Ugh.. I got a problem. I don't know what to do. And since you're all so friendly and full 'o tips I though I might post it here. So here goes;

Okay, I met this guy online on Wednesday, I believe. And we have so much in common it's scary. Like, we share our love for video games ( same genre and all! ) same author, same interests, and some same stuff that isn't really important.. anyways.. yeah. I found out he lives a few minutes from where I do. ( Whoa! The common-ness just keeps getting freakier! ) and we've been talking on the phone and he's all "I want to meet you." and I stupidly said "okay" I've only known him since Wednesday and today it Friday. Stupid, huh? I've never done that before but, we had so much in common that I was estatic and gave him my number. 'cause I don't really know many gamers in real life. So the problem is.. he wants me to like.. spend the night there. Wtf? Uh.. I don't want to. But he assumes I am, I guess. And.. er.. he wants to do stuff. o_O; I mean, he was pretty cool before all the "I wanna get in your pants" thing. And he calls all the time. >< He was getting freaky on the phone one time.. but, he also seems sweet sometimes. And I'm not really the confrintational type.. uh, so.. can you guys help me out? If I block his number he'd probably call me from a friend's house. >>; Thankfully he doesn't know where I live.

- Naida

Well, dear (take nothing from that; I call a lot of people dear), before there's any talk about crashing at his place, I say you should hang out with him more IRL. I would suggest bringing a friend and/or arming yourself with pepper spray or a stun gun. He might be a half-decent person.

And as for giving your number out, that was kinda sketchy, but I really can't say anything since Spiffy and I knew eachother for a few hours before I called her. If he ends up some creepy-ass bastard, get a caller ID, never call him and ignore his. He should eventually get the point.

Yeah.. he wants to meet and THEN go to his house. I don't plan on doing that. But, I guess he thinks I want to. I dunno. He seems nice 'n all. But sometimes all it seems he wants to do is get in my pants. e_e; I'm thinking of just not meeting him at all and not talking to him. But, how often do you meet someone you have so much in common with that lives ten minutes away? Doesn't happen to me all that often. He could end up being a great friend, though.. so I dunno.

Just be cautious. Meet him, in public. See how it goes and DO NOT be alone with him.

BTW - your AV is seriously cool.

Yeah, you may want to think about that...especially when somebody is quite active on the Internet, it's not all that difficult to find out where somebody lives and what they're into, and adjust one's approach accordingly.

I suspect, though, that you've just come into this with different expectations. You're looking for a friend, he's looking for sex.

I know someone who met someone off the internet and took a weapon, but told the person he was meeting before, I think it was something like a fixed blade knife....anyway, the person wanted nothing more to do with him.....so you could scare him off....that could work

1. Meet in public place
2. Meet in middle of day
3. Do not under any circumstances go back to this guys place after one meeting.
4. Take a friend you trust, if this guy is decent he will understand (if he doesn't he isn't decent)
5. Tell people where you are going and arrange a time to be back home
6. Be back home at that time if you live alone make sure you get a friend to call your house at that time to make sure you are back, or 'call in' on your return.

I'm afraid this all sounds really suspect to me and I'd either no show, back out or at least tell this guy that his manner is freaking you out and see what sort of response you get, then make a decision.

good luck hope it all works out safe for you no matter what.

Some advice... Don't trust anyone who introduces sex to the equation, this soon. At best, he'll probably lose interest after you 'spend the night'. At worst... well, I'm sure you've heard horror stories... and, if not, catch any episode of any of the CSI shows. seriously, though, be careful. Don't be alone with this person until you've spent some serious time getting to know who he is. And be careful, even then. There are some scary people out there, and they'll say, do, or be anything to get what they want. Again, this is hardly news, but it bears repeating...
Take care...

Nooo. >< I was never going to spend the night there to begin with! e_e; I'd be too freaked out to do that. o_O; I'm planning to wait for that. And I also don't want to be alone with a person I met online.. 'cept a select few I've known for years. They know who they are. ;D

Well, I know that! I was talking about HIS objectives, not yours. Just be careful.

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If you're listed in the phone book, he probably has your address. Search here to check and if it comes up correctly pray he's not used to stalking people this way. (FYI, I found Whitepages.com when my grandfather wanted to find some old army buddies of his to invite to his and my grandmother's 50th wedding anniversary. No, I'm NOT a stalker! )

Meet him in public, deffinitely. In fact, bring friends to the meeting. Say you thought he just wanted to hang out. Then proceed to hang out and see his reaction. A mall would be a good place for the meet. There's lots of people, there's things for you and him and your friends to do, and there's security guards for if things get out of hand.

I met my fiancee through the internet, actually. We clicked almost exactly like how you said you and he did, so it might just be a fate thing, but in the law of probability it's not exactly a high option. And yes, if he's introducing sex into the equation this fast, there's probably trouble afoot.

I'm most likely not going to meet him. You guys scared the poo outta me. ;P And I was iffy to begin with. So, meh. Thanks to everyone who replied.