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Hobbes
Posted on: May 23 2017, 10:59 AM


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Sounds like you are - as ever - keeping very busy Mata smile.gif Congratulations on all your news, and good luck with all these latest ventures and adventures!

Embarrassingly, there's not an awful lot for me to report about my own life. Although it's looking like there's going to have to be some changes pretty soon in terms of career, maybe location too.

In Jan 2016, the relationship I had been in for ~4 years came to an end. It wasn't too messy (ish). Nor too unsurprising. But anyway, I've recently entered a rather wonderful new relationship and (because I give romance and my idealistic hopes for love such a priority over everything else in my life) it's making me a happy little Hobbes. Sadly, there is an unfortunate bump in the road approaching... but just gotta' see how we decide to traverse that one.

Everything else stands much the same. Which, in itself, is reason enough to change things.

Hope everyone else is doing well biggrin.gif
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Hobbes
Posted on: May 23 2017, 10:44 AM


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I come by here every couple of years, and always for the same reason that I have dropped by today: because I can't actually remember the date that my mum died. Indeed, it seems that I wrote pretty much the same thing back in 2014. So it's safe to say that not much has changed! I still don't feel too awful about not remembering the date - it means it doesn't 'loom' quite as badly as it maybe could. And the grief side of things is still bloody confusing.

I feel like I've been 'assessing' things a little more over the past year - trying to figure out the effects of it all upon my dad, my sister, etc. but mostly trying to work it all out in relation to myself. I think there's some progress going on - albeit slowly.

And hey, if nothing else, I had a little cry this morning whilst rereading the events that I posted about some twelve years ago. Those tears haven't really appeared since the actual funeral itself, despite constantly feeling like I want them to. It feels good to cry. Not sure why specifically they came this time around; quite possibly just due to having some wonderfully high points going on at the moment, and then some disappointingly stressful ones too. Life's "emotional rollercoaster" and all that!

Regardless, I'm doing okay smile.gif

I know there's very little activity here now, and there's every chance I'm the only person that'll read this (probably in another year wink.gif ), but that's fine with me. I keep meaning to maybe save a copy of it all, just in case something happens and this little corner of the internet disappears. But until I get around to doing that, there is some comfort in knowing that there is somewhere I can go to read what happened back then. The diary I kept at the time seems to lack everything, and I've recently started thinking that a few years' worth of Facebook messages between myself and friends is probably far more revealing than a diary could be. Just a shame there's a lot of dross to trawl through too wink.gif
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Hobbes
Posted on: Aug 27 2014, 12:03 AM


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Every couple of years I have to revisit this thread because, without it, I don't remember many of the details: the dates, certain visits, things that were said. I find it both odd and understandable that my mind seems to block the memories from rising naturally, and it's only by reading what I wrote in this forum that I can imagine the moments again. Not that I especially want to... it is just that sometimes I feel like I need to.

And you know what? I still don't feel like I've properly grieved. I cried when she died, I cried at the funeral. I struggle to recall another time. Even now, reading over the thread again and bringing to mind certain things I'd forgotten about, I certainly feel myself well-up but that is all. I would happily just accept that "people respond to grief differently", if it wasn't for the fact that I always feel like I NEED/WANT to cry. And I mean REALLY cry - of breakdown-proportions.

Next year is 10 years.
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Hobbes
Posted on: Dec 24 2012, 02:11 PM


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Merry Christmas everyone! Hope you all have a good one smile.gif x x
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Hobbes
Posted on: Dec 9 2012, 09:24 AM


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Rose: A day off
Rose: spent listening to music
Rose: comforted by cats, a dog, and a parrot
Thorn: whilst my beloved has to work
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Hobbes
Posted on: Dec 4 2012, 10:08 AM


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Recently I've been playing:

Red Dead Redemption (PS3) - because it never arrived on the PC, but my girlfriend has it on the PS3 so I thought I'd have a blast. It's... not bad, but I think it suffers from having lengthy moments of 'chat' when all you are doing is listening and riding a horse for several minutes. I wonder to what extent that can be called 'gameplay'.

Fallout 3 (PC) - spent a long time playing this a while ago but suddenly stopped for some reason. Now I've begun playing it again from the beginning. Always enjoyable. Always buggy. I'm surprised at some of the stuff I don't remember from the first time around, but a little disappointed with how easy it is to "break" the game (particularly the story).

Hotline Miami (PC) - A friend recommended this to me, mainly due to the soundtrack. It does sound fantastic, it's very brutal, very retro, but lots of fun. I don't think I've ever played another game where I've died so many times, yet continued to try again without feeling frustrated.
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Hobbes
Posted on: Nov 17 2012, 03:09 PM


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Thorn: Working both Saturday and Sunday this weekend, which I hate doing.
Rose: I have five days off work next week. Haven't had that many days off in a row for well over a year.
Rose: Looking forward to it smile.gif
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Hobbes
Posted on: Nov 14 2012, 11:09 PM


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QUOTE (Mata @ Nov 14 2012, 09:32 PM) *
That's a serious bit of l'esprit d'escalier you've got going on there.


Sometimes the best comeback can take some time... like... a year apparently wink.gif
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Posted on: Oct 24 2012, 04:21 PM


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QUOTE (Ashbless @ Oct 23 2012, 04:01 PM) *
http://i.imgur.com/elhau.png

My house on the multiplay server I've joined.


Very nice smile.gif
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Posted on: Oct 24 2012, 04:19 PM


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Big difference between childhood and adulthood:

An envelope comes through the door, printed with my name and address.

Child Me: "Oooooh! I got some post!!! Woweeeee! What possible treasure could this beeeee?!"
Adult Me: "Oh for ****'s sake. Who wants more of my money this time? Who did I forget to pay? Siiiiiighhh..."
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Hobbes
Posted on: Oct 16 2012, 09:16 AM


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QUOTE (Oni Usagi @ Oct 16 2012, 02:38 AM) *
Two of my friends in high school introduced me to the animations specifically Mittens and Snowdrop. Honestly my first thought was "Why are they making me watch an animation about stoned talking cats." Fortunately I hung in there and watched more. Not really sure what made me join the forums, I'd never joined one before and didn't get really into any others since. I know everyone just being silly is what got me interested once I was here.


Yeah, I think when my friend linked me to Mittens and Snowdrop it was with some reference to them being stoned.

I also haven't maintained any kind of forum activity anywhere else except here. I've joined about two or three others with good intentions, but this is the only one I have ever continued to regularly visit or check. I think that is mostly to do with people being a little more open about themselves here (so we therefore feel a stronger connection with one another, perhaps?), and it also not really being a forum about anything specifically. The others forums I've registered with have had a very clear raison d'etre, e.g: about a particular game or game company, about a particularly musician or type of music, etc. Although this forums perhaps exists because of the animations, the actual discussions about the animations themselves isn't the top priority (hell, it's even one of the lower sections in the list).
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Hobbes
Posted on: Oct 4 2012, 02:21 PM


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QUOTE (Pikasyuu @ Sep 30 2012, 12:47 AM) *
The notes feature is fb's idea of a blog, I believe.


Yeah, I know a couple of people that use it like that. But it isn't really shown off very well.
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Hobbes
Posted on: Oct 4 2012, 02:14 PM


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QUOTE (Mata @ Oct 3 2012, 11:11 PM) *
Actually, I think we exchanged emails for several years before I started this place!


Yeah, could well have been. I knew it was a fairly lengthy period of time, but I really couldn't place exactly when it was I first visited Matazone. When did you put the first Mittens animation online? 2001-ish?
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Posted on: Oct 4 2012, 02:07 PM


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There must be a Hobbes character, suuuuuuuurely? wink.gif

I've only played the very first Sims game. I played it A LOT for obscene amounts of time. And then just suddenly stopped and haven't really been overly interested in playing the sequels. They do look pretty good though. I guess I prefer just making a house and decorating it and progressing through a job etc. rather than some of the more "silly" additions that the expansions and sequels have brought. Perhaps I should just buy a dollshouse... huh.gif
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Posted on: Oct 4 2012, 02:04 PM


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QUOTE (Mata @ Oct 4 2012, 11:26 AM) *
.. I do weights for the rest of the film. I've been doing that four or five times a week for the last couple of weeks and feel better for it already.


Pretty much the same as what I did last year. I would put on a DVD and then exercise whilst watching it (weights, sit-ups, press-ups, running on the spot, etc.). It meant that I wasn't going to get bored of doing the exercises because the DVD was keeping me entertained, and also meant that I could keep track of how long I was doing them for, since I was often doing them through three episodes of Friends, or a couple of episodes of Lost wink.gif
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Posted on: Oct 3 2012, 08:38 PM


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I'm certainly unhappy with the way I look, but I also don't really have any great wish to go so far as to be ridiculously super-toned. The necessary work/time/money involved to achieve it, and then maintain it would probably remove any time for doing something fun. However, I would very much like to slimmer and fitter.

And I have done it a couple of times. But not held it for very long.

But yes, I feel some pressure to look different to how I look.
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Posted on: Oct 3 2012, 08:33 PM


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A friend of mine from school sent me a link to a Snowdrop/Mittens animation because we both liked cats and both liked somewhat offbeat humour wink.gif I think it was the only animation on here at the time (perhaps there was one other Mittens animation?), but I watched it several times. I then took a look at the other stuff on the site (photos, art, some short stories I think?) and then decided to email the wonderfully talented creator to just say something along the lines of: "Hey! A friend showed me your Mittens animations. I like them!".

I recall that there were several emails exchanged between myself and Mata before he told me he was setting up a forum and that I should definitely join.

So I did.

Then I didn't visit it for about a year or something... ahem.
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Posted on: Oct 3 2012, 08:28 PM


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Polyamory... I couldn't do it.

Or at least, not in any way beyond something frivolous. And considering I get attached to people fairly quickly, I wouldn't be able to just keep things frivolous.

Whether it is a trust-thing, or a possessive thing, or a jealousy thing, or what, I dunno (or, if I'm honest, probably all of those things). But whilst I can see the attraction, I could not be in a "serious" relationship with more than one person. I would not enjoy any aspect of knowing that my girlfriend was also having similar relations with another person. I just don't feel it is right for me because I need the devotion that is only within a monogamous relationship. Or, to say it in a way that sounds less offensive to people that DO have polyamorous (?) relationships: "I need the devotion that I PERSONALLY CAN ONLY FIND in a monogamous relationship."

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Posted on: Oct 3 2012, 08:20 PM


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I'm a Pisces. I love being a Pisces. I'm proud to be a Pisces.

But...

I think astrology plays no role in character or personality beyond some kind of self-fulfilling prophecy type thing, or matching the sign to single moments and making it bigger than it is.

i.e:

"You're a Scorpio. That means you're stubborn" x 1000000... eventually person will behave as such.

or

[person behaves stubbornly], "Ah, you see, that's because you're a Scorpio".

...

But, like I said, I really love being a Pisces, regardless of my opinion of astrology as a "science".
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Posted on: Oct 1 2012, 06:23 PM


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I think it is considered more "socially acceptable" for a man to be over/underweight, than for a woman. Yes, I am making sweeping statements here, but I'd say that a man's weight is generally less scrutinised than a woman's. At least in terms of general society and the media, etc.

However, I would say that the pressure on men to conform to a particular image is definitely increasing. It's nowhere near the level that women have endured, but it's certainly heading in that direction.
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Posted on: Oct 1 2012, 05:49 PM


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Yeah, where's the "don't really care" option? As far as I'm concerned, as long as there IS toilet paper, I'm happy
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Posted on: Sep 25 2012, 04:19 PM


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Essentially, unless one of the two is actually forward enough to make a significant move, things can "not happen" for quite some time. It's whether either party has the confidence to do it, or is happy to take the risk of potentially being the one that gets shot down.

Out of all those people in our past that we've really rather liked but never said anything outright to, there's probably a decent percentage that could have actually responded positively if we'd gone ahead and said something. But then, most of us just aren't programmed to behave that way.
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Posted on: Sep 25 2012, 09:15 AM


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After a long hiatus, I've started playing Minecraft again. Since I last played there's been quite a few updates, so I've got plenty to discover once again smile.gif

I've still never played multiplayer though.
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Posted on: Sep 25 2012, 09:12 AM


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I think being on the receiving end of flirting can be difficult because you don't necessarily know for sure that the other person is flirting with you. You might think to yourself, "Yep, I've definitely become the object of this person's adoration". And then you step it up a notch yourself and discover that, actually, they were just being friendly and now it's you that's made a fool of yourself.
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Posted on: Aug 26 2012, 11:53 AM


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Last night I dreamt that I was staying at a Centre Parcs holiday village with a group of friends. The house we were staying in was really messy - and we were to blame - but we all just sat amongst the junk in the main room. At one point I walked out into the hallway to discover that the wooden front door was bent slightly: somebody had prised the door open and broken into the house whilst we had been in the other room. To one side I saw the length of wood that I had apparently used to do this.

Although they had broken in, they had not stolen anything at all.
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