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MistressAlti
post Jul 8 2003, 02:11 AM
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Apparently, I have no independent thought. I have no true concept of "reality". I am mindless and easily impressed. I am irresponsible, immature, naive, and short-sighted.

Why?

Because I am 17 years old.

I'm constantly criticized on an aspect of my life that I have no control over - namely, my age.

I've just returned from yet another lecture. My great-uncle, age 53, always feels the need to impress upon me those faults of my peers. He's not the only one, either. I feel the discrimination all the time, if not with family, then when I'm off at Academy. I am looked down upon by the college students because of my age, too. Apparently teenagers are made from a mold. We're all the same. We're all young and stupid. All of us.

My uncle's also a fan of the "I know what you should do with your life - listen to me, because I know everything about life!" sermon, as is every single adult in my life.

I swear to God, if I hear "Now Rachel, be realistic" one more time... Once again, because I am young, my ideas about the world and about my future are, quite frankly, wrong. My hopes, my dreams, any aspirations, goals, plans, are wrong. Apparently I'm supposed to want something else for my life.

I don't discount their concerns. I know they've experienced more in life than me. I recognize this and accept it - respect it, even.

But to be blatantly talked down to, for no reason? That, I will not tolerate.

Anyone on this forum who's spoken with me knows that I'm typically respectful, yet I don't take to being belittled too easily. Imagine my frustration in this, then, where I have no way out - I can sit there and be chided for things I have no control over, or I can speak up and further reinforce the individual's beliefs about teenagers!

Yes, I understand that there are a lot of mindless, irresponsible, immature teenagers out there, and almost all of us have our moments. We are not, however, all like that, and especially not all the time! And dare I even suggest that mindless, irresponsible, and immature behavior can be found in every generation of individuals - teenagers and adults!

I tried to explain to my mother how I felt. All I got was a deaf ear, a "You should do this with your life!" lecture, and finally a few attacks on my character.

I don't know if I'm really asking for any advice over this, although I guess it's always welcome. I just... want to be heard without feeling like I've been cut down.
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post Jul 8 2003, 06:25 AM
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I was trying to figure out how to respond to this thread, because I know I've been through the same thing quite often, but I think I've blocked out too much of my teen years ("remember, they're the best years of your life!!" b.s....), so I can't remember any specifics. But candice brings up an interesting point. I still get the same kind of crap at age 23 from people of my parents' generation. My partner's parents are always telling us to give up on being so reactionary and politically radical because supposedly they were the same way at our age, which in their eyes means that we'll inevitably end up content and disinterested by the time we reach their age. They don't take our views seriously because they think it has more to do with our age than with what we've actually reasoned out for ourselves. Our views are something we'll "grow out of" when we're old enough to "come to our senses."

I get the same thing in a different way from my side of the family, especially my cousin Angie. I'm told that my decision to not have children is "just a phase that I'll grow out of." I'm made to feel that I will never fully mature until and unless I have children. No womyn is a real womyn until she's been a mother, apparently. I'm made to feel that the decision to have children is a mandatory one for all adults, especially wimmin. I'll always be a child until I've had one of my own. rolleyes.gif


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- MistressAlti   Age Discrimination Against Teenagers   Jul 8 2003, 02:11 AM
- - cheese is funny   missy, i know what your talking about... geometry...   Jul 8 2003, 02:20 AM
- - candice   i know how you guys feel.....i had to deal w/ that...   Jul 8 2003, 06:05 AM
- - MoonlightSavingsTime   I was trying to figure out how to respond to this ...   Jul 8 2003, 06:25 AM
- - candice   QUOTE (MoonlightSavingsTime @ Jul 7 2003, 11:...   Jul 8 2003, 07:04 AM
- - MoonlightSavingsTime   Ohh, that somehow reminded me of something when I ...   Jul 8 2003, 07:15 AM
- - chester   hm.... i dunno if i should be talking in this thre...   Jul 8 2003, 08:10 AM
- - wolfbane   I'm 21, have just finished university and stil...   Jul 8 2003, 11:04 AM
- - spuglet   i completely agree. i keep getting told by my mums...   Jul 8 2003, 12:31 PM
- - kidvicious2punk   people just get this idea that since i have colore...   Jul 8 2003, 05:35 PM
- - LoLo   I'm going to nit pick on cheese for a moment.....   Jul 8 2003, 06:06 PM
- - MistressAlti   QUOTE (LoLo @ Jul 8 2003, 01:06 PM)I'm go...   Jul 8 2003, 06:31 PM
- - candice   i dunno about all the different generations and th...   Jul 8 2003, 06:41 PM
- - Jonman   You think you've got problems? With my thinn...   Jul 8 2003, 07:03 PM
- - gerbilfromhell   y'know, it's not just the constant 'li...   Jul 8 2003, 07:09 PM
- - candice   QUOTE (gerbilfromhell @ Jul 8 2003, 12:09 PM)...   Jul 8 2003, 08:11 PM
- - leopold   Well, as the old man of the forum, I guess it...   Jul 8 2003, 09:04 PM
- - Sir_Psycho_Sexy   I get it too, mainly from my mum, most of my other...   Jul 8 2003, 10:57 PM
- - Edward_lover1200   i know how everyone feels...I'm 13 so I know n...   Jul 9 2003, 09:51 AM
- - The.Wheezing.Ghost   I agree entirely with mistressalti. I sent a lette...   Jul 14 2003, 12:45 AM
- - The.Wheezing.Ghost   My cousin also sent an entire idea for the school ...   Jul 14 2003, 10:08 PM
- - Skiz   I run a brownie pack and one of the big reasons wh...   Jul 14 2003, 10:12 PM
- - The.Wheezing.Ghost   wow.. thats basically what i have been saying to p...   Jul 14 2003, 11:07 PM
- - Mr Fuzzy   You know, I've always discriminated about age ...   Jul 15 2003, 12:24 AM
- - gerbilfromhell   i've tried to make ppl not think of me as the ...   Jul 15 2003, 02:55 AM
- - Sun Tsu   I hate the lectures and tags that are put on teens...   Jul 15 2003, 05:57 PM
- - gerbilfromhell   i think it's hilarious when whever there's...   Jul 15 2003, 06:06 PM
- - Sun Tsu   QUOTE (gerbilfromhell @ Jul 15 2003, 07:06 PM...   Jul 15 2003, 06:27 PM
- - gerbilfromhell   no, i just mean that ppl just say either 'it...   Jul 15 2003, 07:27 PM


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