 Telling Someone I Won't Go Out With Him, Any nice way to do it? |
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 Jan 27 2007, 08:31 PM
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 Germany > Spain...  Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female  |
Well, today was a pretty boring day until about half an hour ago. I was outside by myself, which is pretty odd. My friend Eli was at his grandparent's house, and my friend Steph was sleeping. So, I'm just walking around, kick a peice of palm tree bark, and then this boy I know from school called Carlos comes up from behind. He said hi, and I said that I had no clue he lived in my neighborhood. Then we sit down and talk. I've never really considered Carlos a friend or anything. He sits at a lunch table near us (us being my group of friends and me) and occaisonly comes over to say hi.
So, Carlos starts saying things, but starts them all off with "hypothetically speaking". And then he gets around to "hypothetically speaking, if I were to ask you out right now, what would you say". I told him I don't know him that well, so that I'd *probablly* say no. In my mind, I'm thinking that there is no way I'd go out with him. He's the complete and total oppisite of the people I like. I mean, he's really nice and stuff.. and always gives people compliments.. and just like, the perfect gentleman, but I just don't like him. So he keeps talking. And talking. And more hypothetical questions. And then, to my great releif, his mom comes out of no where and sarts yelling at him for leaving the house without permission. So he winks at me, and then says bye and that he'll see me either tomorrow or at school on Monday. And so there's a good chance he'll ask me again, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. If I say no, he'll ask why. And I can't think of any nice reason why I won't. "Because, well, I'm not even 1% attracted to you, and don't even know you" seems a bit harsh, but it's the truth. So... is there any, whatsoever, nice way to tell someone no? 
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Jan 27 2007, 11:24 PM
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 Wait for the uprising Group: Established Members Posts: 3,177 Joined: 7-April 05 From: In a cave in Scotland Member No.: 1,735 Gender: Female |
"Thre simple words. I Am Gay".
Perhaps Homer Simpson isn't the best person to get advice from... You could just say that you don't feel you are yet ready for a relationship- if he asks why, you can't really give any reasons, just that you aren't yet ready. -------------------- We are unraveling our navels so that we may ingest the sun. DARIA IZ GOOD ON TOAST TOAST IZ GOOD ON DARIA |
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Jan 27 2007, 11:37 PM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
I think we'll save the "I am gay" thing as a last option.
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Jan 27 2007, 11:38 PM
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 dream to make believe Group: Established Members Posts: 2,522 Joined: 12-January 04 From: England Member No.: 863 Gender: Female |
I say tell him the truth - he's not your type.
He can't really take offence at it, you're not saying he smells or anything. -------------------- |
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Jan 27 2007, 11:45 PM
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 Carcinogenic Donkey Group: Established Members Posts: 249 Joined: 21-February 05 Member No.: 1,656 Gender: Male |
SMASH HIS BRAINS IN!
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Jan 28 2007, 01:15 PM
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 Has been kidnapped by gerbils and forced to post on here repeatedly Group: Established Members Posts: 1,088 Joined: 18-September 03 From: London Member No.: 606 Gender: Female |
QUOTE (snoo @ Jan 27 2007, 11:38 PM)  I say tell him the truth - he's not your type. He can't really take offence at it, you're not saying he smells or anything. alternatively, you could tell him he smells! -------------------- Kung fu fighting from 25th April 2010
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Jan 28 2007, 01:34 PM
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 I plug directly into my computer Group: Established Members Posts: 3,640 Joined: 18-November 04 From: Manchester Member No.: 1,488 Gender: Male |
Arrange for him to be framed so he looks like he was gonna drown some baby kittens. Then just say "No, because you drown baby kittens."
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Jan 28 2007, 01:39 PM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
Okay, okay, I know what I'm going to do! "Carlos, I won't go out with you because you're a kitten killing *slight giggle* moron who smells. Sorry, but I'm not into guys like that. Or guys at all for that matter. Remember, if you tell anyone I'm gay, I'll smash your brains in. *holds up ginormous rock*"
This could totally work. 
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Jan 28 2007, 01:47 PM
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 x.Faeries Do It Better.x Group: Established Members Posts: 174 Joined: 9-November 05 From: The Mad Hatters Tea Party Member No.: 2,101 Gender: Female |
^^ You know, I completely approve of you saying that to him!!! Can you just imagine the look on his face?! It's a sure way to know he won't ask you out again!
 Seriously though, just casually tell him that he's not your type. -------------------- *~*Megsy*~* The Ickle Adoptee of Smiler Yarr! SMILE! :D You've Just Been SPANGLED!!! ***Ryn's leiutenant Spangler Yay!*** I'm Rad You're Rad - LETS HUG!!! You Don't Need The Sun To Make You Shine Her LiveJournal ~ & ~ Her Myspazz |
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Jan 28 2007, 01:50 PM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
Aww, but casually telling him he's not my type is no fun. This could be used as a warning to tell other.. uglyish (sorry, but it's true) people I don't like to stay away too!
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Jan 28 2007, 01:53 PM
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x.Faeries Do It Better.x Group: Established Members Posts: 174 Joined: 9-November 05 From: The Mad Hatters Tea Party Member No.: 2,101 Gender: Female |
You could always say you bought him a present and hand him a big wet sloppy tuna fish/random object of your choice that will equally have the same effect of scaring him off.
And then smile sweetly and be like "Okay, now what was it you wanted to ask me?" Then giggle as he backs away slowly before breaking into a run hehe. -------------------- *~*Megsy*~* The Ickle Adoptee of Smiler Yarr! SMILE! :D You've Just Been SPANGLED!!! ***Ryn's leiutenant Spangler Yay!*** I'm Rad You're Rad - LETS HUG!!! You Don't Need The Sun To Make You Shine Her LiveJournal ~ & ~ Her Myspazz |
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Jan 28 2007, 01:58 PM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
QUOTE (Stardust_Smile @ Jan 28 2007, 08:53 AM) You could always say you bought him a present and hand him a big wet sloppy tuna fish/random object of your choice that will equally have the same effect of scaring him off. Oohh.. That made me think of a date. Valentine's day!!! I think we're all having a bit too much fun with this topic. Poor Carlos.
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Jan 28 2007, 01:59 PM
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x.Faeries Do It Better.x Group: Established Members Posts: 174 Joined: 9-November 05 From: The Mad Hatters Tea Party Member No.: 2,101 Gender: Female |
Let's just hope he doesn't stalk you over the internet and is reading this topic right now...Eeep!
-------------------- *~*Megsy*~* The Ickle Adoptee of Smiler Yarr! SMILE! :D You've Just Been SPANGLED!!! ***Ryn's leiutenant Spangler Yay!*** I'm Rad You're Rad - LETS HUG!!! You Don't Need The Sun To Make You Shine Her LiveJournal ~ & ~ Her Myspazz |
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Jan 28 2007, 02:11 PM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
QUOTE (Stardust_Smile @ Jan 28 2007, 08:59 AM) Let's just hope he doesn't stalk you over the internet and is reading this topic right now...Eeep! *eyetwitch* Well, it says there are no guests on this page. *wipes sweat off forehead* Unless.. ZOMG, Carlos is Snoo! Seriously, though, it doesn't sound like him to stalk. *Is never ever mentioning Matazone at school* -------------------- |
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Jan 29 2007, 06:32 PM
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 Flash Gordon Wannabe Group: Established Members Posts: 504 Joined: 31-August 05 Member No.: 1,984 Gender: Male |
Truth all the way, If you lie about it this guy is just gonna keep coming back and the lie gets more and more elaborate and you end up really hurting his feelings.
Alternatively, Kill him and eat his brains. Zombies do that and they never get asked out. -------------------- I like your house... can I come in!
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Feb 6 2007, 01:43 AM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
Right... well he came up to me at lunch today and said "Hey, remember that convo we had before my mom came and busted me for being outside, well, we have to finish it sometime". We settled on the library tomorrow morning. Depending on how I feel, I'll either do it the nice way, or the I'm gay, you smell, prepare to get your brains smashed out and eaten by a zombie way. My friends are hoping for the second one, and we're bringing my video camera along for a good laugh in case I decide to do it.
I don't want to seem mean though... -------------------- |
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Feb 6 2007, 07:12 PM
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x.Faeries Do It Better.x Group: Established Members Posts: 174 Joined: 9-November 05 From: The Mad Hatters Tea Party Member No.: 2,101 Gender: Female |
QUOTE (Izzy @ Feb 6 2007, 01:43 AM) Depending on how I feel, I'll either do it the nice way, or the I'm gay, you smell, prepare to get your brains smashed out and eaten by a zombie way. Don't forget the wet sloppy tuna fish!!!! Seriously though, you'll be fine *hugs you* -------------------- *~*Megsy*~* The Ickle Adoptee of Smiler Yarr! SMILE! :D You've Just Been SPANGLED!!! ***Ryn's leiutenant Spangler Yay!*** I'm Rad You're Rad - LETS HUG!!! You Don't Need The Sun To Make You Shine Her LiveJournal ~ & ~ Her Myspazz |
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Feb 6 2007, 11:31 PM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
QUOTE (Stardust_Smile @ Feb 6 2007, 02:12 PM) QUOTE (Izzy @ Feb 6 2007, 01:43 AM) Depending on how I feel, I'll either do it the nice way, or the I'm gay, you smell, prepare to get your brains smashed out and eaten by a zombie way. Don't forget the wet sloppy tuna fish!!!! Seriously though, you'll be fine *hugs you* I didn't!!! It's still sitting in my lunch box. *hugs back* He didn't show up, which made me happy. Because my camera battery died on the way to school. *charges it* Shall try again tomorrow! -------------------- |
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Feb 7 2007, 05:07 AM
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 I'm an inefficient bear. Maul. Group: Established Members Posts: 1,968 Joined: 21-June 03 From: carlinville illinois Member No.: 408 Gender: Female |
if you do the zombie mesure... i demand youtube.
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Feb 7 2007, 12:51 PM
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Wait for the uprising Group: Established Members Posts: 3,177 Joined: 7-April 05 From: In a cave in Scotland Member No.: 1,735 Gender: Female |
A friend once gave me this advice:
"Your shed's on fire." It is a perfect thing to say if you just want to confuse someone. Give them a wink and a knowing look, as well. The said friend had lived on a small island his entire life (no, NOT mainland GB) and is a little... odd. -------------------- We are unraveling our navels so that we may ingest the sun. DARIA IZ GOOD ON TOAST TOAST IZ GOOD ON DARIA |
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Feb 7 2007, 08:35 PM
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 9 Year Old Prodigy Group: Established Members Posts: 36 Joined: 7-February 07 From: kentucky Member No.: 3,155 Gender: Female |
You can tell him that you just want to be friends, or tell him that there's this guy on your mind (mabye your x-boyfriend) and say you're not ready to date again yet?
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Feb 8 2007, 12:03 AM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
QUOTE (monkey_called_narth @ Feb 7 2007, 12:07 AM) if you do the zombie mesure... i demand youtube. What's the point of filming it if it's not going on YouTube?  I was this *makes an inch with her finger* close to getting my camera confiscated today...  But my friend hid it in her shirt and the teacher took my hat instead. T_T I miss my hat.I think Carlos is mad at me for something. No clue what it is. He was actually on the school bus today (I think he goes to some sort of karate after school), and I was waiting for Steph to get on the bus, and Carlos was coming on so I'm like "Eli, quick, sit next to me!" and Carlos was all like "Hurry up, will you. I want to get to my seat". And then when we were getting of he was all like.. being a meany pants. -------------------- |
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Feb 10 2007, 12:08 AM
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Flash Gordon Wannabe Group: Established Members Posts: 504 Joined: 31-August 05 Member No.: 1,984 Gender: Male |
He has probably picked up on the fact that you are not interested, But in true courtship style will not admit this to himself until he hears it from you. Put this guy out of his misery (no I dont mean kill him) let him down, gently or mean is up to you, but just know that what you are doing to him now is twice as mean as filming him and putting it on youtube. have you also considered that he might have done his homework and know that you post here?
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Feb 10 2007, 12:14 AM
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Germany > Spain... Group: Established Members Posts: 2,255 Joined: 7-January 06 From: Orlando Member No.: 2,184 Gender: Female |
Considered it. Don't think he does. Unless he's one really freaky stalker. 'Cause every one of my friends (excluding Eli and Steph) have no freaking clue what Matazone is, until I say 'That place with the really cool animations!' Then they say oh, and change the topic.
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Feb 10 2007, 05:36 PM
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x.Faeries Do It Better.x Group: Established Members Posts: 174 Joined: 9-November 05 From: The Mad Hatters Tea Party Member No.: 2,101 Gender: Female |
That would actually be rather scary if he found out what forums you were on and casually lurked on them...*hopes he's not one of the guests*
Do people actually e-stalk other people these days? 
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