What A Guy Likes To See In A Girl Options

[I_am_the_best]

I have started this thread for two reasons:
a) I felt that we needed a corresponding thread to the 'would like to know what a girl likes to see in a girl' thread.
b ) I have a huge crush on my boy mate and don't know what to do because I'm scared to ruin the friendship. I also don't know if he likes me in that way, sometimes I see him just staring at me then he looks away when I look his way. But it's not as if I'm pretty. He's just a really kind, friendly person, and very huggable.

So yeah, what does a guy see in a girl and how can I try and move the friendship further?

[Righteous]

I still know jack about relationships, but I'll try.

I don't really have a set rubric when it comes to chicks. I have my own concept of attractive and it has a wide range of things. When it comes to personality, I'd like a chick who's kind, intelligent, has a sense of humor, appreciates art in it's many forms, doesn't mind that I smoke (I actually wouldn't mind a chick who smokes), can hang out, won't try to change me, appreciates my music, is spiritual, understands I need alone time.

A lot of guys have similar tastes in women, often the big ones being kindness, intelligence, humor, appreciation of his music (or whatever) and understanding alone time.

Why don't you just ask him flat out? "Let's date. Come on. It'll be fun." All it takes is some courage.

[PsychWardMike]

Alright, I can tell you what I dig in a chick.

1) Good musical tastes. Music says a lot about girls - if they're really into Jessica Simpson or those kind of people, I tend to find their substance overall lacking. However, if a girl were to listen to... jazz or Mozart, that shows a lot of class and depth in personality. That doesn't mean that one can't enjoy pop or rap - having a good time is equally important - but as much as I hate to admit it, style and substance need to work hand in hand.

2) Mind. Simple - if I can't have a conversation with you, I won't bother with a relationship. Period.

3) Spirit - this isn't a must, but a similar belief system tends to make a relationship easier.

4) Body. I won't lie to you; guys notice if a girl has a particularly nice set of tits. It's a fact of life. Sure, we're pigs and all that jazz, but it's true. It's not extremely high on the list, but it's true.

5) Similar interests. Yeah, this kind of goes along with point 1, but whatcha gonna do? A little contrast is nice (and necessary!) to a healthy relationship, but ther ehas to be some common ground as well.

6) Someone who's a good lover. Here we go - the down and dirty nitty gritty sex. If you put on an air of sexual confidence, guys'll eat out of your hand. If you're good in the sack, that's a definite plus.

Anyway, those are just a few randome things bopping around my brain. As for hooking up with that mate of yours, I'd say talk to him about it. Ask him out to something kind of casual. Don't worry too much about breaking the friendship, but be careful. Have a good time!

[froggle-rock]

I would have to say, from my experiance that pheramones play a huge part in how attracted I am to a person. So keep smelly

[little_bear]

Pour moi, it would follow thus:

> Personality - If you're boring, sorry, but you're a no-no. I get enough boringness from myself, and I don't want it in a relationship.

> Smarts - Should I enter into a relationship with a girl, I'd want her to be reasonably intelligent, just so we can engage in stimulating conversation.

> Fun - I'd want to be able to have a laugh with a girl. Also, naughtiness is always funny. As in nod-nod-wink-wink naughtiness. IfyouknowwhatImean.

> Body - Yeah, shallow I know, but lets face it, that's what a guy looks for along with all the other points. If a girl has a cracking arse or a great rack then it's simply more and more bonus points. It's not vitally important, but it's definitely a factor.

> Someone who I can get along with - If a girl is annoying, or selfish, or arrogant, then sorry, but nuh uh.

As for the guy you like, I say go for it. Gauge the situation carefully. But, personally, I would go for it so I have no regrets.

[saucy_tara]

Think about what you want/like in a guy, then you'll probably know what he wants from you :-)

[Snugglebum the D...]

With all due respect, to every man that ever was...

Men are far more visually attracted then woman. So genenrally, for a bloke to even engage with you, they need to be physically attracted.

However, that is very short lived. Looking good is all well and good but if you want to conduct a relationship then they look at much more. Just being yourself relly does work for men.

[Usurper MrTeapot]

Men are far more visually attracted then woman.  So genenrally, for a bloke to even engage with you, they need to be physically attracted.

Pfft engage. Hmm wait... Damn!

Ok so it is well known that looks are important but right next to that a guy wants someone with simular interests or lifestyle to himself. I'm not sure many 'alternative' people would like to go out with a 'chav' no matter how good looking she might be. If he likes what you like then you've got a good chance.

[Erin]

guys tend to be more shallow than chicks...they like thin girls with a nice body usually. And they like girls that are really smart usually. And they like girls that are into the same stuff they like. thats all i know..since i'm not a guy. But...i am bi and i like chicks that are cool, sweet, and kind of pretty..thats really all i care about

[Righteous]

I don't know about thin. I'm always afraid of losing my balance during sex and crushing the girl if she's terribly skinny. As of late, I have been attracted to smaller-framed women, though only to a certain point. As silly as it sounds, I need something on a chick that I can bite.

Don't be psychotic about your appearence. I mean, yeah look nice and take care of yourself, but if a guy doesn't like you because of your appearence, than you shouldn't be wasting your time with him.

As long as your a decent, likeable person, you should be able to get a guy. There's a lid to every pot, as someone once told me. And as for your mate, don't push it or give reason for him to feel weird and you'll be good.

[I_am_the_best]

I haven't really had a chance to talk to him yet and when I do get a chance it may take a while as I'm not the most corageous of people. But thanks for all the great advice!

(Also, what do you think about that kinda 'rule' that only guys can make the first move? Or is that just completely stupid?)

[Moosh]

Bit late but i thought I'd drop in my tuppenceworth

1) Musical Tastes. I cannot get along with people who just like pop or rap or things like that. They have to appreciate bands with superior technical skill

2) They have to be able to accept me for what I am and not try to change me. Yes I have little wierd traits but that's who I am. Like it or lump it

3) Intelligence. Preferably around the same level as myself, too much deviation either way and conversation become impossible

4) Bitchiness (lack of). I really hate it when people bitch about others behind their backs. Sure I insult people but at least I say it to their face

5) Sense of humour. Nuff said

6) Body. As the others have said, sure it's shallow but that's what we do. On the other hand, they can't be too obsessed with their appearence

and as for the 'guy makes the first move' thing. Screw it. If you want him go for it

[Forever Unknown]

I'm always afraid of losing my balance during sex

Where are you having sex?!? Top of tall buildings? Cliffs? Old wooden bridges above molten lava?

Really is the funniest image ever. Just suddenly 'Oof!' *splat*

Sorry. Spam.

[saucy_tara]

Go for it!!! There is no reason on this earth why women should not make the first move.
If I want someone I have no hesitation in letting them know...Assert your womanhood!!!!

[little_bear]

(Also, what do you think about that kinda 'rule' that only guys can make the first move? Or is that just completely stupid?)

Worst. Unwritten. Rule. Ever.

[trunks_girl26]

I haven't really had a chance to talk to him yet and when I do get a chance it may take a while as I'm not the most corageous of people. But thanks for all the great advice!

(Also, what do you think about that kinda 'rule' that only guys can make the first move? Or is that just completely stupid?)

Ditto to Bear and Tara. I've missed my fair share of guys because I had thought they'd be braver than myself, and would ask me out.

Guys are just as nervous about doing it as girls are. Just ease on in, and go for it!

Good luck!

[Usurper MrTeapot]

On that note treat a man like a bee or a wasp. They're probably just as afraid of them as they are you, so if they get defensive and try to sting you...well just ask him out, trust us.

[Righteous]

Where are you having sex?!? Top of tall buildings? Cliffs? Old wooden bridges above molten lava?

I'm referring to sex in standard places (well, not always, but not that extreme). I'm just afraid my arm or something might give out and my fatness will squish my partner. If I have a chick that isn't tiny and can support me, then I don't have to worry.

And don't be afraid to make the first move. I've missed out on a few chicks multiple occasions for not making a move at all and it sucks (that and it would have been nice had the other person done something to let me know she was into me).

[froggle-rock]

1) Musical Tastes. I cannot get along with people who just like pop or rap or things like that. They have to appreciate bands with superior technical skill

*bangs head against key board*

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I say go for it, make the first move. Feel good about yourself, and don't let the fear of rejection prevent you.

[Righteous]

I wouldn't mind a chick who 100% gets how I'll listen to Bush, Mushroomhead, Philler, Green Day, Godsmack, (old) Sugar Ray, Cold, (old) 311, The Prodigy, Sevendust, Orgy, Avenged Sevenfold, Eve 6 and Staind in one day dispite the range of sound. Hell, my friends don't even get it.

And to be fair, rap isn't always simple and takes actual effort (well, not always, but I'd say the same with a lot of pseudo-metal bands). My friends marvelled at how I could do the rap from "Bwomp" perfectly way before they even had the words down. Now that they have it down, I pride myself on rapping it at 2x speed as well as being able to freestyle and rap songs I learned in middle school perfectly.

I've put guys at my high school to shame, me a gothed-out fat kid. Not that it really means anything, but little talents like that deserve appreciation, dammit.

[spam]
Now, next time you listen to "Jackolantern's Weather," look at my pic on the family album and imagine it coming from me. I can match Hexum and Matinez word for word.
[/spam]

[Tarantio]

Problem with most guys is that they're all egotistical maniacs and think they can get any girl they want if they put their mind to it, which is a bunch of cow dung, and it makes guys who might normally be nice people come across as stupid, aloof and possibly even posh, when they're really just putting on a stupid act. However, women have been designed to counter this by being evil enough to be able to readily appeal to a guy's ego when they first meet, and thus seem to be in the sway of the guy, when really its the girl thats getting her way.
In short, make the guy feel comfortable, then make him feel good, then make him feel wanted (if necessary make this last one very clear indeed, but don't go disgracing yourself ), the end result of which will be someone who ends up being yours completely (hopefully) and also happy and comfortable to be himself around you. The downside of this is that he'll be himself around you... which means you have to put up with a guy, rather than being rewarded with a "man".
This mythical creature is the one who doesn't need people to play to his ego (either because its swollen enough on its own or, rarer still he doesn't have one), ans thus will see any girl for what they are and will appreciate them without the girl having to go to extreme measures to "capture" him. Unfortuately again, these are exceedingly rare and the ones with the egos are the mainstay of the bunch and tend towards women that look as if they could fit through a letter box if they tried...

So yeah, relationships suck. Good luck though!

[Moosh]

And to be fair, rap isn't always simple and takes actual effort (well, not always, but I'd say the same with a lot of pseudo-metal bands).

True, but the majority of popular "gangsta" rap music (Eminem, Snoop Dogg, Dr Dre etc.) is complete and utter crap. Real rap music is fine and does require some skill, the artist can be respected.

I don't like music because of the genre or whatever, I like music mainly because of the skill of the artist. I apreiciate good rap music, same as I appreiciate good Jazz, Rock, Metal or Classical music. Unfortunatly there is a shortage of good rap music around.

[Righteous]

I wouldn't mind a chick who doesn't listen to the same stuff my little sister does. There's an overabundence of people raised on top 40 and it annoys me.

[Polocrunch]

I have to say, I am feeling very discriminated against in both of these threads. I shall have to start an equal opportunities thread somewhere...

[Righteous]

WHy is that, crunchy one?