What A Guy Likes To See In A Girl Options

[I_am_the_best]

I have started this thread for two reasons:
a) I felt that we needed a corresponding thread to the 'would like to know what a girl likes to see in a girl' thread.
b ) I have a huge crush on my boy mate and don't know what to do because I'm scared to ruin the friendship. I also don't know if he likes me in that way, sometimes I see him just staring at me then he looks away when I look his way. But it's not as if I'm pretty. He's just a really kind, friendly person, and very huggable.

So yeah, what does a guy see in a girl and how can I try and move the friendship further?

[Mata]

I think the point Jon was making was that men are quite crude in their desires, so used crude words to illustrate it. Rude-nearly-offensive words are generally accpeted on the forums as long as they are being used in the correct context, in this case the context was to emphasise the frequently shallow desires of men. He could have said something else, but that wouldn't have conveyed the point as efficiently.

Equally, change the anatomical structures and the gender and I think Jon's post might be quite accurate for women too.

Like many people here, I look for a person that I can talk with. I also look for sobriety for the start of relationships: to clarify, I will kiss people for the first time while one or both of us are drunk, but I will not have sex with a person for the first time while drunk. I'm not sure why this is, but I think it's largely to do with ensuring complete consensuality. If a person is sober then there's no way that they could claim that their actions were influenced by anything else. It's sad that I've got this hang-up, but it's also pretty sensible too I think.

[snooodlysnoosnoo...]

If a person is sober then there's no way that they could claim that their actions were influenced by anything else. It's sad that I've got this hang-up, but it's also pretty sensible too I think.

I don't think that in itself it is sad that you have the hang up, I think what is sad is that in our society it is a really sensible hang up to have.
Some people will do anything for a bit of publicity and a wadge of cash... it's sick.

[Mata]

I don't think that in itself it is sad that you have the hang up, I think what is sad is that in our society it is a really sensible hang up to have.
Some people will do anything for a bit of publicity and a wadge of cash... it's sick.

I don't think I'm quite in line for celebrity stalking just yet! Good luck to anyone who's daft enough to think that I've got money!

But seriously, there are some messed up people out there who would rather deny that they did something consenually, albeit while drunk, than admit that they enjoyed themself. I think it's probably a branch of paranoia, but I think it stems from the social situation. To me the accusation of rape is one of the most serious things a person could do. I've had a man be rather more forceful in his approaches to me than I would have liked (and I ended up having to be a little forceful in my rebuttal, nothing happened in the end, but it did give me an insight into how persistent men can be) so I make absolutely sure that anyone I'm doing anything with is completely on the same track. Once you're in a long-term relationship this becomes easier, but if I ever become single again then I'll be back to sober sex!

Surewhynot: does physical appearence not matter to you _at all_? I'd be lying if I said that, as would the majority of people. There have been people in the past who I thought weren't very attractive physically until I got to know them and their personality changed the way I viewed them, and this has gone in the opposite direction too, but physical appearence did make a difference to my first impressions. I've met some very beautiful-looking people who internally were very ugly, and very quickly I did not find them attractive at all!