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cuttingallover
post Aug 28 2004, 07:37 PM
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okay, im new to the website... i was looking for people to talk to abut cutting, now i know its a much debated topic, but im really trying to look for better ways to deal with stress and im not sure what to do or where to turn to, i mean i have a phsych but he told me to come back witha list of things i can do besides cutting, but still cause pain but in a healthy way...
alls i need is some insight please??!
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post Aug 30 2004, 06:39 PM
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Okay, I'm going to straddle the fence here. Like Mike, I've known people who simply use cutting as an attention-seeking behaviour, especially when the person wants the attention of a) an adult or b) someone of the opposite sex. It's still a problem, but it's one that the person needs to learn to grow out of.

However, I've seen the other side, too. My boyfriend is clinically depressed and while he doesn't necessarily "cut", he owns knives and swords and is deliberately careless or dangerous around them, to the effect that his hands and arms are constantly cut up. It's not angst, and it's not for attention (in fact, he normally hides the fact that he's cut himself because he doesn't want to upset me). Suicidal cutters normally do it because there are deeper, underlying problems. You can't just tell somebody like that to "snap out of it". Insensitivity only makes it worse. The best thing is to be there for them and be willing to listen. The best advice I can give is to find someone you trust and talk to them about it.


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- cuttingallover   Opinion... I'm New   Aug 28 2004, 07:37 PM
- - Silver Star Angel of Da Towers   You could take your stress out creatively, like in...   Aug 28 2004, 08:59 PM
- - gothictheysay   Unfortunately, your want for pain is a problem too...   Aug 28 2004, 09:12 PM
- - PsychWardMike   *sigh* Anyway, if you want to actually stop doing...   Aug 29 2004, 12:18 AM
|- - Aria   QUOTE (PsychWardMike @ Aug 29 2004, 12:18 AM)...   Aug 29 2004, 02:30 AM
- - Righteous   (sigh) Go out there. Get a life. Get a hobby. Joi...   Aug 29 2004, 02:06 AM
- - Aria   Exercise, but be sure you don't over do it. Ex...   Aug 29 2004, 02:28 AM
- - gothictheysay   Very true, Aria. This a problem that's probab...   Aug 29 2004, 04:01 AM
- - EvilSpoon   ... Sam used to cut all the time... Sometimes up ...   Aug 29 2004, 04:12 AM
- - Jaq   I hate it when people trivialize this sort of thin...   Aug 29 2004, 07:09 AM
- - PsychWardMike   To Aria: No where in this person's post did t...   Aug 29 2004, 06:34 PM
|- - Aria   QUOTE (PsychWardMike @ Aug 29 2004, 06:34 PM)...   Aug 29 2004, 06:44 PM
- - PsychWardMike   So I suppose we're polar opposites. Note: th...   Aug 29 2004, 07:20 PM
|- - Aria   QUOTE (PsychWardMike @ Aug 29 2004, 07:20 PM)...   Aug 29 2004, 07:46 PM
- - PsychWardMike   No, they do not need help. They need maturity and...   Aug 29 2004, 08:20 PM
- - Mutilation   Listen to Radiohead, roll around on the floor and ...   Aug 29 2004, 09:11 PM
- - Righteous   I'm not trivializing it; look at the scars on ...   Aug 29 2004, 10:17 PM
- - spiffilicious05   I've been through cutting and other methods of...   Aug 30 2004, 12:17 AM
- - candice   You know what is far more annoying than angsty tee...   Aug 30 2004, 02:16 AM
- - PsychWardMike   dotdotdot. I love the way you overlook the actual...   Aug 30 2004, 02:25 AM
- - Dreams On Hiatus   I don't know what to say, because most of the ...   Aug 30 2004, 02:58 AM
- - Righteous   There's a big difference between angst and a s...   Aug 30 2004, 04:55 AM
- - Snugglebum the Destroyer   QUOTE I love the way you overlook the actual advic...   Aug 30 2004, 12:07 PM
|- - Jaq   QUOTE (Snugglebum the Destroyer @ Aug 30 2004...   Aug 30 2004, 02:13 PM
- - Ashbless   I was just wondering if there is something that tr...   Aug 30 2004, 01:16 PM
- - IrishGuy   Why is it that women always sound the smartest? An...   Aug 30 2004, 03:12 PM
- - artist.unknown   Okay, I'm going to straddle the fence here. Li...   Aug 30 2004, 06:39 PM
- - gothictheysay   Actually, Ashbless's advice is also doled out ...   Aug 30 2004, 10:48 PM
- - PsychWardMike   I've read this over the course of my psycholog...   Aug 30 2004, 11:04 PM
- - Snugglebum the Destroyer   QUOTE But again - we DO NOT KNOW who this person i...   Aug 30 2004, 11:12 PM
- - gothictheysay   Well, yeah it's speculation, but everyone was ...   Aug 30 2004, 11:18 PM
- - mothe   I share your pain. . . i just say because misery l...   Aug 31 2004, 01:29 AM
- - spiffilicious05   QUOTE Angsty teenagers that cut themselves are see...   Aug 31 2004, 01:49 AM
- - mothe   Spiff is right, people who haven't experianced...   Aug 31 2004, 01:59 AM
- - Jaq   I think you misunderstand the reasons that people ...   Aug 31 2004, 02:21 AM
- - Righteous   Define "truely suicidal." Mike. With a s...   Aug 31 2004, 02:32 AM
- - PsychWardMike   ... I allotted for each case to be different - eve...   Aug 31 2004, 03:23 AM
|- - Jaq   QUOTE (PsychWardMike @ Aug 31 2004, 12:23 PM)...   Aug 31 2004, 03:08 PM
- - Mutilation   QUOTE (Jaq @ Aug 31 2004, 03:08 PM)btw if you...   Aug 31 2004, 03:28 PM
|- - Jaq   QUOTE (Mutilation @ Sep 1 2004, 12:28 AM)QUOT...   Aug 31 2004, 03:54 PM
- - spiffilicious05   QUOTE And how can it possibly attention whoring wh...   Aug 31 2004, 07:33 PM
- - funked)out_frog   QUOTE Righteous Posted Today, 02:32 AM Sometimes...   Aug 31 2004, 08:34 PM
- - candice   Like Jaq said...most people who SI hide it from fa...   Aug 31 2004, 08:50 PM
- - gothictheysay   One main reason it's hard to just *stop* is be...   Aug 31 2004, 08:50 PM
- - PsychWardMike   Crying for help is just that - screaming into the ...   Aug 31 2004, 10:44 PM
|- - Aria   QUOTE (PsychWardMike @ Aug 31 2004, 10:44 PM)...   Sep 1 2004, 03:37 AM
- - Snugglebum the Destroyer   QUOTE Crying for help is just that - screaming int...   Aug 31 2004, 10:50 PM
- - Righteous   Other people's help can go only so far. No mat...   Sep 1 2004, 04:53 AM
|- - Aria   QUOTE (Righteous @ Sep 1 2004, 04:53 AM)Other...   Sep 1 2004, 07:58 PM
- - Pab   psickwodmick: your relentless agression towards al...   Sep 1 2004, 10:21 PM
- - PsychWardMike   *head* *hit* *keyboard* First: one should be self...   Sep 2 2004, 12:33 AM
- - Snugglebum the Destroyer   QUOTE Fourth: See the first, but I felt I should a...   Sep 2 2004, 12:42 AM
- - PsychWardMike   *head* *hit* *keyboard* AGAIN. I know I don't...   Sep 2 2004, 01:01 AM
- - mothe   QUOTE here, here! Thank god for level minded ...   Sep 2 2004, 01:31 AM
- - gothictheysay   Well see, Mike, the reason people need the help is...   Sep 2 2004, 01:53 AM
- - PsychWardMike   No. I don't. A muscle can only grow stronger...   Sep 2 2004, 02:19 AM
- - franken-sarah   I've been away from the forum for a while and ...   Sep 2 2004, 08:36 PM
- - PsychWardMike   They came to this forum, Sarah. They asked for he...   Sep 2 2004, 09:04 PM
|- - Pab   QUOTE (PsychWardMike @ Sep 2 2004, 11:04 PM)(...   Sep 2 2004, 09:24 PM
|- - Pab   QUOTE Way to miss my point *nods*   Sep 2 2004, 10:16 PM
- - PsychWardMike   Way to miss my point.   Sep 2 2004, 09:47 PM
- - gerbilfromhell   *wanders into thread* Y'know, for no reason a...   Sep 2 2004, 11:57 PM


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