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post Jan 27 2010, 07:29 AM
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Hi guys.


I guess some of you already know this, but I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half. We started dating when I first got to college/uni... he pounced on me the minute we met so I never got a chance to date anyone else here. Many months later, I found myself unhappy in the relationship. Although he was a really sweet guy, he has a lot of identity issues to work out and I felt extremely trapped. The break up was difficult, since we were extremely close and relied on one another for support constantly. We kind of eased out of the relationship by first going on a break until I decided to really end it.

Anyway, so where does that leave me now? I want to remain single and free of commitments, but I'm feeling super lonely... and my hormones are all over the place... I check out every guy that walks by. In retrospect I realize my sexual relationship with my ex had been pretty much non existent for the past 6-8 months, which was kind of both of our faults... but now I want to pounce on every half way attractive guy I see. It's kind of a problem.

In the past 3 weeks, I've gone out a ton, met lots of new people and kissed a couple of different guys, but it hasn't gone much further than that. I have been talking to one of them on and off for the past week or so, but I really don't feel like getting emotionally involved with him and playing the dating game is pretty annoying for me. I have a very aggressive attitude towards men and I pretty much go after what I want, so I feel like I should just call this new guy whenever I feel the need. However, I think he might have either a) given up on me due to him embarrassing himself in front of me this past weekend, b ) started developing a crush on me so he is trying to slow things down or c) doesn't want to be my 'rebound guy'.

so I guess I am just wondering what you all think of this situation... I am trying to avoid falling into a really bad cycle or completely ruining my reputation, but I am rather impatient. yes, I know you're thinking "why doesn't she just invest in a vibrator" but what i am really craving is attention from another person so that wouldn't really do the trick.

Thanks for your advice and I'm sorry for this long-winded and self-absorbed post


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post Mar 15 2010, 04:30 AM
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Hi!! Interesting how quickly things change. About a week after I posted about how nicely things were working out with said boy, he decided to break it off because of his own issues. It was frustrating, but I know it wasn't my fault, and it was probably for the best that I didn't end up in a relationship that soon after having just gotten out of one. My ex and I remain on pretty good terms, but things can be awkward from time to time. The worst thing is that I don't think he is quite over me yet, I can tell that a part of him is still wondering if he could somehow win me back or that one day we will end up together again.

Since then I have been trying to put myself out there as much as possible, which can be aggravating, especially since I am very friendly and open, and I love to talk, so a lot of times people get the wrong idea about me since I'm so enthusiastic. I have had my eye on another boy for a couple of weeks, and I got the nerve to ask him to lunch last week. We had lunch Friday, and it seemed like it went well, but it was unclear whether or not he was interested in more. At the end of the date, he said he had fun and he was sure we would see each other... but didn't ask me to hang out again or anything, so now I am just playing the waiting game and trying to focus on school a little bit. I will be going home for spring break in about 10 days so that will also be a great way for me to get away from this whole crazy social/dating scene for a little bit.

Also thank you to SPS, Pixie, Mata and SSA for responding. I really appreciate and take into consideration what you all have to say.


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