How Have You Met Lovers? Options

[Phyllis]

Yup. 1999. I was still in high school!

[gothictheysay]

I seem to use Matazone as a dating website

Totally acceptable, imho.

[Mata]

I can't believe it's been a decade since The Matrix came out!

[Daria]

You know, the third Matrix movie is the only film I have ever seen that has made me walk out of the cinema before it finished. I was that unimpressed.

[Cath Sparrow]

Yup. 1999. I was still in high school!

*mutters something about starting Uni and it not even being straight from school....*

[DarkInferno]

In order... (current to first):

In a pub. (Jokingly ordering her to the other side of the pub because she was far too happy to be on what was the depressed side, I seem to remember there were 4 or 5 people who had broken up with their partners on that day on that side the pub)

We met at college, friends at collage, however we didn't get it together till ~5 years after, turns out we both fancied each other like mad at college but neither of us thought the other fancied them. Met in a club 5 years later and got chatting about the fact we hadn't seen each other for so long, she gave me a lift home at the end of the night, and came in to see my passport because she didn't believe I'd been living in Florida (still friends)

'Tinterwebs. I owned a server in a large *cough*napster style*cough* network. She was the network owner (who lived in Florida).

In a club. she had cool hair, we talked, she took me back to her place! (Mata, it wasn't a really rich purple was it? lol)

In a club, A couple of friends were talking about this girl I had to meet, but she wasn't there that night and I should have a chat with her friends to see if she would be there next week... Turns out she was there, infact she was the person I spoke to, we hit it off straight away, didn't find out till a few weeks later when we were dating that she was the one that my/our friends were referring to.

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

SPS, I also read it as panties, but I know you of old so I didn't think it was my eyes playing tricks :-P

Quiet you.

[sizzlieswix]

Met one when they sold me a chair and umbrella on the beach.
Met another when they came to buy jewelry for someone else.
Met another because I called a number to talk to one friend, but someone else answered.
Met another because I got a flat tire turning around in their driveway.
Met another because we were paired together in a mutual friends' wedding ceremony.

[Mata]

You have definitely won this thread. Those are the most interesting ways of meeting people so far. I'm sure there's a rom com script in that post

[craziness]

I met my current boyfriend because he was a resident adviser in my dorm at college. he saw me running around making trouble for the other RA's and hunted me down because he thought what i was doing was hilarious. we caused a huge scandal by dating each other! it's been about 10 months we've been dating and everything is going well. luckily next year, we won't live in the same dorm (at least not on paper) and that should spare us a lot of headaches. i knew he was a keeper when i showed him matazone and mr. sb was his favorite animation, just like me! he's also one of the only people from my 'normal' life who knows that i post on the boards!

as for other former flames (these can get interesting, since i'm a bit of a flirt and i'm kind of daring):
-i once met someone on the train, and we started talking. we only went out a couple of times, but it makes for a good story.
-another one i met when i was at applebee's (a very sh*tty american chain restaurant) for my friend's bday. he was a sexy waiter and i kept checking him out, and when i left he gave me his #!
-i met one when i was on an exchange program in panama
-i met one at an after-school gingerbread house making party for the Gay-Straight Alliance club in my high school

[Mata]

Why do I never get invited to gingerbread house making parties?

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

Because you never invite us to your gingerbread house making parties.

[Hobbes]

she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

You are a Tunbridge Wellsian?

Mine are as follows:

- I had some lessons in college with her. We were together two years. Never spoke to her again.

- She worked in a cafe next door to my place of work. Buying a hundred things each day from her, just so that I could see her, was not an especially subtle way to express my interest in her - and eventually her employer got us together by not letting her go home until she had spoken to me properly. We were together a couple of months. Didn't speak to her for about two years, and now only rarely.

- My sister was having singing lessons, and booked me two lessons for my birthday. A little over a year of lessons later, my teacher and I got together. We were together for exactly two years, and now avoid each other like the plague except for financial purposes (we are in the process of selling the house we bought together).

- She joined my place of work and, after several twists, turns, problems, situations, heartaches, cry-on-shoulder moments, etc., we got together for about six months (on and off). We are currently somewhere between being "friends" and "together" once more.

Other semi-lover/semi-relationships are scattered here and there between the above, most of which were concocted via t'Internet.

[craziness]

maybe at the next matameet you can all sit around making gingerbread houses, then.

[Mata]

Two years seems to be your limit Hobbes!

Out of interest, how many people still talk to most of their significant-others.

[vicrawr]

Mine broke up with me and then married my best friend. I don't talk to either of them anymore.

[Usurper MrTeapot]

Out of interest, how many people still talk to most of their significant-others.

None, though I am tempted to speak to one purely to see if she is still insane.

[elphaba2]

Cripe, I can't imagine that! Still very good friends with just about everybody (again, not counting the quebecois one-night deals). They are lovely people, and lovely people are so rare that I can't stand voluntarily cutting them out of my life. Then again, it sounds as though the people who you two have stopped speaking with are essentially the opposite of lovely.

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

she invited me to go see the jazz on the Pantiles

You are a Tunbridge Wellsian?

Uh....maybe...

[Daria]

Out of interest, how many people still talk to most of their significant-others.

None, though I am tempted to speak to one purely to see if she is still insane.

Funny thing is, I know that's not me.

And to answer Mata's question: My relationships have broken up in this order: him, me (then me again with the same guy after I realised I hadn't made a mistake and I really didn't want to be with him), and finally him then me. Apart from the first one, which was decidedly ended due to the age difference, the rest have all been because of me. I've found that telling someone you don't want to be with them for whatever reason kind of screws up the chance of a friendship afterwards.

[Usurper MrTeapot]

Just thought of another one. Technically we'd already met but I heard that someone I went out with had attempted suicide and was in Bedlam. I visted, stayed for a while and pretty soon we were hitting it off again. I hooked up in a psychiatric unit...wooyeah!

[vicrawr]

Just thought of another one. Technically we'd already met but I heard that someone I went out with had attempted suicide and was in Bedlam. I visted, stayed for a while and pretty soon we were hitting it off again. I hooked up in a psychiatric unit...wooyeah!

That's my boy!

[Mata]

Aww, now there's a love story to tell the grandchildren!

Despite having had a couple of pretty messy breakups, I know I'd still help any of my ex's if they needed help. It's one of those funny things - no matter what a person has done and all the other things that get in the way, you still love them a bit. Or at least, that's how I feel.

[Witless]

My turn, my turn!

Ok met my first girlfriend while holidaying in spain, it was a holiday romance that continued when we both came back to england for another 18 months!

Second I met through a friend while in a bar, I told my friend she looks cute, my friend then proceeded to march over to said person and say "you see that tall guy there? he thinks your cute."

Third I met through a friend again. This relationship went a little crazy.. far too long a story for this thread.

Fourth was someone I met online when I was 16 and used to chat to close to daily, then we lost touch for a long while, then when we regained contact and met up, stuff happened and we got together "officially".

Fifth was almost entirely online.

Sixth I am with now. I met her through her sister that I was once good friends with.


I am friends with four of the exs listed above, and am in regular contact with two of them. Froggy being one of those and the second on that list.

[Phyllis]

I don't talk to my ex. If I was still living in Oregon, the answer would probably be "I don't talk to my ex, except when he shows up at my door, unannounced."

I hope he has a nice life, but I don't want to be involved in it in any way. I don't love him at all. I'd help him the same amount I would help any random stranger, but beyond that no sir. That way lies madness.

Edit: Hmm, does this post make me sound bitter? I'm honestly not. The relationship was a learning experience, and without it I probably wouldn't be where I am today (I met Lo through my ex, and Lo introduced me to Matazone). I just don't care to have him in my life for about 29,348,394,823 reasons, which are too complex to get into in this thread.