i recently finished with a boyfriend of 3 months-he told me before we were going out that he's been in love with me for a year now,and he only just plucked up the courage to ask me out,(we'd always been close friends)so we went out,it was all fine and dandy,then an ex of mine who i'm still not over after 5 months started talking again.i decided it wasn't fair to lead the boyfriend on,so i finished it,very gently.so then he took an overdose.i've been sat with himc in hospital for the past 2 nights,(i cudnt very well leave him cud i???)and every chance he gets,he rings me.at all hours of the night,cryign his eyes out begging me to take him back.at first its pitiful,now its cruel-every chance he gets,he tries to guilt trip me into taking him back-after i sed no,yet again,after the overdose incident,he cut his arms up-not just little scratches either,looks like he was carving the x-mas turkey but missed.wat do i do????yell?rant?rave?take him back i na loveless relationship???lol HELP???!!!!!!!

As much as the situation of him od-ing is sad and unfortunate, it's not your fault. He made that decision, just as he's making the decision to guilt you. Don't give in. Don't yell at him, but find a way to get him to stop stalking you. And get him some help, seriously.

i've a story to tell, and its very personal, but i think this sounds like a good time... if possible let him see this, soz he can understand the folly of wat he's done.

i am a hopeless romantic, and ive fallen in love with two girls in my life... once way back in early high school... once more recently. theres a girl who ive been friends with for bout three years now, her names maggie. i fell in love with her soon after i met her... despite the fact she was one of my best mate's g/f at the time... a year or so ago, my feelings only having gotten stronger by the day, i plucked up the courage to tell her how i felt. nothings been happening at all in all this time, and she knows i still feel for her. ive spent three years pining over someone i would willingly die for, and nothing...
unrequitted love sux ass. being alone in your feelings, especially when theyre that strong, is the worst feeling in the world, worse even than daytime tv. but the one thing my time has taught me is that i have to keep my head throughout. hurting myself more than it already hurts is pointless, and acheives nothing. ms spastic, you were not wrong in what you did, but perhaps you should reconsider rebound relationships in the future. and anonymous overdoser... ive been there. ive looked down over the edge, thinking i wont have the courage to do anything. but it aint courage u need for that kinda idiocy. its ignorance. theres enough hurt in the world without spreading your own. thats how i cope. its my pain... no one else deserves it, so i'll carry it for the world. "ending" your pain isnt doing that - its giving it to your friends, family and every1 who knows you. if it hurts, tell someone how you feel. hell, ill listen to you if you want to tell! just dont go doing nething stupid like that in the future.
maggie and i are still the very best of friends. and i know i can always fall in love again... its like a disease or something...

wholey shnit!!!

wish i could help, i kan say tho, i was going out wit this really kool girl ('bout a year agao now) and she dumbed me after a day coz she still fancied her ex... damn i hurt, coz i'm not very popular she was like my second g/f ever!!! i was down for weeks or a week or two but i got better...

but this guy is serious... if ya don't do summat soon he may do sum shit... i dunno what the others have posted, i would say i don't think it's good advice but here goes...

i say u take him back, then try and calm him down... and slowly lose contact with him maybe... i donno ignore me that was really BAD advice!!!

well, i know i am young and all, and i think this kid is really a dumbass, but i will tell you about him anyway

ok well he was going out with someone who i used to be good friends with. because of him we stopped being friends, she was completely absorbed by him. well, a few weeks ago she FINALLY realized that hes a creepy disturbed skizo stalker and broke up with him. [we still havent salvaged our friendship too much but thats ok with me for now, i really dont like most of her friends and i have realized now how completely different i am from her and most of her friends] but he still sits at the table she used to sit at for lunch every day, and he sulks and cries, and he is never happy, and he doesnt talk to the people he was friends with before she came along, and he just cries and sulks still, weeks later. and now he has no friends because he left them for her. i really hate him, im sorry but i just cannot stand people who cant get over things like that because i really think that when they do that they are waisting their time living in the past. that guy really needs to get some help, spaz.

Kick him in the throat.

LMAO-simple, yet effective..

it sounds to me that if this guy is upset enough to do major bodily harm to himself after a short relationship, he's got bigger issues than just girl problems. of course, i'm not qualified nor do i know enough about him to tell you what those problems are, but if i were you, i'd convince him to take a stay in a mental hospital under suicide watch. some anti-depressants and a some counciling could go along way. what did he od on? street drugs, or is he already on some form of medication? how did he cut himself? was he released from the hospital that soon?!

well, i have had some experiance with love before and i would say, tell this guy everything, not just what pertains to the situation but how you feel and anything not even barely related be totally frank with him and tell him the history, tell him exactly where you are and tell him to tell you exactly his situation then talk about everything, just bite the bullet and go through every little detail and try and get all of his situation, and exactly how he feels and if he does feel that he must have you, then he will hopefully not want you after he finds out taht you arent going to go out with him in a loveless relationship. thats my 2 cents... maybe more like a nickel and 3 dimes...

Love is the biggest double edged sword. Carefull, doll.

>hug for spastic<

I don't know what to tell you so I won't say anything. Just be strong, okay?

love is the worst thing!

i've been in love twice, my first b/f (who i hate now, long story, maybe some day i'll get in to it), and another ex b/f (this one i can't shake).

my first b/f was one of those mind playing a**es, who was also controling. but for some reason i loved him.


the other b/f, screwed me over even more. i loved him so much. and one day i went over to his house for his family's fourth ofg july party. i guess i should have been more suspious but young stupid me, his ex girlfriend was there.
well i was leaving for a family trip so i had to leave early, and later that eveing, when i called to say goodbye, his ex told me that he was with her now and not me, and then not even two weeks later they got married.

so i can understand about the downs of being in love.
it gets better with time, never completely goes away but it gets better.


i hope the best for you in your situtation.

i could host jerry with my love life *trying to lighten the mood*

<hugs phoenex>

thats so sad... im sorry...

sweety its okay but thank you. <hugs cheese>

i had some time to heal, well a little bit of healing anyways

Holy sh*tnuggets... that sounds so similar to what happened to me once.

I was with this guy for a few months. He was so cute and sweet, I loved him to death. Then I went away for a few weeks, and all the sudden I got an email saying that he "was really sorry but this is the way it has to be". Which told me nothing. I had to hear that he'd gotten married to his ex-girlfriend from a mutual friend. That sucked. Yep. Wanted to die, the whole deal...

I feel for you phoe. seriously.

Love sucks. <gets out lovesmiter and kills love> Why doesn't anything sit still around here??!!

this is a veryserious thread so i will for once be serious

if someone claims to love you yet tries to force you into something you wish no part of. they truly don't love you.

if your friend has suicidal tendancies i suggest you help him get professional help.

i've had to watch one of my friends go threw the therapy and the recovery after an almost successfull suicide attempt. and it was a hard thing to go threw for me. let alone her. seeing someone who knows that they nearly died by there own hand is a scary thing. especially when you look in her eyes and see that the joy that was once there is replaced with guilt and sadness. a bit of her is now gone forever and a bit of me went with it.

just wanted to thank you guys for all the great advice-eventually,i just stayed close friends with him and helped him through it as much as i could,because i've been there myself.but thankies to all u guys!

*hugs EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!* love you all!

Love is definitely not the same as it used to be. It is very hard to find real love this age of society but I think I have something good....

For close to 4 years, I was friends to good friends to best friends to close friends with my angel Jon. He had someone and I had someone at those times but both relationships went downhill. I felt neglected in mine and he felt he couldnt feel trusted in his. We were always there for one another even though this was online. It didnt matter though both of us later on realized where the love really was all along.

Since then, we've been going out for almost 7 months now. It has felt like weve known each other all our lives. I love him so much.

Whatever happened to our previous relationships you ask?

Jon doesnt talk to her anymore because all the b/s he put up with.

As for mine, he never called ours a relationship and played me a couple of times telling me hed visit but never did. Now he's doing that to my not-so-close friend (serves her right)

it is hard to find love, but thats how you know it when it happens, but sometimes it makes you scared of love. i know i am.

you shouldnt be scared of love phoenix, youll make a very lucky person very happy...

love is only to be feared when lost