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Posted on: Dec 26 2004, 05:08 PM


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QUOTE (MonochromeRainbow @ Dec 8 2004, 01:53 PM)
QUOTE (beleraphon @ Dec 6 2004, 08:38 AM)
A 'cure' someone I know used to stop a firend cutting.

Everytime A cut herself or turned up to uni with a new bandage B would get a scalpel blade and making sure A was watching cut her own skin - but a tiny bit deeper.

Within 2 weeks A couldn't stand to see the pain and harm she was causing B and stopped, cause A realised that cutting didn't make the pain go away, and in fact caused more pain as it hurt her friend.

Rather a drastic measure I know but one that worked in this instance as A was shown in a very very real way that cutting doesn't work and that the pain it causes those round you that you care about and who care about you is bad, as bad as the cuts you make.

Something to think about for any self harmer next time you pick up a razor - think 'who else am I hurting'
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a bit extreme. i can see that it'd work - i try not to at the moment cos i can't bear the thought of my boyfriend knowing, and the look on his face sad.gif because i know he hates even the thought of me doing these things. in the past i've stopped for a while because it was really bothering a friend who'd found out. but it rarely lasts.
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Why doesn't the thought of, "How would I feel if somebody I care about willingly removed him/herself from my life?" ever cross through you peoples' heads? Are you ignoring that this is exactly what you're trying to do, or do you seriously not care? I don't get it. If you care about these people, why are you doing things that you know have a huge chance of making it to where you will never see them again?
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Posted on: Dec 26 2004, 05:05 PM


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QUOTE (depressed lonely crazy person @ Dec 12 2004, 05:41 AM)
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A 'cure' someone I know used to stop a firend cutting.

Everytime A cut herself or turned up to uni with a new bandage B would get a scalpel blade and making sure A was watching cut her own skin - but a tiny bit deeper.

Within 2 weeks A couldn't stand to see the pain and harm she was causing B and stopped, cause A realised that cutting didn't make the pain go away, and in fact caused more pain as it hurt her friend.

Rather a drastic measure I know but one that worked in this instance as A was shown in a very very real way that cutting doesn't work and that the pain it causes those round you that you care about and who care about you is bad, as bad as the cuts you make.

Something to think about for any self harmer next time you pick up a razor - think 'who else am I hurting'



Gee what a fabulous idea. somone isn't having enough emotional problems lets make them feel guilty about the way they deal with them. mad.gif
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Yes, let's do. Why? Because what they are doing is selfish. When a person (willingly) puts his or her life in extreme risk, then he or she is being selfish because if he or she dies then the people who used to care about him or her will be hurt. It's the same thing, and I've often thought of that very solution as a way of preventing my girlfriend from ever self-mutilating again. She stopped because she promised me (I had to call in the middle of "losing my mind crying fits" a couple of times before she got the point) she would. Think of this--what if a stranger put a gun to your friend's head and started pulling on the trigger harder and harder, yet not firing the gun. Would you consider the stranger to be selfish or just in need of help? It's the same thing with self-mutilators, except they're the ones with the gun. They are fooling around with something that is highly valuable to other people without a thought or concern about how it will affect those people. Nothing is accomplished or achieved through self-mutilation, and much is lost.
So yes, feel guilty. Self-mutilators are guilty. If you've got emotional problems, go ahead, tell the world! Nobody has a problem with being supportive to people who are hurting. I know I wouldn't. However, nobody wants to deal with somebody who is being a selfish fool. So choose how you want to be treated--if you want help, then stop running away from it. Everybody knows self-mutilation is pointless. It's a joke.
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