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post Jan 4 2004, 08:44 AM
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Ok...so I've had a few recent calls lately with ALMOST getting my first date, but the time has TRULY come. Yes, it has.

I have a date Wednesday night with this really cool guy. He's rar-a-riffic. But like...I have NO idea on what to wear, how to behave, what to do...all that fun stuff. Should I be all cliche and do the whole opening doors/pulling out chairs thing? Or just be completely normal. Or just....rar. I don't know.

I was thinking a movie. But what movie? unsure.gif

I'm also thinking Applebee's for dinner, I could really go for some of tha tequilla grilled chicken they have....yum.

I'm just really unsure. Any suggestions and/or comments would be nice.

Wish me luck! happy.gif


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post Jan 4 2004, 09:49 AM
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Aries, you'll be fine. And for "date's" sake be yourself. There's no bigger disservice anyone can do to themselves than to be all "polished and perfect" to meet someone else's expectations.

Because?

When you get comfortable after a while, each other starts letting down the guard and slowly but surely all the little quirks appear and sometimes both parties have to reevaluate the relationship after all that.

So, be yourself. I mean REALLY be yourself. And the worst thing that can happen is that you part ways. Or, remain pals at best? rolleyes.gif

Ok, so maybe it's a little too raw and blunt. It's late and I just got in, kiss me guido!

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post Jan 4 2004, 11:18 AM
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Que? I thought you found yourself a boyfriend recently... In fact I'm almost positive you mentioned it or I got a link to your blog or something.... explain or I'll get out the E-stalkin' squad on ya!

Anyway, good luck. I've had several girlfriends but very little 'date' experience. So I can't really be much help.


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post Jan 4 2004, 12:01 PM
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Treat him like you'd treat your hand on a "hand-date":

1) Make him do all the work
2) Oil him up
3) Apply him to your groin



Hmmm... maybe that wasn't as helpful as I'd hoped. Meh. Do whatever comes naturally and relax. Of course that's easier said than done. Relax relax relax. See how easy it is to say? Now slay him!
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post Jan 4 2004, 12:58 PM
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Rules of a first date:

1) Never go for pasta or anything with too many sloppy sauces. No matter how tidy an eater you may be normally, that night will be the one where you are doomed to get it everywhere. Unless you happen to be a lower class dog dating an upper class dog, in which case you should always share a plate of spagetti.

2) Movies can be good, but sometimes it's a good idea to catch an earlier showing and then go for food afterwards. It gives you something to talk about over the meal if nothing else comes to mind. Movies do mean that you will be sitting quietly together for a couple of hours, so you won't really be getting to talk to him and getting to know him, but it does give the chance for some nice hand holding, which is always a good way of breaking across that first physical touch point.

3) Gay dates can be tricky, judging how the other person is happy behaving in public can sometimes be difficult. Play it by ear, but if you go for a kiss and he turns his cheek it doesn't necessarily mean that he's not interested, just that perhaps he's not yet comfortable with being openly gay in public. On the other hand he could be a screaming queen and you'll both end up drunk wearing women's underwear and dancing on top of a bar somewhere smile.gif

4) This is not an exam. It is not a test. You cannot fail it. If things don't work out then that's just because you're not right for eachother at the moment. That's the way things are and in no way reflects on your future date-ability.

5) This is not an exam. I thought I'd say that twice because most people ignore it the first time.

Have fun mate, let us know how it goes.


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post Jan 4 2004, 01:16 PM
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what he said. good luck.


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post Jan 4 2004, 02:10 PM
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Enjoy it - think of it like a learning experience. There may not be a second date if you two don't happen to get on, but it's a great chance to get some dating practice in.

Good luck. biggrin.gif
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post Jan 4 2004, 02:17 PM
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You know, it probably wouldn't hurt you to tell him that you haven't really done this before, just so any awkwardness/anxiety about it is open, and it'll feel like less pressure on you to be "the perfect date". Even though you shouldn't try to be perfect in the first place, Cameron Diaz. tongue.gif
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post Jan 4 2004, 04:12 PM
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QUOTE (MistressAlti @ Jan 4 2004, 09:16 AM)
You know, it probably wouldn't hurt you to tell him that you haven't really done this before, just so any awkwardness/anxiety about it is open, and it'll feel like less pressure on you to be "the perfect date". Even though you shouldn't try to be perfect in the first place, Cameron Diaz.  tongue.gif

Oooo!

Yesh. That's a great idea! Wear your Spidey underwear!

Listen. Treat it as if you were going out with your infatuation, your idol, please no groveling or drooling, that would send him screaming out there faster than you can say..."...Hello Charlie!".

With a lot of respect. A lot of self-respect. And explore candidly. But, no groping please.

Actually for the first few minutes your date will probably feel like your out with one of your co-workers. This is where your patience and perserverance usually pays off.

And follow Mata's Rules of Dating. It will be fine!

Nerves are normal. But, like your first time on a stage. Once you start everthing will be fine!

Oh. and don't fret over spilling your drink or getting buffalo wing sauce on yourself. laugh.gif This is usally when the character in each individual really comes through anyway. tongue.gif


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post Jan 4 2004, 04:44 PM
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There's not a great deal to add really But to make sure you get this one I will repeat it for umteanth time RELAX BE YOUR SELF!!!!
*ubber HUGS* you'll be great! biggrin.gif

Spidey pants definately good idea! tongue.gif


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post Jan 4 2004, 07:16 PM
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Yay go Aries! I'm glad to hear things are looking up!

Mata's idea's seem to be the best I've ever heard when it comes to dating. Have fun and be yourself. I can't suggest anything more cause I'm not too experienced in this anymore.

If you get bored, just got to a museum and pretend to be tour guides and tell everyone you guide wrong information! laugh.gif


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post Jan 4 2004, 08:53 PM
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Get absolutely twatted and fall off something.

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post Jan 5 2004, 05:15 AM
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For the record, yes I had recently found myself an e-boyfriend but that didn't work out all too well. Sob sob, remorse remorse.

The *NICE* thing about this date, is I kind of already know him, it's just....I'm a little scaredy cat. A big chicken, me.

But Mata's Rules of Dating are totally right on key. But then again, so are Polos'......*laughs*

Thanks guys! I'll post in this thread updating how badly I botched this one laugh.gif


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post Jan 5 2004, 05:27 AM
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Oh good! Your optimism is sure to win your date over. tongue.gif
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post Jan 5 2004, 07:26 PM
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QUOTE (Prince Aries @ Jan 5 2004, 12:14 AM)
For the record, yes I had recently found myself an e-boyfriend but that didn't work out all too well.  Sob sob, remorse remorse. 

The *NICE* thing about this date, is I kind of already know him, it's just....I'm a little scaredy cat.  A big chicken, me. 

But Mata's Rules of Dating are totally right on key.  But then again, so are Polos'......*laughs*

Thanks guys!  I'll post in this thread updating how badly I botched this one laugh.gif

Aries, confidence!!! Damn You! *Throws my Orange/Blue Nike's at you*

...maybe you should go on a mock date ?

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post Jan 5 2004, 07:44 PM
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Try finding out a little about this guy first... what he likes etc... I do suggest a date at the planetarium, it is dark... could be romantic... if done correctly. Also look at a predate hook up.. go get coffee to break the ice and it also give you time to preplan and gather important info about him... either way you will be faglicious and I am sure you will have a gayrific time! wink.gif biggrin.gif


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post Jan 5 2004, 08:19 PM
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Mmm, I have to agree, be yourself and.. Wes is right! Confidence my friend!

Good luck.

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post Jan 6 2004, 09:06 PM
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Listen to Mata !!

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