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> What Should I Do? *conflicting*, Sister versus Friend
Should I go see my sister Carrie, or should I say no thanks and hang with my friend Jenn?
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TigerLily013
post Dec 24 2003, 12:34 AM
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Well I got this conflict on my mind.

Okay, on the 27th this month, my sister, Carrie, invited me and my mom to a BBQed turkey dinner. Today though, my friend Jenn and I decided due to her being busy, we could see one another perhaps saturday. There's the conflict.

Reason being its so hard is because of many previous factors.

For one, dealing with my older sister can be very stressing. She can be being vicious with words and with nagging very easily. I really do not need the bullsh*t from her because I am still not up for it.

On the other hand, I have met their new kitty since their other one passed on. Plus I might actually enjoy myself, and not be as hesistant with being there. I might be 110% happy just hanging with my blood, my family.

Now, Jenn is a wonderful person. She can be loud and very annoying at times. We have had numerous disagreements and I am also a bit jealous of her drawing abilties, like WOW she is just too damn good.

On the other side of the coin, She has always been beside me and always was willing to listen. She is a great friend and since she left for college, everything just has not been the same. I miss our poking fun sessions and our yelling sprees out of her van. Those were some kick ass times.

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Well, I have shown you both the good and bad on both sides. I know the decision is up to me, but I also enjoy getting feedback from this place.

My final decision will be made tomorrow night after when I get back from a christmas gathering.

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post Dec 24 2003, 12:36 AM
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see if you can get your friend to join your family...

if not, head off with the blood...


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post Dec 24 2003, 03:03 AM
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we choose our friends ... we dont choose our family ...

BUT ...

these family things, if we participate, tend to make the family thing better for all (worse only on specific anecdotes) ...

so:

I say go with family and live the obligation ... then make a special point of including friend at another time (or right after, if possible) ....

This way family malarky gets better (cos no 'i dont want to go' bullshit) ... and friend gets including for those things that count, ie: making time for, and being with, friend ...

Win, Win situation .... anything else is conflict...

On the other hand, when the pupil is ready , the teacher appears ... so whatever..


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post Dec 24 2003, 03:20 AM
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what about inviting your friend to the bbq, or is that not an option?


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post Dec 24 2003, 03:55 AM
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experience is a hard teacher--it gives us the test first and the lesson last.

i say go with the family, your friend will understand. if you dont go then you have the possibility of burning your bridges, and doing that with family is a really stupid thing to do.


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post Dec 24 2003, 04:13 AM
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I can't really judge.....unsure.gif

I've just finished burning all bridges with over half of my family due to un-compromisable circumstances, so at this point, my friends kinda are my family....

If it's not possible to bring your friend to the BBQ....then.....
well, in my personal experience (which I know is not yours), it depends on who you'll feel the most comfortable with, who you'll feel most "at home" with, and who you know will make you feel the most welcome.


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post Dec 24 2003, 05:12 AM
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QUOTE (cheese is funny @ Dec 23 2003, 04:35 PM)
see if you can get your friend to join your family...

if not, head off with the blood...

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post Dec 24 2003, 06:40 AM
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Hmmmm....I could invite my friend to the dinner.

Oh i forgot to mention some things. I see my sister on s usual semi normal basis. As for Jenn, I haven't seen her since September.

Conclusion will happen christmas eve night! stay tuned!


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post Dec 24 2003, 06:49 AM
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QUOTE (Rattgirl @ Dec 23 2003, 11:12 PM)
If it's not possible to bring your friend to the BBQ....then.....
well, in my personal experience (which I know is not yours), it depends on who you'll feel the most comfortable with, who you'll feel most "at home" with, and who you know will make you feel the most welcome.

Ya, that's how I am trying to see things. I feel really myself with Jenn and as for Carrie I have slightly grown a bit afraid of her because of her being my older (more powerful in a way) sister.

On the other hand, Jenn can be a bit too wild for even me to control at times. She's like a sister to me too but of course not the same.

Ya....im still confuzzled. Keep that feedback coming, I need it unsure.gif


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post Dec 24 2003, 10:28 AM
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try and invite jenn to bbq, and then if not go to see your sister, cause she's always gonna be your sister and you don't want rifts starting anymore than they might have already rolleyes.gif


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post Dec 25 2003, 04:37 AM
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Well, My mind is semi made up now.

I will ask if Jenn would like to come with me, if she is able to go.

If she is not allowed, but she still wants to hang out, then we'll schedule it for sunday or something, cause ya it is true that i have not been to my sister's place in a long while. I will definitely post to tell you how it went.


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post Dec 26 2003, 03:10 AM
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UPDATE

Apparently, the reason why my mom insisted i come to my sister's is cuz I AM GETTING A NEW COMPUTER FROM HER!!! biggrin.gif Jenn is still being invited and I am SO not losing the chance to get a new comp smile.gif


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post Dec 28 2003, 09:37 AM
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what is it with people thinking they owe something to their families... siblings have done nothing but steal valuable air and shorten life-spans as far as I can tell.
they say "blood is thicker than water" but what the f*** does that mean anyways? I mean.. is that saying that you have blood ties to your family and... water ties to ordinary people? it doesn't even make sense (I just thought about this)

Well... it's too late anyways........................................................ but I already posted this.

This post has been edited by CommandeerOfSouls: Dec 28 2003, 09:38 AM


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post Dec 28 2003, 11:47 PM
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QUOTE (CommandeerOfSouls @ Dec 28 2003, 04:36 AM)
what is it with people thinking they owe something to their families... siblings have done nothing but steal valuable air and shorten life-spans as far as I can tell.
they say "blood is thicker than water" but what the f*** does that mean anyways? I mean.. is that saying that you have blood ties to your family and... water ties to ordinary people? it doesn't even make sense (I just thought about this)

Well... it's too late anyways........................................................ but I already posted this.

Oh I definitely understand. By the way I did get my new computer.

The time i had with my friend and sister were fine to one point when like usual I was joking around with flipping the bird as I have always done since I knew what the middle finger went, and my sister then threatened to take the computer away from me just a few minutes after I got it. Other things were she partly insulted the mp3's i made, saying it was elevator music, and both her and my friend were pissing me off. I am not annoyed at my friend cuz I have not interactered with her in a long while so I got some work to do with socializing again, but my sister once again got me upset last night.

Aw well, shit happens. I got my new computer, and its not too bad. I actually burned my first CD today smile.gif

Cheers once again fer the input happy.gif


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