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post Jan 27 2010, 07:29 AM
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Hi guys.


I guess some of you already know this, but I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half. We started dating when I first got to college/uni... he pounced on me the minute we met so I never got a chance to date anyone else here. Many months later, I found myself unhappy in the relationship. Although he was a really sweet guy, he has a lot of identity issues to work out and I felt extremely trapped. The break up was difficult, since we were extremely close and relied on one another for support constantly. We kind of eased out of the relationship by first going on a break until I decided to really end it.

Anyway, so where does that leave me now? I want to remain single and free of commitments, but I'm feeling super lonely... and my hormones are all over the place... I check out every guy that walks by. In retrospect I realize my sexual relationship with my ex had been pretty much non existent for the past 6-8 months, which was kind of both of our faults... but now I want to pounce on every half way attractive guy I see. It's kind of a problem.

In the past 3 weeks, I've gone out a ton, met lots of new people and kissed a couple of different guys, but it hasn't gone much further than that. I have been talking to one of them on and off for the past week or so, but I really don't feel like getting emotionally involved with him and playing the dating game is pretty annoying for me. I have a very aggressive attitude towards men and I pretty much go after what I want, so I feel like I should just call this new guy whenever I feel the need. However, I think he might have either a) given up on me due to him embarrassing himself in front of me this past weekend, b ) started developing a crush on me so he is trying to slow things down or c) doesn't want to be my 'rebound guy'.

so I guess I am just wondering what you all think of this situation... I am trying to avoid falling into a really bad cycle or completely ruining my reputation, but I am rather impatient. yes, I know you're thinking "why doesn't she just invest in a vibrator" but what i am really craving is attention from another person so that wouldn't really do the trick.

Thanks for your advice and I'm sorry for this long-winded and self-absorbed post


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post Feb 4 2010, 06:46 AM
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Thank you guys so much for responding. I have been trying to deal with things without going too crazy, but my main issue is that I'm awful at controlling my impulses. really awful. but don't worry mata, i am always safe!! i am attempting not to go from one guy to the next, i have been talking to this guy who i mentioned in my last post and we have had a couple of encounters... however he is really busy with school and i am not patient enough to wait around for him to decide to call me, so he probably thinks im a nutcase... i like to be serially monogamous so i dont want to pursue anyone else unless i am sure this guy wont work out, and also as SPS pointed out i dont want to jump from guy to guy. grr. frustration!


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