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post Jul 14 2010, 12:35 PM
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I told my parents I'm getting a tattoo done a couple of days ago, which actually went surprisingly well. My mother did the expected fussing about how important it is to make sure they're not visible (I politely disagreed on that point, but she's welcome to her opinion). Compared to coming out as being bi I think it was a breeze.

The bi conversation was a lot more touchy:
Mother (in general conversation): "You do like girls, you are normal aren't you?"
Me: "I'm normal, but I'm also bisexual..."
It didn't go much better for a while after that. On the scale of things, getting a tattoo will probably be a lot easier for them to accept than the fact that I rather fancy men sometimes.

So, have you had to break news to people? How did it go?


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post Jul 14 2010, 06:55 PM
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This might come off as rather emo, and I might make it a topic in personal concerns at some point, but it does fit here so well too! It's also happened super recently. I've been having some relationship issues. Basically, what I'm trying to do is be in a polyamorous relationship, where the person I am dating is also seeing someone else (and of course I am free to see other people either). We agreed to be open, but I wasn't expecting another person so soon... and it's an ex of his. So I've been struggling a bit lately with dealing with that.

A lot of people don't understand the situation, and it's hard to blame them. But my little sister and my father both reacted in a way that was kind of hurtful. They basically both told me that they didn't think I could handle it emotionally and that it wouldn't work out. I told my father I didn't want to talk about it with him because he wouldn't understand, and he said "try me", and then for the next 20 minutes on the phone it was clear he didn't really understand. dry.gif A lot of people don't understand the concept at all and insist I am being used, which isn't true at all.

So yeah, that breaking news to people did not go very well at all tongue.gif However, I have a lot of other people who are supportive of me, even if my family doesn't totally get it. I'm sorry that your mother doesn't understand your sexuality; that must be very difficult to deal with sad.gif I would be rather upset. I'm glad the tattooing thing went over a little better. It was nice that you could politely disagree. I feel like that kind of disagreement can be very difficult with parents, even when you've been living on your own for ages.


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- Mata   Breaking news to people   Jul 14 2010, 12:35 PM
- - gothictheysay   This might come off as rather emo, and I might mak...   Jul 14 2010, 06:55 PM
|- - Sir Psycho Sexy   QUOTE (gothictheysay @ Jul 14 2010, 07:55...   Jul 21 2010, 10:20 AM
- - Pikasyuu   You make an excellent point in here, Sarah. I...   Jul 14 2010, 10:01 PM
- - gothictheysay   Katii - I don't think you responded in a judgm...   Jul 14 2010, 10:19 PM
- - michael1384   Coming out as bi to my mum was awkward. I think sh...   Jul 15 2010, 12:06 AM
- - Yannick   Hmm. I'm not really the type to tell my family...   Jul 15 2010, 02:19 AM
- - Pikasyuu   QUOTE (michael1384 @ Jul 14 2010, 05:06 P...   Jul 15 2010, 04:21 AM
- - LoLo   My breaking news is usually odd when it comes to m...   Jul 15 2010, 02:20 PM
|- - michael1384   QUOTE (LoLo @ Jul 15 2010, 03:20 PM) The ...   Jul 19 2010, 08:40 AM
- - Cath   I tend to mostly just do something and then let th...   Jul 15 2010, 07:46 PM
- - voices_in_my_head   All news gets passed to my dad through my mom, at ...   Jul 16 2010, 05:28 AM
|- - LoLo   QUOTE (voices_in_my_head @ Jul 15 2010, 10...   Jul 16 2010, 06:08 AM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE Anyway, the only big thing I've ever had...   Jul 16 2010, 04:13 PM
- - Yannick   I hate when I'm in a situation when I know my ...   Jul 16 2010, 04:30 PM
- - Daria   I haven't lived at home for the last four year...   Jul 16 2010, 09:57 PM
- - Pikasyuu   Oh man, my mom finding out that I smoke.. I starte...   Jul 16 2010, 11:25 PM
- - Yannick   Oh man. I've smoked cigarettes once in my life...   Jul 17 2010, 02:59 AM
|- - LoLo   QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 16 2010, 07:59 PM) ...   Jul 17 2010, 04:39 PM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE She's made it quite clear that I'm n...   Jul 19 2010, 04:47 PM
- - Faerieryn   Funniest news I've ever broken was telling my ...   Jul 19 2010, 10:13 PM
- - Mata   Now that's timing! I guess Matt didn't...   Jul 20 2010, 12:17 PM
- - Faerieryn   The splutter into his coffee was pure magic!   Jul 20 2010, 07:51 PM
- - Pikasyuu   You would think it would be easy to maintain a fai...   Jul 22 2010, 01:53 PM
- - Witless   I think polyamorous relationships take a fair peri...   Jul 22 2010, 03:55 PM
- - Mata   I'm say it's more like 'cultural progr...   Jul 23 2010, 08:21 AM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE I'm say it's more like 'cultural...   Jul 24 2010, 07:29 PM
- - Mata   So, I showed my parents my tattoo this weekend and...   Jul 26 2010, 12:52 PM


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