Happy Being Single? Options

[Mingtea]

Hmmm, are you happy being single?

I've often thought this to myself, I can see the advantages of being single, no hassle, nobody to moan at me when I feel the need to spend 267 quid on external firewire drive (Because it has pink neon lights!) I can go out when I want and I can do what I want.

But when I lie down and think about it, I hate being single :/ I miss being loved/in love and all the bonuses that come with it, I guess i'm just tooooo soppy. I think had I never fallen in love I would not be in this mess.

Don't get me wrong, I love my friends, every one of them they all rock so much..... but I miss the extra love you get from someone special.

God I suck

Just brain spam.

Waddya reckon?

[WeeJ]

Being with someone doesn't stop you from going out. You just include your partner in on the going out with mates thing. Its no big deal.
Personally, I was miserable on my tod. I've been with Drarok for 2 years and I've never been happier

[Fallen Element]

im actually quite happy being single! it would be good to have someone but being totally honest it doesnt put me up or down... my last serious relationship was probably the best i have ever had and although we broke up we are like really close friends! so...thats that then! dunno where that came from or where its going!

so i shall be off then!

Fal xXx

[antagony]

A lot of people I know are very happy being single. Most of my friends view relationships more as things that just get in the way. They have a point, but personally I'm not happy being single. Granted, I wasn't happy when I was in a relationship either, but it wasn't a very good one. I've been single for almost a year now, and I'm just really, really lonely. I feel left out all the time. If there's anything I miss about being with someone, it's being accepted. These days, I feel more like I'm being tolerated. And I'm lonely. My friends think I'm sexually frustrated, too. Oh, did I mention that I'm lonely?

Well, that was pathetic.

[Mingtea]

^ What they said

[acidteardrop]

ive been single my whole life up until the 11th. before i was miserable...not solely because i was solo, but that played a huge role. but ever since magikeyes and i became serious about our relationship...i...ive never been hppier. i love her so inconceivably much...and i watn to be with her forever. she is a radiant beacon in my dark, desolate world. she is my everything and i trust putting my everything in her hands.
but i also see her as an individual-a person-and i fshe so chooses that she just doesnt feel love for me anymore i beleive i can accept that and move on (however i sincerely hope this does not come to pass). anyways, i hated beign single, but thats just my person, i need someone to love me and for me to love. and when everyone ahtes you both can be ahrd.

[prezgfish]

single which is my fault at moment have phone number of girl who i like and am being to much of a damn coward to call her

which is dumb i know

and no i dont enjoy single life

[karismaklysm]

well, i adore being single... no worrying about when and who to eat with... the money thing always ends up out of control... i am a budget queen... until i get myself in a relationship.

the thing about liking being single is: if you're happy single, you wont stay that way long. that's just the way it works. i was thrilled with my life, not looking for anything, and along came ravein. and yes, she is the light in my heart, and the song that keeps getting stuck in my throat... but i wasnt looking for it.

power to freedom and singleness to those of you blessed with it! stay out late! buy yourself presents! enjoy!

*throws confetti*

[Oni Usagi]

Of course I'm not happy being single. I mean for the most part it's okay. But there's one huge problem I have with being single. There's no touching of the lay-dees. And that makes me sad .

*needs a girl*

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

i hate it i hate it i hate it!

course i've never really been not single for that long...but it was always better fun than being single, lonely and bored >_>

[Righteous]

Hell no.

I take the bus to the apartment everyday then go lie on my futon staring at the ceiling dwelling on my exgirlfriends and how much of a loser I feel because I get shot down so goddamn much.

Right now, I just want a simple, friendly, semi-easy monogamist relationship that doesn't even have to involve sex for all I care. I just want someone other than my evaporating friends that I can love and trust and talk to, someone who cares and won't jack me around, someone who understands me when I'm down and accepts me for who and what I am, someone who accepts my compliments and apologies and tells me that I do things right, someone who in some form or another "gets" me and won't be offended when I need "me" time, someone in which I can find one thing, a smile, loving eyes, something that makes her so amazingly beautiful that I can't get her image out of my mind, someone who won't yell at me for the scars on my arm and face or puts me down or belittles me or is so damn fickle that she pulls the make-up-break-up crap that tears at my heart.

Is that too much to ask for?

[vicrawr]

[...]I'm just really, really lonely. [...]And I'm lonely. [...]

Me too. Me too.





Wanna be lonely together?

[Jonman]

[...]I'm just really, really lonely. [...]And I'm lonely. [...]

Me too. Me too.





Wanna be lonely together?

Boo sadness!

I have to agree with karis - I was having an absolute ball being single. Was single for about 15 months after a messy breakup of a long term relationship. Didn't want a relationship - some sex would have been nice, but couldn't be bothered to deal with all the crap that traditionally goes with it, and the idea of paying for it really didn't appeal.

Then I moved to Seattle at the start of this year, and reckoned I was ready to start some idle dating again. So I did for a few months - had lots of fun, met some cool people. Still wasn't looking for anything even remotely serious, was having quite possibly the best time of my life being technically single, then bumbled into Kat and WHAMMO!

The rest is history, and if everything goes according to plan (which it ought to), there'll be lots more history to be made.

Anyway, waffle over, the point is that I thought I was top banana happy being single, and I was, but now I'm even happier by a factor of 18.lots

Yay me.

[Jaq]

Hmm... I think it would be nice to have a relationship, and of course getting laid, and I'm always looking out for someone. But at the same time I find that I'm pretty happy being single. I've been single for the great majority of my life, and let's face it, not one of us is ever going to be double. We all live alone, have our own consciences and minds and lives. That doesn't mean that you can't have lovely relationships with people, but you'll always remain autonomous and have your seperate thoughts and feelings no matter how co-dependent you get. In the end you have to rely on yourself for what you need, not depend on other people to give it to you, or somehow complete you.


We're born alone and we die alone. In between, how about a drink?

[simply,I'm a...]

sure it sucks being single.no sex,no hugs,no love.turns out that during my six month relationship,i didnt actually have love.my partner said it just to get me in bed.but towards the end of the relationship,he had changed so much,that i was miserable.i knew he was too,i also knew that he had been cheating on me all along with his ex.i kinda expected to be dumped,but it still came as a damn shock.i guess everything does,when its about someone u love.but although i have my bad days,i'm a lot happier now,and hey,the night is young!

[Sarah the Spider]

I have finally come to a point in life where I am content with just about everything...even being alone! I have become really happy because of some spiritual pursuits, and after all that soul-searching (which nearly tore my family apart, but has now worked itself out), being with a male doesn't seem like such a big deal. Of course, I have also never been in a real relationship. Sure, I think it would be nice to have someone to go to the movies with and hold my hand and all that silly lovey stuff...But I'm not in a huge hurry...Just got out of a few TERRIBLE crushes...

[FurryMammal]

im not that happy being alone, but things are looking good right now. me and this girl arent an item yet, but we practically are.

can you be a couple without ever mentioning it out loud?

[CommieBastard]

I was happy being single. I'm happier in a relationship. I'm sure that (pain of breakup aside) I'd be happy being single again. I'm an adjustable kind of fellow.

[CrissiLove]

I guess I'm not as adjustable.... lol I feel really lonely. Then again, even when I had a boyfriend, I felt like that sometimes....

I don't want to be with just anyone for the sake of being with somebody.... I want somebody who I know really and truly loves me. I want somebody I know I can trust and depend on. I want somebody special to enjoy things with... even just sitting at home and watching tv. I want somebody I can talk to about anything. I want somebody who will hold my hand, rub my hair, touch my cheek, hold me in his arms....

This is depressing.... lol

[LoLo]

I absolutetly loath being single. That's right LOATHE! Sure it gives me time to work on ME and spoil ME and do what I want and what not but I think the negatives just totally out weigh the positives.

There's no one there to cuddle with after a bad day. There's no one other than my mom to say, "I love you" before hangining up the phone, and well that just doesn't feel as good. There's no one to take care of when they're sick. There's no one to take care of you when you're sick. It makes going out to see movies or eat a hassle. As in you have to find a friend or group of friends who are willing to go too or just go by yourself, and by yourself just isn't as much fun. There's no one to tell me I'm beautiful and for me to actually think they might be telling the truth. (I know that's petty but it's just hard to buy from friends who don't want you or you don't want.)

The thing I hate most about being single though is this. I am perpetually the third or fifth or seventh wheel, because my friends all have boyfriends or girlfriends or husbands and there I am the alone one. The one no one can really picture in a relationship. The one who when they are in a relationship everyone finds it odd just to see them holding hands with another person.

[magikeyes14]

hm.. to me being single isnt that bad, isnt that great. I mean, your free to do whatever u want basicly with anyone of your choice, but if you have a open relationship u can do the same thing. I honestly have no problem with being in or out of a relationship. Being single doesnt bother me neither does being taken. I like the extra feeling of being taken care of, and being loved and cared for. But if i dont have it, o well. the thing that does bother me is when people think they have to have a signifigent other to be "normal" or to be the best they can be,. My frend Melanie thinks if she has a boifrend ,she is smarter and prittyer,.... when she is normaly uber beauftiful and uber smart// i dont think poeple should be dependent on a boifrend/gurlfrend. I just think they are great to have... becuase they care and love you.

[Righteous]

It's funny, whenever I talk about the girls I've dated who have dumped me (or the friends with whom I've made love and with whom I've seriously discussed marriage three days before she dates the town gooff*ck), the females who hear about how I treated them like gems, honored, respected, loved and to whom I devoted time, effort, energy and funds usually say something to the effect of, "Awwww..." It's as if no matter how much one loves and values a girlfriend, he is inevitably jacked around and dumped miserably, that is unless for his sake he has to end the relationship. That may not be true for all guys, but that sure as hell is my situation time after time after time.

[Mingtea]

Well there was me thinking I was the only one.

[CommieBastard]

Maybe this is just me, but I've never had a problem doing things alone. Going to the cinema alone, going for walks alone...in fact, I love it. Yep, probably just me.

[Jonman]

Maybe this is just me, but I've never had a problem doing things alone. Going to the cinema alone, going for walks alone...in fact, I love it. Yep, probably just me.

Nah, I hear ya. I spent 3 months last year pretty much on my own, while I was living in a small town in the desert in Southern Cali. Had no friends, the people I worked with were nice enough, but most of them were 20+ years older than me.

I was ready to be done with it by the time I finished, but I can't really say I was unhappy at any time. I just found ways to entertain myself.




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