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Posted by: Mata Jul 18 2012, 09:45 PM

A friend just posted on Facebook that she has bought a washing machine for the first time. She is eight months pregnant and married, but buying the washing machine is the thing that felt grown up to her.

I've had a similar-ish thing this week myself - a first kiss in my own house while pretty sober... I think it was the location that did it. Generally the first kiss has been in a bar, at a party, or occasionally at a rented place I'm living, but doing this in my own house felt weirdly different.

What's made you feel grown up recently?

Posted by: Yannick Jul 19 2012, 01:06 AM

Despite starting college, having been in a srs* relationship that's ending somewhat gracelessly, and being able to do most things without parental protest, I haven't had one of those moments yet.

I don't feel older, everyone else just seems younger by comparison. Maybe I should move out or get a job or do something else awfully adult-like.

*srs is intentionally typed like that because it makes me seriousness seem less serious tongue.gif

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Ooh, I actually had a child moment while typing this.

Mom: I have a surprise for you.
Me: Oh yeah?
Mom: Yeah, go get my purse.
Me: *excepts money or something awesome*
Mom: But you have to clean the kitchen...
Me: Yeah yeah.
Mom: *hands me smiley face stickers*
Me: Oh... Thanks Mom...

Posted by: Mata Jul 21 2012, 10:44 PM

I love stickers smile.gif

Anyone else? Or is it just me who is occasionally getting grown up moments?

Posted by: Yannick Jul 22 2012, 12:05 AM

Pretty sure it's just you. Weirdo. tongue.gif

Posted by: Hobbes Jul 22 2012, 10:47 AM

QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 18 2012, 10:45 PM) *
What's made you feel grown up recently?


Pretty much any time that I find myself giving advice on 'grown up' things, like talking about bank accounts, or interest rates, or mortgages, or car insurance, etc. etc. Those moments are definitely "grown up".

Posted by: BigMistake Jul 22 2012, 11:20 AM

I sometimes feel like a grownup because I'm studying, if that makes any sense. Of course most of the times it's cancelled out by the fact that the study in question is about games.

Posted by: CheeseMoose Jul 22 2012, 01:39 PM

Signing things make me feel grownup. Or worse, posting someone else a contract for them to sign.

Posted by: Mata Jul 22 2012, 04:08 PM

Oo, good one. Yes, I sometimes have to sign things now that effect other people's lives, which feels much more grown up than signing something for myself.

Posted by: Witless Jul 23 2012, 03:19 AM

Sending out professional looking invoices does it for me.

Posted by: gothictheysay Jul 23 2012, 03:34 AM

Being trusted to get work done without supervision. Having my new boss sit down with me and talk to me like we're equals. smile.gif

Posted by: Mata Jul 23 2012, 12:41 PM

Ha, yes! I can remember the first time that I was treated like an adult. I went on a holiday with a bunch of juggling friends when I was 17 and they were all in their mid twenties or older, some had kids. I was treated as an equal by grown ups for several days... It was quite weird. It's still strange today sometimes. What's weirder is when I am given authority in a situation over people who I consider more experienced than me, and who are definitely older than me. I've had a 'promotion' so I'm now a line-manger for a small team of lecturers... I wonder if that one will ever stop feeling strange? I think that's something you get used to rather than it going away! smile.gif

Posted by: BigMistake Jul 25 2012, 10:16 PM

QUOTE (Mata @ Jul 23 2012, 02:41 PM) *
I've had a 'promotion' so I'm now a line-mangler


This is what I read o,O

Posted by: Sir Psycho Sexy Jul 27 2012, 09:18 AM

Filling out security clearance forms for several government buildings, MPS, HMPS and the royal households.

Other than that, I'm avoiding it pretty well, still!

Posted by: CheeseMoose Aug 9 2012, 03:12 PM

I bought a carpet for my flat today. An actual real carpet that's going to be delivered and fitted and replace the one that's here now.

I've never felt so much like a grownup.

Posted by: Yannick Aug 9 2012, 07:30 PM

I had to stay awake and play navigator for someone else driving the other night. Fighting every urge to sleep after a day of fun seems rather adult-like.

*edit*

Heh, also went grocery shopping without my mommy.

Butcher: How thick would you like the ham?
Me: Uh, do you have a size reference chart?
Butcher: *shows me the nutrition label*
Me: ... Okay.

Posted by: Pikasyuu Aug 11 2012, 04:41 PM

opening a savings account, saving for a *nice* laptop, and spending my work tips on oxyclean products to make sure this SATAN MADE WHITE POLYESTER SMOCK stays as white as it can. that thing is so evil.

Posted by: BigMistake Aug 11 2012, 11:51 PM

Sometimes I amaze myself by doing very grownup stuff, or well, grownup by my standards. I'm a self-described lazyass gamer, but I spent the greater part of today trying to learn Javascript because I think it'll come in handy some day. I guess that could be considered character development, right? I sure hope so after 126 exercises!

Posted by: elphaba2 Aug 18 2012, 05:10 AM

hello, it has been almost two years since i have been here. is everyone doing well?

The past four years have been an adventure of grown-up stuff like FIND A JOB, feed yourself, acquire pets, get and furnish an apartment and so on. Which is cool! It got terrible a few weeks ago with a lot of bureaucratic immigration things looming at me and feeling generally trapped by my decisions (have to immigrate because job have to job because apartment have to apartment because otherwise homeless etc) rather than excited/fulfilled by them. Which is the worst aspect of grownup-ness, I think, that exhausted malaise from your own decisions weighing on you, obligations, etc.

And then I remembered that I am young and dumb still and get to make dumb decisions like--pick up and go without looking back!--and spent several happy minutes cruising fantasy apartments in any American city that struck my fantasy. (New Orleans wins.) Then today I got stoned and called immigration and figured out Ó travers my inept franšais the forms I needed and sent thum. A good combination, I think, of grown-up and not at all.

Posted by: Hobbes Aug 19 2012, 12:17 PM

QUOTE (elphaba2 @ Aug 18 2012, 06:10 AM) *
Which is the worst aspect of grownup-ness, I think, that exhausted malaise from your own decisions weighing on you, obligations, etc.


True. The biggest difference between childhood and becoming a grown-up (generally speaking) is the taking-on of new obligations and responsibilities. You never realise how carefree life was, until it isn't.

Posted by: Mata Aug 20 2012, 05:48 PM

The trick seems to be to get as many of those things to be as automatic as possible. I don't think about paying the mortgage or most of my bills, and I enjoy my job, so it feels like living for free!

Posted by: BigMistake Aug 22 2012, 08:01 AM

QUOTE (Mata @ Aug 20 2012, 06:48 PM) *
The trick seems to be to get as many of those things to be as automatic as possible. I don't think about paying the mortgage or most of my bills, and I enjoy my job, so it feels like living for free!


You're sounding a little bit more Dutch every day happy.gif

Posted by: Mata Aug 22 2012, 09:30 PM

I overheard some students talking about me last year as I walked off to get on my bike: 'he really suits living in the Netherlands'. I think that was a complement...

Posted by: Yannick Aug 24 2012, 08:25 PM

I overheard my mom telling my grandma that I'm an adult and can go away with my friends for the weekend without her having to worry about it. I mean, my grandma stuck with the "But she's just a child!" response, but it's nice to think that my mom thinks otherwise.

Posted by: voices_in_my_head Oct 24 2012, 12:13 AM

Gah. I haven't been here in awhile...

My life seems constantly full of those moments where I think to myself "Whoah. I'm getting old."

Some of them are due to actual adult like things like buying my own groceries, paying bills, filling out tax forms, finding and maintaining a job, putting myself through school with my own money, so on.

More often, though, it's things like realizing that instead of just texting someone to hang out five minutes beforehand I have to actually make plans in advance (things were a lot easier when all of my friends didn't require full-time jobs.) or realizing that i can no longer stay up until 4am with no consequences the next day. And my sudden inability to drink all day and feel fine in the morning.

(Edit: Suddenly realized how odd reading all of that about myself is when I think that I was 11 when I joined these forums. Christ.)

Posted by: Hobbes Oct 24 2012, 04:19 PM

Big difference between childhood and adulthood:

An envelope comes through the door, printed with my name and address.

Child Me: "Oooooh! I got some post!!! Woweeeee! What possible treasure could this beeeee?!"
Adult Me: "Oh for ****'s sake. Who wants more of my money this time? Who did I forget to pay? Siiiiiighhh..."

Posted by: Yannick Oct 24 2012, 05:06 PM

I actually still get excited when my bank sends me things. "Look, I get things in the mail too! Suck it!"

Posted by: BigMistake Oct 24 2012, 05:22 PM

QUOTE (Hobbes @ Oct 24 2012, 06:19 PM) *
Big difference between childhood and adulthood:

An envelope comes through the door, printed with my name and address.

Child Me: "Oooooh! I got some post!!! Woweeeee! What possible treasure could this beeeee?!"
Adult Me: "Oh for ****'s sake. Who wants more of my money this time? Who did I forget to pay? Siiiiiighhh..."


Does that mean I'm still a child, considering that I still react like that?

Posted by: mooooooooooopo Oct 24 2012, 05:37 PM

The trick is in ignoring the envelopes but still feeling that way about boxes and thick padded envelopes, they seldom betray me by containing bills and other such nasties..

Posted by: BigMistake Oct 24 2012, 06:02 PM

QUOTE (mooooooooooopo @ Oct 24 2012, 07:37 PM) *
The trick is in ignoring the envelopes but still feeling that way about boxes and thick padded envelopes, they seldom betray me by containing bills and other such nasties..


While the ratio bills/shit/games is probably 40/40/20 for me, I always hope its a game (I order pretty much all my games online).

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