What A Guy Likes To See In A Girl Options

[Paranoid]

Blunt, yes; honest, definitely.

I don't mean to sound insulting but it's a bit naive to not realise the mindset of the majority of people, male or not. Do you think those groups of women out in the clubs with miniskirts and knee high boots are looking for a life partner? Actually, considering the stupidity of most of them, they probably are and think that's the way they'll find one.

Back on the subject of what people look for; I like women who i 'click' with, in film/musical tastes, in intelligence and, um, randomness, I guess.

I actually showed my present girlfriend a bunch of matazone stuff and her liking them showed me she had a similar sense of humour to me.

[snooodlysnoosnoo...]

I mean, when you meet someone you're interested in, that interest is often largely driven by the desire to see the insides of their clothes.

So we should all walk around with our clothes on inside out??

/spam

[Jonman]

I mean, when you meet someone you're interested in, that interest is often largely driven by the desire to see the insides of their clothes.

So we should all walk around with our clothes on inside out??

/spam

It would save everyone a helluva lot of time and effort, eh?

[Paranoid]

Genius. Pure genius.

[surewhynot]

I don't think that in itself it is sad that you have the hang up, I think what is sad is that in our society it is a really sensible hang up to have.
Some people will do anything for a bit of publicity and a wadge of cash... it's sick.

I don't think I'm quite in line for celebrity stalking just yet! Good luck to anyone who's daft enough to think that I've got money!

But seriously, there are some messed up people out there who would rather deny that they did something consenually, albeit while drunk, than admit that they enjoyed themself. I think it's probably a branch of paranoia, but I think it stems from the social situation. To me the accusation of rape is one of the most serious things a person could do. I've had a man be rather more forceful in his approaches to me than I would have liked (and I ended up having to be a little forceful in my rebuttal, nothing happened in the end, but it did give me an insight into how persistent men can be) so I make absolutely sure that anyone I'm doing anything with is completely on the same track. Once you're in a long-term relationship this becomes easier, but if I ever become single again then I'll be back to sober sex!

Surewhynot: does physical appearence not matter to you _at all_? I'd be lying if I said that, as would the majority of people. There have been people in the past who I thought weren't very attractive physically until I got to know them and their personality changed the way I viewed them, and this has gone in the opposite direction too, but physical appearence did make a difference to my first impressions. I've met some very beautiful-looking people who internally were very ugly, and very quickly I did not find them attractive at all!

first i would like to thank you for being the first one to reply to me. well i mean mostly i like their brains but if they dont have a brain then i will decide which way to go

[Mata]

No problem.

I think that we're generally agreed on here that you've got to have a personality match to find a person genuinely attractive, but as others have pointed out, there is a big difference for many people between 'genuinely attractive' and 'lust worthy'.

[Tom]

I look for personality most.Because you dont want to go out with a guy if he doesnt have a good personality.Also i like for sencetivity,kindness and their mates.Or the other way is just let him make the first move.Leave it for a few days and study his actions(just make sure he doesnt think you watching him like a frosen ice man! )Try to find out his likes and dislikes.And when you think the time is right just ask him.

[lebigcheeseneit!]

Why don't you just ask him flat out? "Let's date. Come on. It'll be fun." All it takes is some courage.

tried that. didnt work.


ah, crap.

[Mata]

Well, then it was a learning experience. Yes, it's annoying when that happens, but I've had it a few times as has pretty much everyone. On the bright side, it's better to have things happen this way than to find out that it's not right 18 months later and heartbreak could have been avoided if only he'd said something sooner.

[Faerieryn]

What I look for in a guy? Hmm. Up until recently I would have posted that I look for guys with a sense of humour similar to mine, who can cope with my occasional paranoia burbles, that enjoy similar music to me and read quite a bit. I could never date anyone who was intellectually inferior to me (tried it- bloke didn't know who Bagpuss was!!!) That is what I would look for in a guy. What I actually ended up with were blokes who screwed me over both majorly and minorly. PLaying with my emotions etc and at one point pretty much just using me. It was only when I stopped looking and resigned myself to lonely, depressed singledom that I tripped over the guy who had been there for the majority of my adult life. Neither of us had planned anything to happen and neither of us were expecting anything. I'm now the happiest I have EVER been and can't believe I didn't see how amazing he is before hand.

What people want and what people get don't always add up. I looked for what I wanted and got something totally different that messed up my life. I stopped looking and my tick list got sorted without even realising it!

Love you babe (sorry sickening spam!!!)

[Jonman]

I stopped looking and my tick list got sorted without even realising it!

Funny how that happens innit - happened to me too.

[Pab]

Me too. Funny. Hilarious. In fact, I'm beginning to see a pattern forming.

[Feyliya]

Why don't you just ask him flat out? "Let's date. Come on. It'll be fun." All it takes is some courage.

I did that once, too. Turned out he was gay. He's still my best friend, though, and our relationship hasn't changed any at all. I vote go for it and hope for the best.

(Also, what do you think about that kinda 'rule' that only guys can make the first move? Or is that just completely stupid?)

Oh yes, deffinitely the stupidest unwritten rule ever, and I've enjoyed breaking it frequently! Randy might have said "I love you" first, but I beat him to popping the question!

And, of course, if you're going to talk about equal rights, don't be afraid to cough up half of the dinner bill.

I always have. I've even paid for the entire thing before when my date has been broke and I've wanted to go out, or didn't want to do what I wanted to do.

I stopped looking and my tick list got sorted without even realising it!

Funny how that happens innit - happened to me too.

Me four! Amazing, isn't it?

Wow, I think I've doubled the ammount of quotes I've done in the past year, all in one post!

[PsychWardMike]

I've come up with a new test for my significant other. If they understand my avatar and the caption under it, they automatically win big points.

...sadly my girlfriend has understood none of them and doesn't even understand my obsession with Matazone!

[Faerieryn]

I've come up with a new test for my significant other.  If they understand my avatar and the caption under it, they automatically win big points.

...sadly my girlfriend has understood none of them and doesn't even understand my obsession with Matazone! 

Mike does ANYONE understand your avatar? Even you?

[elphaba2]

Oooh, I want Mike Points!
the image is General Pepper, and the caption refers to Sergent Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band, which is by the Beatles

[PsychWardMike]

Of course I do! If anyone asks, I'll be happy to explain

[trunks_girl26]

Actually, I understood his AV completely.......

[Faerieryn]

Of course I do!  If anyone asks, I'll be happy to explain

Explain!!! I get the Sgt Peppers ref but I don't understand the picture... Unless I can't really see it properly or summat

[PsychWardMike]

Well, the doggy character in my picture's name is General Pepper and he's from the Starfox fame. Since he is a General he doesn't need a Lonely Hearts Club Band. Hence the caption underneath it.

Woo!

[elphaba2]

Note the small, small type underneath my post. I was serious about my need for Mike points--I hear they are exchangeable for very good books at some less-than-reputable locations.

[PsychWardMike]

Points for elphaba! Redeemable at all sorts of places everywhere they're taken!

[neo111]

No more silence

BREAKING NEWS FROM THE MENS MOVEMENT


In a staggering and deeply symbolic move, thousands of ex feminists all over the world have come out of the closet today and declared their intent to "get in touch with their masculine side."

Led by the charasmatic ex-feminist, Miss I Lovemen, the anti-feminist group, "Birds Against Lieing Lesbian Statistics" (B.*.L.L.S) Issued the following statement.

"It is time for women everwhere to get in touch with their masculine side.

As people who have done this ourselves we recommend this action to women all over the world. For us, it has been the single most liberating experience we have ever encountered. The benefits felt by this action are listed below and combined, they have enabled us to feel like whole humans beings for the first time in our lives. We cannot over emphasize how fabulous this has made us all feel. Gone is the need to b*tch and whine constantly. Gone is the need to lie and turn on crocodile tears whenever we cannot have our own way. Gone is the hateful need for revenge whenever we feel put upon by anyone. Gone is the need to feed our egos constantly by pointless and expensive shopping trips. Also gone is the need to blame men for everything. We now have the guts and moral fibre to accept responcibility for our own mistakes and be honest enough to admit them."

When this statement was received by mens groups all over the world the excitement generated was akin to that felt when the old porno pictures of Germain Greer were discovered on the Internet.

Below is the list of benefits said to have been experienced by thousands of women who have adopted the masculine principles of the ladies from B.*.L.L.S.

• Sports are no longer seen as the enemy of women.

• No need to feel insecure because men need time away from women.

• No longer feel so self obsessed.

• selfishness is dieing.

• Addiction to chocolate fadeing away.

• Able to face up to and admit our own faults.

• The need to use children as weapons in arguments has diminished.

• Extra strength to face up to difficult matters alone, without the need to run home to mummy everyday.

• No resentment felt over the ownership of the TV remote.

• Realising that men as fathers are equally important.

• Loss of obsessions such as, constantly wanting men to change into females. Not worrying about the position of the toilet seat. Preventing little boys developing into men by allowing them to play with toy guns and climb trees. Losing fear of competition. Realising that when little boys come home dirty and covered in mud they are NOT commiting crimes against humanity.

• Love of the truth.

• Capacity for exaggeration diminishing.

• No longer feel the need to bring every mistake ever made by our partners into every argument.

• The powerful need to manipulate and use sex as a bargaining tool diminishing.

• Understanding that "Girl power" is a myth and the Spice Girls are cr*p role models for young girls.

• Understanding that hating men does not empower women but actually diminishes them.

• Loss of fear of cooperation with males.

• Loss of fear of getting underneath cars to change oil.

• Realising that we are 100 times biger than spiders and that a fear of them is foolish.

• No more worries about the size of our bums in that dress.

• Growing ability to accept criticism.

• Rejection of the gay belief that "real men" look better in earings, dresses and by wearing their wifes underwear.

• Realising that Victoria Beckham is slightly nuts.

• Realising that David Beckham is slightly nuts.

• Understanding that men are turned on by stimulus to their visual cortext and that asking us to dress up for bed is not a perversion.

• Understanding that "equal rights" means "equal responcibilities."

• Understanding that the acceptance of being wrong sometimes does not diminish us as women but creates character.

• Lessening of the need to use guilt as a weapon.

• Realising that Germain Greer is a screwed up lunatic.

• Realising that feminism is a manipulative cult as dangerous as "The Moonies" and full of bitter liars, with a mile wide chip on their shoulders, who have a radical hatred of all things male.

• Understanding that the BBC no longer tells the truth.

• Growing understanding that gossip is usually 98% false and is not the gospel truth.

• Gradual understanding that soap operas are NOT real.

• Gradual understanding that women are just as capable of violence as men

• Understanding that men are NOT the enemy but that feminism IS the enemy.

• Diminishing of greed.

• Understanding that PC is the most stupid of philiosophies ever devised and totally rejecting it.

• Realising that people who sell us "dream catchers", crystals, feng shui, (?) or any other such mystic cr*p are using our natural gullibility against us.

• Realising that flower arranging is NOT a sport.

• Realising that voting for someone because we like the way he/she dresses/looks is astoundingly irresponcible.

• Realising that sexism goes BOTH ways.

• Understanding that sleeping with famous men and then writing, "Kiss and tell books" does NOT make women powerful, it just makes women less trustworthy.

• Realising that a false rape allegation is as serious a crime as rape itself and deserves equal punishment.

• Realising that a false abuse allegation is abusive!

• Understanding that because men do not wish to engage in unending and pointless verbal spewing they are not repressed, but are actually much wiser than those who indulge in such constant opinionated self expression.

• Understanding that "experts" are often totally wrong.

• Realising that because you know what a tool is for and what it is called does not automatically mean you have the skill to use it.

"These are just a few of the benefits us women can find by getting in touch with our masculine side." Said Miss Lovemen.

This press release is forwarded by the good men at No More Silence


I Just thought that this list of what (real) men hate may help!

[oscarhilton]

I have started this thread for two reasons:
a) I felt that we needed a corresponding thread to the 'would like to know what a girl likes to see in a girl' thread.
b ) I have a huge crush on my boy mate and don't know what to do because I'm scared to ruin the friendship. I also don't know if he likes me in that way, sometimes I see him just staring at me then he looks away when I look his way. But it's not as if I'm pretty. He's just a really kind, friendly person, and very huggable.

So yeah, what does a guy see in a girl and how can I try and move the friendship further?

The person's name dosen't start with "F" does it?

sorry spam...

[I_am_the_best]

No, Oscar. Unfortunately not. I will never even be friends with Freddie.