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[Moosh]

I have to say, I am feeling very discriminated against in both of these threads. I shall have to start an equal opportunities thread somewhere...

No-ones stopping you starting your own 'What a Guy looks for in a Guy' thread Polo

[Jonman]

One of two things:

Either

( A ): Someone who will sleep with them.

or

( B ): Someone who they can respect, enjoy spending time with, envisage a future with, and will sleep with them.

We're really that simple. It's either pussy, or pussy and a wedding ring.

[Polocrunch]

No-ones stopping you starting your own 'What a Guy looks for in a Guy' thread Polo

Oh, the dilemma: should I start another pointless thread or should I let rampant bigotry run riot in the forums? Eh, thread overkill would offend my sensibilities more than a thoughtlessly-worded thread title.

[believe]

*Offers Polo a chocolate biscuit to soothe the pain*
/spam

[Usurper MrTeapot]

*Offers Polo a chocolate biscuit to soothe the pain*
/spam

Nah. *offers Polo a gorgeous man too soothe the pain*

[believe]

A gorgeous man bearing chocolate biscuits?

[Polocrunch]

O Believe! Marry me!

[Calantyr]

Great personality. Seriously. Someone you can talk to for hours.
Similar interests, outlook on life, and sense of humour. A sharp mind truly is an incredible turn on.

Looks are of course an issue. Tits, arse, of course we look for these things. It would be false to say otherwise.

I suppose it comes down to what you are looking for. Someone to bang for the night, or someone you genuinely consider spending a large ammount of time with

But regardless, THEY MUST ENJOY A NICE CUP OF TEA!
*nods*

[LoLo]

We're really that simple. It's either pussy, or pussy and a wedding ring.

So blunt, but so refreshing to hear err read.

[sjbbandgeek]

The only advice I can offer is that you should never overdo anything. Some of my biggest turn offs are talking too much, wearing too much makeup, and needing to be an attention whore (that sounded better than needing too musch attention).

[believe]

O Believe! Marry me!

Sure. Do I get the 25 cent plastic ring as proof of devotion?

[PsychWardMike]

Pfft. Believe, I'd shell out the fifty cents for one of the really classy rings for you.

[Polocrunch]

O Believe! Marry me!

Sure. Do I get the 25 cent plastic ring as proof of devotion?

Ugh! No! The marriage is totally off!

[believe]

PsychWardMike: Aw. You say the spiffiest things. *gives his very own snickerdoodle* And you're right! Clearly I deserve better.

Polo: S'okay. Its likely better this way, before you found out I'm a barbarian that doesn't even drink tea.

[Guest_uuu_*]

two cents

you should do it, unsure, not knowing even what you want you should be an assertive woman, you should not be ashamed at all and iff you are wrong just enjoy going through that, you will have learned. But I hope you are on the mark and this is the only time you ever try to pick someone up and all of your days are full of love hereforward. Besides you sort of need to figure out what you are doing and there is no other way to do that but to dive in...swim! swim! swim!

[arachnidoc17]

And, of course, if you're going to talk about equal rights, don't be afraid to cough up half of the dinner bill.

[over_the_aybss]

We're really that simple. It's either pussy, or pussy and a wedding ring.

That may have even to blunt. I may be alone here, but does nobody else find that embbarsingly blunt?

[PsychWardMike]

Deal. With. It.

It's Jonman, he's a mod, he can do that. If you're so thin skinned that you can't deal with pussy (which is decidedly better than many other words for the female anatomy) then mayhaps you shouldn't be on this thread.

And I'm inclined to agree with himm, many times.

[pgrmdave]

I look for a willingness to learn, a desire to explore, and a general open-mindedness about one's world. I've found that most other good traits come from these.

[over_the_aybss]

he's a mod, i didnt even notice

ok, maybe i am a bit thinned skinned its not like were not any better ways to state what he was trying to say

I am not trying to start an agrument

[Mata]

I think the point Jon was making was that men are quite crude in their desires, so used crude words to illustrate it. Rude-nearly-offensive words are generally accpeted on the forums as long as they are being used in the correct context, in this case the context was to emphasise the frequently shallow desires of men. He could have said something else, but that wouldn't have conveyed the point as efficiently.

Equally, change the anatomical structures and the gender and I think Jon's post might be quite accurate for women too.

Like many people here, I look for a person that I can talk with. I also look for sobriety for the start of relationships: to clarify, I will kiss people for the first time while one or both of us are drunk, but I will not have sex with a person for the first time while drunk. I'm not sure why this is, but I think it's largely to do with ensuring complete consensuality. If a person is sober then there's no way that they could claim that their actions were influenced by anything else. It's sad that I've got this hang-up, but it's also pretty sensible too I think.

[snooodlysnoosnoo...]

If a person is sober then there's no way that they could claim that their actions were influenced by anything else. It's sad that I've got this hang-up, but it's also pretty sensible too I think.

I don't think that in itself it is sad that you have the hang up, I think what is sad is that in our society it is a really sensible hang up to have.
Some people will do anything for a bit of publicity and a wadge of cash... it's sick.

[surewhynot]

i dont care about physicle apperence.....as long as they have an opion

This post has been edited by surewhynot: May 12 2005, 03:45 AM

[Mata]

I don't think that in itself it is sad that you have the hang up, I think what is sad is that in our society it is a really sensible hang up to have.
Some people will do anything for a bit of publicity and a wadge of cash... it's sick.

I don't think I'm quite in line for celebrity stalking just yet! Good luck to anyone who's daft enough to think that I've got money!

But seriously, there are some messed up people out there who would rather deny that they did something consenually, albeit while drunk, than admit that they enjoyed themself. I think it's probably a branch of paranoia, but I think it stems from the social situation. To me the accusation of rape is one of the most serious things a person could do. I've had a man be rather more forceful in his approaches to me than I would have liked (and I ended up having to be a little forceful in my rebuttal, nothing happened in the end, but it did give me an insight into how persistent men can be) so I make absolutely sure that anyone I'm doing anything with is completely on the same track. Once you're in a long-term relationship this becomes easier, but if I ever become single again then I'll be back to sober sex!

Surewhynot: does physical appearence not matter to you _at all_? I'd be lying if I said that, as would the majority of people. There have been people in the past who I thought weren't very attractive physically until I got to know them and their personality changed the way I viewed them, and this has gone in the opposite direction too, but physical appearence did make a difference to my first impressions. I've met some very beautiful-looking people who internally were very ugly, and very quickly I did not find them attractive at all!

[Jonman]

I think the point Jon was making was that men are quite crude in their desires, so used crude words to illustrate it. Rude-nearly-offensive words are generally accpeted on the forums as long as they are being used in the correct context, in this case the context was to emphasise the frequently shallow desires of men. He could have said something else, but that wouldn't have conveyed the point as efficiently.

Precisely. Go out in any British city centre of a Friday night. Find a club, and you'll see what I mean. Blokes on the prowl for some action. It's shallow, it's deplorable, but it's the way that alot of the country thinks.

A lot. I mean, when you meet someone you're interested in, that interest is often largely driven by the desire to see the insides of their clothes. That is what pulls people together. Once you're together, you then start thinking about the future, and marriage etc. The first time you meet someone that you're interested in, do you think "I'm going to marry this person", or do you think "I'm going to shag this person".

The former is a frankly scary thought on a first date. The latter is ordinary.

Don't get me wrong, my wife means the world to me, but it took me 8 months to decide I was going to marry her. By contrast, it was a matter of hours before I decided that I'd like to sleep with her.