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post Jul 14 2010, 12:35 PM
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I told my parents I'm getting a tattoo done a couple of days ago, which actually went surprisingly well. My mother did the expected fussing about how important it is to make sure they're not visible (I politely disagreed on that point, but she's welcome to her opinion). Compared to coming out as being bi I think it was a breeze.

The bi conversation was a lot more touchy:
Mother (in general conversation): "You do like girls, you are normal aren't you?"
Me: "I'm normal, but I'm also bisexual..."
It didn't go much better for a while after that. On the scale of things, getting a tattoo will probably be a lot easier for them to accept than the fact that I rather fancy men sometimes.

So, have you had to break news to people? How did it go?


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post Jul 15 2010, 02:20 PM
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My breaking news is usually odd when it comes to my mom and I usually think about it for a few days and try to figure out the best angle to come at it from. I know anything that involves any sort of little change is going to set her off, so making the blow as small as possible seems best.

My latest is realizing I had made a mistake in my budget and over looked a bill, then spent money and am now going to run out before I get more. The stress came because I knew she was going to lecture me for running out of money having just taken a vacation. In the end I had a point by point explanation of why it happened (not vacation related) and then came up with a solution that made her happy and now everything is going to be fine. If I had just told her I was going to run out of money then I would have gotten a long lecture and would have been reminded how irresponsible I am. laugh.gif

Before that it was breaking it to her that I was going to take a vacation where I would actually be gone. No matter what angle I came at the one from, she wasn't happy. She's a hermit and since I live with her I'm expected to have the same habits. Also I was visiting my brother and he's her favorite, so she was jealous I was getting to see him and she wasn't.

The hardest one to deal with is announcing a relationship. It doesn't matter who it's with my family (especially my mom) are not going to be happy. For this reason I usually keep what little dating I do/have done a secret. Usually I only break it to them if it becomes serious because I don't want to have to deal with the stress that comes from telling them unless I really have feelings for the guy or have to put the guy through the crazy of my family unless he has feelings for me. Yeah gotta see how insane I'm going to be in the future there. tongue.gif

The rest of my family seems to spend more of their time trying to break it to me that I'm gay. They like to think that we're a really open minded family and since everyone except myself and my autistic cousin are involved in committed hetero relationships that must mean that I have to carry the torch to give our family open mindedness cred. That and they figure since I haven't brought a guy home in years that also must mean that I am.


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post Jul 19 2010, 08:40 AM
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QUOTE (LoLo @ Jul 15 2010, 03:20 PM) *
The hardest one to deal with is announcing a relationship. It doesn't matter who it's with my family (especially my mom) are not going to be happy. For this reason I usually keep what little dating I do/have done a secret. Usually I only break it to them if it becomes serious because I don't want to have to deal with the stress that comes from telling them unless I really have feelings for the guy or have to put the guy through the crazy of my family unless he has feelings for me. Yeah gotta see how insane I'm going to be in the future there. tongue.gif


Oh lord. I don't want to know how my mum will react if I find someone. She's made it quite clear that I'm not allowed to have feelings for people, let alone date them. Doesn't stop me trying though.


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- Mata   Breaking news to people   Jul 14 2010, 12:35 PM
- - gothictheysay   This might come off as rather emo, and I might mak...   Jul 14 2010, 06:55 PM
|- - Sir Psycho Sexy   QUOTE (gothictheysay @ Jul 14 2010, 07:55...   Jul 21 2010, 10:20 AM
- - Pikasyuu   You make an excellent point in here, Sarah. I...   Jul 14 2010, 10:01 PM
- - gothictheysay   Katii - I don't think you responded in a judgm...   Jul 14 2010, 10:19 PM
- - michael1384   Coming out as bi to my mum was awkward. I think sh...   Jul 15 2010, 12:06 AM
- - Yannick   Hmm. I'm not really the type to tell my family...   Jul 15 2010, 02:19 AM
- - Pikasyuu   QUOTE (michael1384 @ Jul 14 2010, 05:06 P...   Jul 15 2010, 04:21 AM
- - LoLo   My breaking news is usually odd when it comes to m...   Jul 15 2010, 02:20 PM
|- - michael1384   QUOTE (LoLo @ Jul 15 2010, 03:20 PM) The ...   Jul 19 2010, 08:40 AM
- - Cath   I tend to mostly just do something and then let th...   Jul 15 2010, 07:46 PM
- - voices_in_my_head   All news gets passed to my dad through my mom, at ...   Jul 16 2010, 05:28 AM
|- - LoLo   QUOTE (voices_in_my_head @ Jul 15 2010, 10...   Jul 16 2010, 06:08 AM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE Anyway, the only big thing I've ever had...   Jul 16 2010, 04:13 PM
- - Yannick   I hate when I'm in a situation when I know my ...   Jul 16 2010, 04:30 PM
- - Daria   I haven't lived at home for the last four year...   Jul 16 2010, 09:57 PM
- - Pikasyuu   Oh man, my mom finding out that I smoke.. I starte...   Jul 16 2010, 11:25 PM
- - Yannick   Oh man. I've smoked cigarettes once in my life...   Jul 17 2010, 02:59 AM
|- - LoLo   QUOTE (Yannick @ Jul 16 2010, 07:59 PM) ...   Jul 17 2010, 04:39 PM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE She's made it quite clear that I'm n...   Jul 19 2010, 04:47 PM
- - Faerieryn   Funniest news I've ever broken was telling my ...   Jul 19 2010, 10:13 PM
- - Mata   Now that's timing! I guess Matt didn't...   Jul 20 2010, 12:17 PM
- - Faerieryn   The splutter into his coffee was pure magic!   Jul 20 2010, 07:51 PM
- - Pikasyuu   You would think it would be easy to maintain a fai...   Jul 22 2010, 01:53 PM
- - Witless   I think polyamorous relationships take a fair peri...   Jul 22 2010, 03:55 PM
- - Mata   I'm say it's more like 'cultural progr...   Jul 23 2010, 08:21 AM
- - gothictheysay   QUOTE I'm say it's more like 'cultural...   Jul 24 2010, 07:29 PM
- - Mata   So, I showed my parents my tattoo this weekend and...   Jul 26 2010, 12:52 PM


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