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post Jul 19 2003, 07:28 PM
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The little sister is 12, 6 years younger than me but she is taller than me and keeps hitting me. I hold back thinking I am going to land her in hospital if I retaliate (Im an all or nothing person) but she is starting to bloody hurt. Is it time I tought her a lesson or should I keep leaving it and not retaliating. Shes my little sister and I still feel defensive of her but she really is violent at the moment. I would never start on her but I am getting tired of just sitting there as she is hurting me. VIki has just swung a microphone around her head and strated hitting my wrist with it. I can still feel where the mesh hit, im getting bruising and its all swollena dn my wrist aint moving the way it meant to (But iguess I aint majorly fecked coz I am typing). The actual incident doesnt bother me to much, apart from the unprovoked violence she came out with, it was more the way she then started kicking me in the head and all down the same arm when I was on the floor. Its the way shes now piss taking coz I started swearing back at her and the way he gloating and boasting "its only plastic..." Fair enough if it was flimsy stuff but it wasnt. It was solid plastic. I honestly dont think I can live with viki anymore. We are swapping bedrooms in september if I move to uni so she gets the bigger one and she ripped down all the wallpaper in her current bedroom, not bothering abuot the fact she only has a few weeks left in it, that we dont have the money to decorate and I liked tha room the way it was and were going to keep it that way.


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post Jul 19 2003, 07:32 PM
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jeeeze.... well... that sucks, really bad... but since you feel you might really hurt her if you do anything to her, why do that? instead, think of breaking her stuff, stuff she cares for..... or attack her mentally... or try and talk her out of doing this to you... you might consider tieing her to a chair to talk to her....


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post Jul 19 2003, 07:45 PM
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Have you tried telling her that what she does actually hurts?..perhaps if she knew that she hurt you then she'd think twice about doing it.


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post Jul 19 2003, 07:50 PM
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Ive tried that, she is just adiment it doesnt hurt me, shes seen the bruises and heard the cries. She doesnt seem to realise either that others have feelings or her own strength (I think its the former coz she uses verbal abuse to, but it doesnt get to me, sticks and stones ect....)


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post Jul 19 2003, 07:53 PM
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Ok, I know it sounds mean, but why don't you hit her just the once to see how she likes it, maybe if she realizes that she could get hurt by doing it then she'd stop


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post Jul 19 2003, 07:58 PM
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get her therapy. seriously. either that or TELL her exactly what you're sayin right now, that she's reaaaaaly pushin yer patience and you might (or WILL) retaliate eventually and hospitalize her
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post Jul 19 2003, 10:58 PM
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My brother (6 years older than me, you'll note) used to hold me down and fart and my face when we were kids, and I pissed him off. I soon learnt not to mess with him.

Not that I advocate such behaviour. Revenge begets revenge.


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post Jul 20 2003, 01:28 AM
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my sister is older and she was always the violent one... She hits and throws things (she picked up the ironing board and threw it at me once when I had turned around to leave the room--I have a small scar on my back). Sometimes I'd yell back.... but saying or doing anything only made it a lot worse. She could scream and yell at you forever, but if you dare yell back at her, she would just get this look on her face like "HOW DARE YOU?????" And she would go off even more...

I wish I had some good advice for you... something that worked for me... but nothing has ever worked with my sister. She still has that awful temper. I have seen her at her house arguing with her husband. She still yells and screams and throws things. I have seen her go off hitting and yelling at her boyfriends too (boyfriends--before she got married). *thinks she needs counseling* lol

I agree with Gerbil that therapy sounds like a good idea for your sister... She has a serious anger management problem and needs help. Better for her to get help as soon as possible.... so neither of you will hurt each other (more).
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post Jul 20 2003, 03:06 AM
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Sh!t, sounds like you've got a sister just like mine. Mine is 2 years younger than me, 50 pounds heavier than me, and 6 inches taller than me, and she doesn't see anything funnier than hitting on me or farting in my face, things like that. And if she's anything like my sister, nothing you do will ever really stop it. I suggest hiding out when you can. I pretty much live in my room. I even had to put a keyed lock on it because my sister's a kleptomaniac, on top of being abusive.

I also hit back, occasionally. But I don't really recommend that. I only do it when I lose my temper (I'm a redhead, I have a TEMPER). All hitting back does is get your parents angry with you. We all know the lecture "you're older, you should know better than she does...." At least I haven't broken anything on my sister.........yet........


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post Jul 20 2003, 05:18 AM
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when my lil bro hits me...i just pretend to cry histerically and he gets freaked out laugh.gif


lol...word of advice...dont let her get ahold of darts...why you ask?because they huuuuuuuurt unsure.gif


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post Jul 20 2003, 06:47 AM
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QUOTE (kidvicious2punk @ Jul 20 2003, 12:18 AM)
lol...word of advice...dont let her get ahold of darts...why you ask?because they huuuuuuuurt unsure.gif

sharp objects--bad idea! lol keep her away from all knives, sissors, darts, etc as much as possible.... lol if she is having a fit and there is something sharp within reach.... run! lol
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post Jul 20 2003, 07:58 AM
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my younger sister was like that for a bit.

she used to seriously scare me, cause she would just start screaming and throwing things.

but, i had no qualms about knocking her upside the head if she harmed me.

of course, i was usually the one who got grounded...meanwhile she was able to talk her way out of any punishment whatsoever...... dry.gif

bitter? noooo, not me.

honestly, i like cheese's idea of breaking things that are of value to her. but then she may retaliate and break your stuff, so maybe that's not so great. counselling also seems like a good idea....but if it were me, i'd give her a good fat lip to remember not to touch me again.

or, some good mental torture....any boys she likes?....a LOT of evil can be done w/ that information. ahhh...childhood memories. happy.gif


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post Jul 20 2003, 08:26 AM
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I'd ask how the hell she's taller than you.. but my sister's 6 years younger and taller than me. Try punching her in the throat, it's my preffered method.


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post Jul 20 2003, 08:44 AM
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Normally I wouldn't advocate violence, and especially towards a younger sibling. But.. for once, when she attacks you, stand up for yourself. I'd hope it'd only take once for her to realize that her actions have consequences.

Exert some control. You may not even have to hurt her, but put her in a position she's very uncomfortable with. Scare her if that's what it takes.. but, don't take it too far. Don't become something you've no respect for.
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post Jul 20 2003, 12:10 PM
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QUOTE (oxym0ronical @ Jul 20 2003, 01:44 AM)
Scare her if that's what it takes.. but, don't take it too far. Don't become something you've no respect for.

For that reason, I also don't advocate violence against her. You might find it becomes too easy to view violence as a problem-solver, or as a way of expelling your anger and impatience from your system. So hopefully there's some less violent ways of dealing with this.

It's true that revenge begets revenge though. From the way it sounds, your sister lets passion rather than reason guide her actions, so if you were to break some of her possessions or something, I doubt she would look at the situation and think, "Hm, it seems as if my stuff gets broken when I act violently, so I will stop acting that way in order to avoid getting my stuff destroyed." More likely she would just look at the situation and react impulsively by breaking your stuff in return, or just beating on you again.

I don't think you mentioned your parents in this at all...do they know anything about your sister's violence? Have they done anything about it?

I don't know what else to say. Maybe, like Feyliya said, the best thing to do might be to just avoid her when possible. I hid out in my room a lot too, in order to avoid my brother. The thing with him was he'd act just as violent and disrespectful if I hit him back or insulted him back as much as when I simply didn't react to his behavior. My mom wasn't much help because she's pretty passive herself, and he was abusive to her too, but somehow she often seemed to favor him over me anyway. So I had to hide out in my room to get away from it at all.


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post Jul 20 2003, 07:44 PM
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Next time she gets mad, bum rush her and then duct tape her to something solid. She's tall, so i'm guessing her knees aren't the strongest things in the world (Unless you're really short and she's average).

Leave her ducttaped to something, say a tree, for a few hours and then come back and explain to her that being mean to someone older than you is a no-no, due to the fact that you're smarter than she is and you can find many many ways to make her life hell.

My sister is 16 and I'm taller by about 2 or three inches, but I outweigh her by a considerable amount (she's one of those uber skinny model types). When we used to fight it always ended up with me choking her until she turned blue...so one day I got scared that I'd kill her and I stopped. Now we hardly fight anymore (physically at least) and when we do I restrain her. Yup, nothing like a big ol bear hug to keep that pipsqueak from running around.
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QUOTE (cheese is funny @ Jul 19 2003, 12:32 PM)
jeeeze.... well... that sucks, really bad... but since you feel you might really hurt her if you do anything to her, why do that? instead, think of breaking her stuff, stuff she cares for..... or attack her mentally... or try and talk her out of doing this to you... you might consider tieing her to a chair to talk to her....

Cheese! >:\

You should really talk to her about it first, and if she starts hitting you again, make it clear you're not gonna take that shyte and talk to your parents (surely they must have noticed something?!?) or the police.


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