. Genes! Immortality that poops and learns your name eventually!

I am not talking about my dream life, whoops.

My dream life involves slowly transitioning from the happy, studenting, concerting, reading, writing whirlwind that I currently am to a more calm, centered, focused "grownup". Who grows blueberries, mint, cilantro and basil (minimum) and zooms around a flat city (so likely Montreal then, or Lower Manhattan/Brooklyn, or, um. what are other (mostly) flat cities?) on a bicycle. Traveling for work to places like Lebanon and Chile and Iceland, being good friends with a succession of broke-ass student types who will sublet my place at the drop of a hat. Writing articles and essays about the brain and pharmacology. Always being able to afford things like rust-colored silk pencil skirts and white fine-mesh fishnet stockings and emerald green garter belts. Coming home at night from a day in a fascinating library or mosque or convent or research hospital to a wonderful human cooking delicious curry for me. Waking up every day to sunlight on my face filtering through tree leaves, being able to zoom off on my bike for an hour or so to deep, deep woods whenever I want. Having superhuman feet that never get blistered or sore or whiny. Writing and receiving letters all the time. OH! and yoga, or capoeira, depending on how awesome/not awesome I feel like making my workouts.

Now. Other than the superhuman feet and the magical sublet-attracting apartment located in an urban center a few miles from deep woods, I bet I can make this happen. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand: GO! biggrin.gif

Posted by: gothictheysay Aug 15 2009, 04:21 AM

I want to be able to write, preferably creatively, as my ideal career. I would make money off of writing and perhaps work for some sort of charitable organization but I wouldn't have to hold any other job . I don't need to be rich, just comfortable, but I would like to travel the world a little. I think I'd probably end up living in America still, probably in a city, although I am not totally averse to the idea of living in a foreign country. My house would be medium-sized, but still have a nice kitchen and hopefully a minimum of 2 bathrooms. I would like to get married, when I'm not so sure, but at some point! smile.gif Children I am pretty iffy on. I am interested in adopting as I don't think my gene-desire trumps my I-have-to-go-through-pregnancy-and-birthing fears. However if, say, my husband really wanted a child with our genes I might relent. One wouldn't hurt that much right?

Also I would like to add the PETS category. I want big fluffy doggies for sure smile.gif

Posted by: voices_in_my_head Aug 15 2009, 08:10 AM

Why didn't I think of pets!?

Well, since It's only 3am and I've got another hour before I leave, I might as well share mine, eh?

Realistic(ish)-dream life: I want to be an author/illustrator, preferably something along the lines of comedy writing - satire books, Joke "how-to" books, ect. I want to live in a small apartment, with my boyfriend. I want a realiable car to get from place to place, and I want an extra room that'll be used for drawing/painting/writing only.

Unrealistic-dream life: Same career, but maybe combined with being a lead voice for social causes and change. I'd like to be well-known enough that people will actually listen to my ideas, but not crazy-celeb famous. Paparazzi ain't my style, yo. I want a really, really huge house with lots of windows, and a room just for my writing. I'd like two-floor guest house in the back - the bottom floor would function as a typical guest house, and the top floor would be my studio. I also want a pool. No children (but, like craziness said, who knows what I'll want in the future.) but a steady boyfriend and MAYBE (mostly for tax benefits) a husband. I'd take my dog, Xena, with me (though, realistically, she wont be alive. I'll get her cloned or something.) and my kitten, and I'd like a BIG aquarium. I'd want to travel a lot and talk to people from all over the world, but would want my permanent home to be somewhere rainy, with tons of trees and flowers and whatnot.

As a side note, when I was younger, I always wanted the top floor of my house to be completely made of plexiglass - just one big room with comfy furniture where you could sit/lay and watch the stars or rain. It's still a cool idea, just probably not a wise one, with hail and whatnot.

Posted by: I_am_the_best Aug 15 2009, 08:46 AM

Ooh this sounds fun.

Ok. Ideally, I would like to be a well respected professor of piano in a conservatoire. One of these semi-old woman who have long hair with flowery clips in it and who look really lovely, with their wrinkles just adding a kind of wisdom. I would live in a small house, not modern at all, just nicely stylized. Very floral. But it has to have one large, empty, plain room with a piano in it, to help focus on listening. Oh and with a huge garden! I wouldn't want to be too rich. I think being rich is a bit embarrassing. Just average I guess: I get by but need my job to support me. I don't know where I'd live. It would depend on which conservatoire I'd like to work at, but I don't know which one that is. Probably not in England, I don't really like England. Eiuther somewhere mid-European, or Israel. I really really want to be happily married with two or three children.

Posted by: Daria Aug 15 2009, 11:53 AM

I want to be financially comfortable- living a life of constant worry about bills getting paid is stressful, however grounding.

I find it really hard to say "oh! Dream house, job, life etc etc" because anything I want is attainable- if it wasn't, I don't see the point in wanting it. When I was much younger, I decided that my dream job was to study octopus, specifically research their behaviour. So I'm currently studying for a BSc in Marine Biology at one of the best, if f****** remote, universities for it.
Here was my dream life 8 years ago when I decided What I Wanted To Do When I Grew Up...

I would be a marine biologist, getting paid to study cephalopodic behaviour both in the field and in captivity. I would go diving a lot, do conservation work with local communities to explain how their behaviour had an effect on the local marine wildlife, and to figure out ways of sustainable fishing. As it would be work through a university, I would also be a lecturer: encouraging students to be passionate about science and to further their career in the field. I wanted to start having children in my mid-thirties after getting a foothold in my career and we would live somewhere not too far from the sea, in the countryside. Old house, big garden- plenty of space for an irish wolfhound to run about in and for visitors to get lost. The house would have to have studio space, a book room (does it sound any less pretentious if I call it a book room rather than a library?) and a good kitchen (with a pantry) where food making went on with people sat around helping.

Bring it up to now, where I have to start making decisions about this kind of stuff, and things have changed somewhat. I have been told by multiple doctors that if I want to have kids, I need to start in five years time. ('Phaba, I'm most definitely one of those people who *needs* to have babies.) The Husband figure will also have a life that will mean compromise between the two of us, and so I don't think that I could be a lecturer. That'll have to wait until I'm older, and can go back to uni to do a PhD. In the meantime, I'm vaguely leaning towards some sort of highschool teacher type thing. Yeah.

Dreams suck.

Posted by: elphaba2 Aug 15 2009, 03:27 PM

Daria, if my genes were half as sexy as yours I'd wanna pass em on too. But I must disagree: dreams do not suck! They are pleasant things to think about that sometimes look like reality, but maybe we should all resolve to start locatin' the dreamy aspects of our waking lives and smashing bottles of champagne over those. Fr'example, I think it is so dope that Lo and Daria are studying exactly what they love doing (and at great locations for it too!)

Plus I just had a great conversation about Cephalopods and Humboldt squids and cuttlefish so GO OCEAN RAWR.

Posted by: LoLo Aug 15 2009, 03:54 PM

QUOTE (craziness @ Aug 14 2009, 08:11 PM) *
Or as everyone keeps telling me, once I turn 25 I'll suddenly get goo goo eyes whenever I see a baby and start wanting one of my own. Who knows.

Dude I'm 30 and still haven't had that happen to me. I say if you don't want children, stand by your convictions and don't have them. Whenever you get in a relationship you could have that talk early on with your partner so that they know how you feel. You can always keep your mind open about it, but perhaps you could compromise and adopt? Sorry I just get kind of uppity on the subject because I've heard the same arguments from people for years.

Also just a quick note that I find interesting, is that in your ideal fantasy life, you see yourself giving into the pressures of the family. I'm not meaning that to sound mean, like it has come out sounding, I just think it's kind of funny. I know when I was thinking about my dream life I kept erasing things that were making fun of myself for having those dreams and had to keep reminding myself that it's an ideal, so what if it sounds silly and outlandish.

Posted by: Daria Aug 15 2009, 04:16 PM

QUOTE (elphaba2 @ Aug 15 2009, 04:27 PM) *
Daria, if my genes were half as sexy as yours I'd wanna pass em on too. But I must disagree: dreams do not suck! They are pleasant things to think about that sometimes look like reality, but maybe we should all resolve to start locatin' the dreamy aspects of our waking lives and smashing bottles of champagne over those. Fr'example, I think it is so dope that Lo and Daria are studying exactly what they love doing (and at great locations for it too!)

Plus I just had a great conversation about Cephalopods and Humboldt squids and cuttlefish so GO OCEAN RAWR.

You're so awesome happy.gif

Posted by: Yannick Aug 15 2009, 07:19 PM

Wooo, okay, here we go.

Jobs? Gross. I don't want to work on a schedule, and I don't want someone telling me what to do. Having enough money to support myself at all times would be nice, so I'd only have to work when I want to. Ideally, something in the science field, maybe chemistry or physics, and like a part time job at CERN or something, so I can just go into the lab when I feel like researching something, and travel the rest of the time. I might just have a job where I don't really have to do anything. Like get a loan from the bank or my parents or something, open a restaurant, hire people to do all my crap for me. ;D Market medicines I created myself (to help people, relax people, whatever, I'm spending hours mucking around in a chem lab tongue.gif). Something. I guess I could write a book. I'd definitely want to live primarily in a college city. Parties and awesome music scenes ftw. Probably up north somewhere, definitely not in Florida. I don't really want a huge house, because I'd probably only be home to sleep and eat. Maybe just a nice apartment, awesomely furnished, with a great kitchen, big windows, nice part of town. Yeah. It'll have a nice bedroom, an office, cool living room, library (ftw), and my own chem lab. Ooooh, that just reminded me of something. I'll upload pics if I remember/when I get home. Like a year ago Eli and I were pretty bored and started making our dream house. We didn't get past the top floor (farm house style with the two attics on the side of a flat roof, which was a huge pool). The attics were fairly intricate pieces of work, so it's kind of hard to describe, so yeah, pics. My side had a lab, library, bedroom, bar, entertainment center, other stuff I can't remember, and a huuuuge hot tub. Can't remember what Eli had. Ohh, and there was an astronomy tower. >_> The floor under that was going to be a huge maze-library. And instead of flooring, it would be glass, because the floor below that was an aquarium. I guess just guest rooms under that. Can't remember how many floors we wanted (didn't get to finish the house sad.gif ). And then a basement, which would be an awesome recreational room, with pool tables, air hockey table, darts, a bar, bean bag chairs, tvs, awesome speakers, a black light, and an unlimited supply of glow sticks. So, that would be my dream house. Maybe in Germany. Or like, same house, lots of cool cities. I don't really want to be rich, I just want enough money to do everything I want to do, with enough money left over to feel secure. Married, yeah, eventually. Children, sure, eventually. Between one and three, depending on the dad. I want a cat and a dog. Oh, and the house will have lots of fridges stocked with Monster. smile.gif

Posted by: Ashbless Aug 15 2009, 07:48 PM

I have always wanted a small house on a lakeside. My dream kitchen would be linked to a eating place with patio door opening on to a garden so that you're not entirely certain where the dining nook ends and garden begins. There should be room for friends, family, music and quiet areas for study or reading. There will be room for bookshelves. It's semi-rural as the cats (no more than 4 promise) could go in and out as they pleased. If there's a dog then a lot of time has been spent training and raising him/her so that he/she is a joy to have around. It's a dog though and if little has never been packed in a purse or around like a child. Friends could drop by and be sure of a hot/cold drink and a welcome.
I'd like a handsome someone to share this who has his own interests and hobbies. He's interested in what I'm up to and will gladly include me in what his current passion is. Doesn't need to be movie star or magazine handsome but does need a few brain cells firing.
I really have no idea what job I'd be doing but here's hoping the coworkers are reasonable, interesting, friendly people. No power mad prima donnas need apply. Not a bully in sight.

That's all that springs to mind immediately.

Posted by: MrTeapot Aug 16 2009, 10:23 AM

As for kids I was very firmly not going to have any, untill I had a thought. With the mentality that if you hang around someone long enough, you end up absorbing their traits into your personality. So I will not have kids until I can dress myself up as a proper pipe-smoking Oxford Don constantly in the Library wing of the mansion. Then I will only have one kid as two would encourage sociability and would ruin the experiment. Hopefully the kid will grow up to be a world famous author and pay off my debt that I would have earned posing as an Oxford Don in a mansion.

My actual dream would be to have an uninhabited island where I can grow food, fish and yet still be able to order stuff from Amazon and steal Wi-Fi from neighbouring settlements.

Posted by: gothictheysay Aug 17 2009, 02:38 AM

Ah Teapot how I love thee smile.gif

re: Dreams: at times very painful, at times very rewarding. We'll figure out how majoring in Comparative Literature ends up for me - I've decided what it's what I want to do, sort of regardless of whether it will guarantee me a job... but dreams are sad sometimes, it's true.

Posted by: MrTeapot Aug 18 2009, 11:40 AM

QUOTE (gothictheysay @ Aug 17 2009, 03:38 AM) *
Ah Teapot how I love thee smile.gif

Let me count the ways...

I'd build a second hut/giant hammock on the island if you wanted to join me.

Posted by: Pixiegoth Aug 21 2009, 12:48 PM

I pretty much have my dream life...apart from losing some dear loved ones along the way....currently life is starting to look rosey and I am eternally grateful for that. And to those of you on here who've helped me get know who you are smile.gif

Posted by: Mata Aug 21 2009, 12:59 PM

Aww *hugs Pixie*

For me... Well, life is pretty good already, but in an ideal world I'd be earning a living as an author and travelling lots. Self-development is what keeps me happy, so I need change and challenge or I get very sad, very quickly.

I'm not fussed about the idea of children either. Lots of us seem to be quite non-childreny on this forum? How odd.

Posted by: Yannick Aug 21 2009, 04:06 PM

Okay, so here's the floor plan for the top floor (well, the two attics and the space inbetween) of our house. My side is on the left, Eli's is on the right.

And, in case that doesn't make sense, it's supposed to look something like this, with the pool being the flat bit in the middle and the thing over it glass windows with a magical button so we can control the tint:

Btw, the circle in my room that you can't really read is a super huge hot tub. biggrin.gif

Posted by: Mata Aug 25 2009, 07:08 PM

Woah... You've clearly put a lot more thought into this than I have!

Posted by: funked)out_frog Aug 26 2009, 02:06 AM

What career do you want to have, and why? no idea, maybe in a couple of years I'll stumble on something I feel like sticking too
What kind of house do you want to have? one with an outdoor bath and lots of big windows, a well and a cellar for my laboratory
Do you want to be rich? comfortable
Where would you live? farm type place. some sort of self sufficient kinda thing on a remote island so as not to get bothered by the zombies
Married? maybe
Children? if i settle down long enough to adopt

Posted by: voices_in_my_head Aug 31 2009, 06:33 PM

I love asking my friends this question - Along the lines of "if we grew up insanely wealthy and had to live together, what would you want our house to be like?"
it always ends up with some pretty ridiculous answers, but it's really fun.

When i asked my friends - we'd each have our own floor of the house, with the bottom floor having the kitchen and living room. In the basement, we'll keep all of our manslaves. smile.gif

When I asked Michael - we'd have a bed that's built into the ground, a circle, and is completely filled with down feathers. And there'd be a diving board that you could climb up to to dive into bed. all of the walls around the bed would be installed with lights and little air-conditioning units. We'd have a switch in the corner of the room that switched (via rotating wall or something) from being messy/innapropriate/ect, to being a really boring bedroom with bibles on all of the tables for whenever our parents visit. biggrin.gif

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