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post Nov 16 2007, 08:20 AM
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I was wondering if anyone out there either lives in NYC or knows the best way of going about setting up contacts and networking, especially in a city where you don't even have family or know anyone there?


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post Nov 16 2007, 09:56 AM
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For social networks then pick a hobby and Google a club. I always do this for the martial art I like. I hear Craigslist.com is good for meeting people, but I'm not sure how often these things are for friendship, or more 'one off' meetings, if you catch my drift.

We've got a few people on here from NYC. I've edited the title of the thread to be a bit more informative about what you're looking for advice on.


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post Nov 17 2007, 12:01 AM
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QUOTE (Mata @ Nov 16 2007, 04:56 AM) *
I hear Craigslist.com is good for meeting people, but I'm not sure how often these things are for friendship, or more 'one off' meetings, if you catch my drift.

Yeah, don't get yourself killed.

You could try going to coffee/book/other shops and being friendly to people. There's probably some regulars that you can talk to and get along with.


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post Nov 23 2007, 10:10 PM
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..I agree. maybe craigslist isn't exactly the best idea.
coffee shops, stores, anything - usually you'll find people can, despite new york's reputation, be friendly. i think there are a couple of matazonian folks who live in new york that you might be able to talk with about meeting up with. (or we could have another east coast mata meet, assuming the original one happened - i can't remember)

either way, good luck. and don't forget how important body language is. tongue.gif


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post Nov 24 2007, 01:21 PM
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East coat meet? FLORIDA. ORLANDO. Yeah. Please? sad.gif

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post Nov 24 2007, 08:56 PM
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I think at the moment, the only way to attend a nicely crowded meet is to get yourself some plane tickets and go across the water. I'll be doing that myself within the next couple of years, mmm. It's good to have a passport. wink.gif


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post Nov 30 2007, 07:54 AM
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Thanks, yea that's actually some good ideas.


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post Nov 30 2007, 11:04 AM
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post Nov 30 2007, 06:17 PM
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QUOTE (Mata @ Nov 30 2007, 05:04 AM) *
Try not to sound so surprised! wink.gif

Haha.


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post Nov 30 2007, 08:19 PM
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There's always a whole bunch of random things going on in NYC that are great for meeting new people. There's a bunch of websites with listings of goings on. Some of them have listings of affiliated or promoted events (rather than ones they themselves are organizing), one of which is in fact called going.com and apparently today there is some sort of party/show (http://newyork.going.com/invite-16279). Others have their own events in NYC (such as New Mind Space, which has pillow fights and bubble fights in the Union Square area every year) and River to River NYC, which will have weekly free or cheap concerts in Battery Park next summer (the ones this past summer were really fun). And there's always ads for various things on walls of buildings and on the subway as things come around (the Tribeca Film Festival in the spring, for example, is always pretty well advertised). What are your general tastes?
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post Nov 30 2007, 09:35 PM
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I will have to check out going.com, and the Tribeca Film Festival sounds really cool I've wanted to go to that, the only problem is that I have school during April. I be out in NYC it looks like on January 7th and 8th and probably again sometime in March over my spring break. My general taste are independent film and live music is good, I'm a fan of jazz and independent music.


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post Dec 1 2007, 12:34 AM
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I live in the city, and I think your best bet is to go to a bookstore. Browse a section or two, and maybe strike up a conversation. Also, you never know when a conversation may start on the subway.


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post Dec 1 2007, 03:49 AM
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Yea I suppose I shouldn't listen to my music on the subway like I normally do when I visit the city by myself, haha, might be easier to make a conversation. Usually the only people I talk to when I'm NYC are people at Niketown NY, but usually that's only because I work at the one in Chicago. Yea I think my plan is to visit Museums this time, I've hit up all the major tourist stuff already a couple of times, Times Square, Central Park, Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island, etc. So I really wanted to see mueseums and the real NYC. So any bookstores or coffee shops you suggest?


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Bluestocking books on Allen Street. The only times I've been there have been late at night, but it's very quiet and nice, and they have a lot of interesting books (and zines, and so on) without being overwhelming. The Strand (on 12th & Broadway) is a more tourist-y spot, and they have lots of books (lots of books!) but they are very very crowded, and I've found it hard to find the things I want.

You should go to Brooklyn. Here, I will give you suggestions for what you should do in Brooklyn. Maybe you should get a pen or print this out or something (these are basically my 4 favorite places in the entire borough)

Take the 2 to the Brooklyn Museum and look at all of their cool stuff, then get on the shuttle to Franklin Avenue and walk up Fulton towards Downing Street. On your left, there will eventually be a small coffee shop that looks like they are closed. They aren't. Go in and get tomato soup. It will make you cry, it is so good. I don't even like tomato soup, but this place makes it amazingly. After that, walk up Downing, past the school. There will be a giant old house at the end that looks like a crazy person built it. A crazy person did. It is the Broken Angel House, and it is beautiful and may also make you cry. Walk very slightly down Quincy, and there is a top-notch Salvation Army where you can buy a nice coat or some cheap-o souvenirs for all of your best friends. The whole trip took me around 3/4 hours (from Manhattan and back to Manhattan) and it's completely gorgeous and NYC-ish without being crowded or smelly or unpleasant. It is a GOOD IDEA.

edit: the coffee place? it is called Outpost. Thank you, Googlemaps. You make it so I don't have to remember things.


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post Dec 1 2007, 11:56 PM
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Thank you for the ideas I'm going to have to write them all down, I'm all excited to go now, lol, but I still have about a month and a week or so. It's looking like this trip is going to be a really checking out NYC trip and networking, I've e-mailed an editor in NYC and asked him for advice and I plan on just doing that finding editors and post houses and just contacting them and hopefully when I'm out there I can go visit some of them.


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post Dec 6 2007, 06:09 AM
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So update on the NYC thing for me, I applied for an internship that's supposed to be short just Decemeber and Janaury, hopefully I'll hear back soon and know something so I can solidify some plans if I have to.


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post Dec 6 2007, 01:50 PM
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Internship? What will you be doing there?


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Post-production, editing and what not, but I'm sure it include some coffee getting and what not, lol.


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post Dec 12 2007, 06:31 PM
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I had a wild day yesterday and winter plans got turned on their head, I'm flying out on Friday to NYC for an interview. I also got an e-mail back from the editor I e-mailed. Anyway so if anyone wants to meet up with me on Friday in NYC because I will be there all day, but my interview is at 4.


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yea, touristy locations like times square etc get really old really fast,
DEFINITLY check out Soho, the village, and the Metropolitan Museum of Art. i would say the easiest way to meet people is start talking to the crazy people on the subway. hahahaha. ok, well that doesnt seem like too great of an idea now does it....
you're better off checking out museums and parks and going to events,
actually New Yorkers are quite friendly, just, a little insane in our own way and incredibly rushed. there are so many things going on in new york, just check out any kind of event having to do with the stuff you are interested in and im sure you will meet people!!

do not try meeting people on craigslist.
take it from me, i'm a new yorker wink.gif


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post Dec 15 2007, 02:09 AM
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I know that there was a famous case of a murder after someone went on a date from Craigslist, and it is a bit notorious for being a one-night stand kind of site, but is it all like that or is there some other reason that people are so wary of it?


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post Dec 15 2007, 11:47 PM
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Actually, the woman who was murdered answered an ad on Craigslist for a job as a nanny. No dating was involved at all. Unless there was another Craigslist murder that I didn't hear about.

As for why it's not the best place to meet people...well. The Best Of Craigslist has about a million reasons. wink.gif


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Yea I can't wait until I go back again. I went up to Upper Manhattan and just stopped through to see the Royal Tenenbaums house on 144th St, I never realized that Upper Manhattan had streets that were as steep as the ones in San Fransisco. Then I went to my usual stops Niketown and the Apple store (to use the internet) and then I went to MoMA. Then because I was afraid of missing my interview I went down by the office which is on 5th Ave and 31st St. I just ended up having some Starbucks. Then after my interview I went back to the Apple store to look up some cafes in the Village and found this place called Jack's on 10th St around Sheridan Sq, but I got there and they were closing early, it was like 6PM. I actaully helped someone from Hooboken today at work and they said that the Village is wierd like that. Also got offered some cocaine, lol. I saw this guy like 2 times he kept trying to talk to me but he was on the opposite side of the street the times before then when I was heading back to the subway we ended up on the same side and he asked me for a light then slipped in "I've got some good coke." I crossed the street but laughed the whole time after walked away. Then I got back to Chicago got on the blue line at O'Hare and hit the first slow zone coming out of O'Hare and remembered why I love the NYC Subway.

Edit: Oh yea I got asked directions from a few people, it made me feel like I lived in the city espically when I was able to help them, haha. I don't know if it was my corprate casual, briefcase, and running around everywhere like usual, lol.


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