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> Urgent - Please Read, Goodbye Dayan.
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post Nov 25 2003, 06:15 PM
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There is no easy way for me to say this, but it has to be said.


Dayan Francis Rowlands, known here as Debaser, died on Saturday 22nd November.

The cause of death, it grieves me to say, was apparently suicide. I hate so much to be the bearer of bad news to you all, but I have to tell you.

For those of us who are able and wish to attend, the funeral will be on Monday. Please contact me for details.

This touches all of us, and my thoughts are with those of us who knew him well.

I'm so sorry.


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post Nov 25 2003, 06:19 PM
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I know many of us are going to have a really hard time dealing with this. But the most important thing for us...is to be there for each other.

I'm going to miss you Dayan. You were indeed, one of the greatest people on this forum, on the web, and in life.

I'm going to have to post this later. I can't.


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post Nov 25 2003, 06:28 PM
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This BETTER NOT BE A JOKE!!!!!
WTF..........


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post Nov 25 2003, 06:28 PM
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There is nothing I can can say to this. It's terrible my sympathy goes to all his friends and family.
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post Nov 25 2003, 06:30 PM
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QUOTE (ravein @ Nov 25 2003, 06:37 PM)
This BETTER NOT BE A JOKE!!!!!
WTF..........

It's not. I'm so sorry.

And Cath, thank you for your sympathy. This is very hard for all of us - I appreciate it.


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post Nov 25 2003, 06:37 PM
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Well, I guess that answers where he's been. Can't say I like the answer. It's kinda hard to take in y'know. I, just can't think of much to say other than I'm sorry. sad.gif
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post Nov 25 2003, 06:39 PM
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does anyone know what happened?


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post Nov 25 2003, 06:49 PM
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Oh my god.

I don't even know what to say.

I just....am beyond words right now. He was such a good friend to me...always comforted me no matter what was happening in his own life...and I can't think of any words to describe how much that always meant.

I have to go.


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post Nov 25 2003, 06:52 PM
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QUOTE (Oni Usagi @ Nov 25 2003, 06:46 PM)
Well, I guess that answers where he's been. Can't say I like the answer. It's kinda hard to take in y'know. I, just can't think of much to say other than I'm sorry. sad.gif

I know what you mean, Oni. It just doesn't sink in at first.


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post Nov 25 2003, 06:55 PM
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love you dayan. wherever you are out there. thanks for making me smile. thanks for understanding. thanks for always being there. thank you for being...well you. i'm going to miss you, more then you'll know.


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post Nov 25 2003, 07:01 PM
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as someone with no words, but an unexplainable heaviness about all this... i have nothing but to offer someone else's thoughts for this sweet kid...

He had the gift
of stopping time
& listening well
so that it was easy
to hear who
we could become

& that was the future
he held safe
for each of us
in his great heart

you may ask, what now?
& I hope you understand
when we speak softly
among ourselves
& do not answer
just yet

for our future
is no longer the same
without him

I held him close for only a short time, but after he was gone, I'd see his smile on the face of a perfect stranger & I knew he would be there with me all the rest of my days.

The day he first told me he was starting to disappear I didn't believe him & so he stopped & held his hand up to the sun & it was like thin paper in the light & finally I said you seem very calm for a man who is disappearing & he said it was a relief after all those years of trying to keep the pieces of his life in one place. Later on, I went to see him again & as I was leaving, he put a package in my hand. This is the last piece of my life, he said, take good care of it & then he smiled & was gone & the room filled with the sound of the wind & when I opened the package there was nothing there & I thought there must be some mistake or maybe I dropped it & I got down on my hands & knees & looked until the light began to fade & then slowly I felt the pieces of my life fall away gently & suddenly I understood what he meant & I lay there for a long time crying & laughing at the same time.

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post Nov 25 2003, 07:26 PM
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The funeral is on Monday - if anyone wishes to send flowers, a letter or similar, PM me and I will give you my address. I'll see that anything you send gets there.


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post Nov 25 2003, 07:30 PM
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Oh my God. I'm speechless. I mean, he was one of the greatest friends I ever had. He was always so funny and helped me through so much in my life. I don't think i've ever met as geuinely as good of a person as him. I loved him, and he changed my life. R.I.P, I'll never forget him....
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post Nov 25 2003, 07:34 PM
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There's nothing I can say. Dayan was a close friend to all of us.


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post Nov 25 2003, 07:38 PM
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it just hurts my heart... there was not a nicer guy... when he bought the glass eye off ebay he made my month... I hate this... I hate this so much.....
we just have to be there for each other... this is the time when friends hold friends.. even if you have to hold them over bandwidth..... there was not a nicer, funnier guy.... I love him....


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post Nov 25 2003, 07:43 PM
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I can't believe this. He was my friend. Why didn't I know he felt like this?


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post Nov 25 2003, 07:43 PM
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I didn't know Dayan, but my heart goes out to him, his family, and all his friends here. I know there is nothing I can say to comfort those who are grieving now, but know you are in my thoughts, as is Dayan. My deepiest sympathies to you all. If I can do anything for anyone, please let me know.


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jesus sweet mary mother of all that is unholy. thats not right.


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post Nov 25 2003, 07:45 PM
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QUOTE (WeeJ @ Nov 25 2003, 07:52 PM)
I can't believe this. He was my friend. Why didn't I know he felt like this?

Talk to anyone who knew a suicide. Nobody ever expects it. You never think they could do something like that. None of us had any idea.


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QUOTE (CommieBastard @ Nov 25 2003, 07:54 PM)
QUOTE (WeeJ @ Nov 25 2003, 07:52 PM)
I can't believe this. He was my friend. Why didn't I know he felt like this?

Talk to anyone who knew a suicide. Nobody ever expects it. You never think they could do something like that. None of us had any idea.

I know that.....it just upsets me that I did'nt see any signs of depression, or that I did'nt act on any in time....
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sad.gif

I really don't know what to say.


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There are no words in the world to express how horrible this is. I am sorry for Dayan, his family, and friends....
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post Nov 25 2003, 07:58 PM
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I don't really know what to say... I'm new here so i didnt really know him but that doesnt stop me from being upset... All my love goes to his freinds and family.

R.I.P Dayan


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post Nov 25 2003, 08:03 PM
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ohmy.gif sad.gif .....I can't believe it....


I don't want to believe it....

I'm so sorry


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post Nov 25 2003, 08:05 PM
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QUOTE (MeirdBen @ Nov 25 2003, 08:07 PM)
I don't really know what to say... I'm new here so i didnt really know him but that doesnt stop me from being upset... All my love goes to his freinds and family.

R.I.P Dayan


Ben

Thank you for the sentiment, Ben. I speak for all of us when I say it's appreciated.


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