Define love!, Put on your rose tinted glasses Options

[Witless]

Ok.. I'm feeling mildly soppy.. meaning I'll probably regret making this post and showing my occasional soppyness.

Consider this a game of defining the undefinable. I don't know if you can define it, but just to reply with "It's not something you can define" would be boring, and I may be forced to make a " " face at you. I don't like being mean, so don't do it! *ahems..*

So yeah.. go ahead, try and define love in any way you can, a poem, a statement, a definition, whatever.

If you're feeling sick just reading this post then.. sorry! But really.. it's christmas soon! Don't be all bah humbug... .

[gothictheysay]

I don't mind admitting that I become emotionally attached to people rather quickly, and soon find myself questioning what I am feeling ("Is it love? Is it lust? Is it desire? It is need? Is it obsession?").

Ah yes - I have that problem too. I always want to jump in with the "l" word, and I have to hold my tongue for a bit.

It's interesting you mention relationships that seem troubled. I think it's very hard to tell when you are just disagreeing a lot, or working through difficulties, from when you are starting to get "bad for each other", as they say. I would think that my father and his girlfriend love each other, even though they argue quite often and seem unhappy more than I think I could tolerate in a relationship. Very interesting to ponder.

[Hobbes]

Ah yes - I have that problem too. I always want to jump in with the "l" word, and I have to hold my tongue for a bit.

In all my relationships, I have been fairly quick to use that dangerous "l" word. But I've been pretty much 100% certain that doing so wasn't going to scare her off. They all said it back, so it couldn't have been that bad

The one relationship where I held back, I almost literally did have to "hold my tongue". But she knew what I was about to say, and quizzed me on it

It's interesting you mention relationships that seem troubled. I think it's very hard to tell when you are just disagreeing a lot, or working through difficulties, from when you are starting to get "bad for each other", as they say. I would think that my father and his girlfriend love each other, even though they argue quite often and seem unhappy more than I think I could tolerate in a relationship. Very interesting to ponder.

A friend of mine has been with his girlfriend for about seven years, and witnessing their behaviour with one another and what they say about each other, I honestly have no idea how they are still together - and the majority of our mutual friends say the exact same thing. Perhaps, when they are alone together, they are an entirely different entity and we are all massively mistaken. But all I tend to hear about their relationship is, "I almost walked out," or "I almost packed his bags for him," or "I almost asked you if I could crash at yours".

I suppose "almost", is the key word. But still, I could not live in that kind of relationship...

..not again!

If my friends and I try to evaluate their relationship, our assumption is that they are mainly together because they are too scared of ever having to be apart again and doing things by themselves. A "relationship of convenience" is the label sometimes.

But we're probably being overly harsh, and misreading their partnership entirely. Still, it seems somewhat odd to us.