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post Jul 14 2010, 12:35 PM
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I told my parents I'm getting a tattoo done a couple of days ago, which actually went surprisingly well. My mother did the expected fussing about how important it is to make sure they're not visible (I politely disagreed on that point, but she's welcome to her opinion). Compared to coming out as being bi I think it was a breeze.

The bi conversation was a lot more touchy:
Mother (in general conversation): "You do like girls, you are normal aren't you?"
Me: "I'm normal, but I'm also bisexual..."
It didn't go much better for a while after that. On the scale of things, getting a tattoo will probably be a lot easier for them to accept than the fact that I rather fancy men sometimes.

So, have you had to break news to people? How did it go?


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post Jul 16 2010, 05:28 AM
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All news gets passed to my dad through my mom, at her discretion. He doesn't know anything that she doesn't think he needs to know. It's not that I'm not close with my dad (though, honestly, I am much closer with my mom) it's just that I'm never *quite* sure what he'll take the wrong way/ accept. So I leave it to the woman who's been married to him for 21 years.

My parents don't know that I'm bi, and as I'm currently in a long-term Hetro relationship, I see no reason for me to bring it up any time soon. I don't think that either of them would look very kindly upon it, and my mom has expressed before that, in her opinion, you're either gay or straight - she doesn't believe being "bi" is a possibility.

(Side note - why does there seem to be such a concentration of bi people 'round here? Just now noticed that.)

Anyway, the only big thing I've ever had to admit to my parents was that I smoke. Actually, I had to admit that to my friends, too. My dad figured it out before anyone else, strangely enough, and even stranger, decided that he didn't have too big of problem with it. Though he does enjoy giving me the 'danger to your health' rant now and again. But as for my mom and my friends? In all cases I broke it to them rather bluntly. With my mom, I asked if I could join her with her cigarette break, and with both my friends, I simply stood up and began walking out, stating it was time for a smoke break.
Probably not the most delicate way to go about things, but I've never been a fan of sitting down and having long, detailed conversations about my choices.


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- Mata   Breaking news to people   Jul 14 2010, 12:35 PM
- - gothictheysay   This might come off as rather emo, and I might mak...   Jul 14 2010, 06:55 PM
|- - Sir Psycho Sexy   QUOTE (gothictheysay @ Jul 14 2010, 07:55...   Jul 21 2010, 10:20 AM
- - Pikasyuu   You make an excellent point in here, Sarah. I...   Jul 14 2010, 10:01 PM
- - gothictheysay   Katii - I don't think you responded in a judgm...   Jul 14 2010, 10:19 PM
- - michael1384   Coming out as bi to my mum was awkward. I think sh...   Jul 15 2010, 12:06 AM
- - Yannick   Hmm. I'm not really the type to tell my family...   Jul 15 2010, 02:19 AM
- - Pikasyuu   QUOTE (michael1384 @ Jul 14 2010, 05:06 P...   Jul 15 2010, 04:21 AM
- - LoLo   My breaking news is usually odd when it comes to m...   Jul 15 2010, 02:20 PM
|- - michael1384   QUOTE (LoLo @ Jul 15 2010, 03:20 PM) The ...   Jul 19 2010, 08:40 AM
- - Cath   I tend to mostly just do something and then let th...   Jul 15 2010, 07:46 PM
- - voices_in_my_head   All news gets passed to my dad through my mom, at ...   Jul 16 2010, 05:28 AM
|- - LoLo   QUOTE (voices_in_my_head @ Jul 15 2010, 10...   Jul 16 2010, 06:08 AM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE Anyway, the only big thing I've ever had...   Jul 16 2010, 04:13 PM
- - Yannick   I hate when I'm in a situation when I know my ...   Jul 16 2010, 04:30 PM
- - Daria   I haven't lived at home for the last four year...   Jul 16 2010, 09:57 PM
- - Pikasyuu   Oh man, my mom finding out that I smoke.. I starte...   Jul 16 2010, 11:25 PM
- - Yannick   Oh man. I've smoked cigarettes once in my life...   Jul 17 2010, 02:59 AM
|- - LoLo   QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 16 2010, 07:59 PM) ...   Jul 17 2010, 04:39 PM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE She's made it quite clear that I'm n...   Jul 19 2010, 04:47 PM
- - Faerieryn   Funniest news I've ever broken was telling my ...   Jul 19 2010, 10:13 PM
- - Mata   Now that's timing! I guess Matt didn't...   Jul 20 2010, 12:17 PM
- - Faerieryn   The splutter into his coffee was pure magic!   Jul 20 2010, 07:51 PM
- - Pikasyuu   You would think it would be easy to maintain a fai...   Jul 22 2010, 01:53 PM
- - Witless   I think polyamorous relationships take a fair peri...   Jul 22 2010, 03:55 PM
- - Mata   I'm say it's more like 'cultural progr...   Jul 23 2010, 08:21 AM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE I'm say it's more like 'cultural...   Jul 24 2010, 07:29 PM
- - Mata   So, I showed my parents my tattoo this weekend and...   Jul 26 2010, 12:52 PM


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