I was speaking to my friend once and I asked her why she broke up with her boyfriend. She told me it's because she remembers what her Dad said to her she can have a black friend as long as she never marries or goes out with anyone black.

I spoke to some one else about this and they told me it was perfectly normal and some family's are just like, also that it's best to respect this.

I just want to know what other people’s thoughts on this are. Would you find this offensive?

My friend is just an exsample of the many people who have said this to me. I felt awkward because I am mixed race and couldn’t help to feel offended. Also I have realised that I am never allowed around her house when her Dad is home only her Mum.

Would you think that this is fine or would you also disagree?

This is not to offend anyone I am just curious to know.

It's not so much the race thing - I just find it weird that she broke up with her boyfriend because her father said she should.

I mean, how much of a relationship can you really have had if you'll break it off on someone else's opinion?

I'm just wearily surprised that people still think this way, but, and it's no excuse, maybe
it's just one of those stupid things that fathers say...
( My own dad used to say the very same to my sister, but not to me, hmmm. )

I think, hopefully, that if your friend's realationship with this boy had countinued, the
dad would have dealt with it despite his own feelings...
After all, I'd hope he would want his daughter to be happy...

But, if the family are actively making sure that you and her dad don't cross each
others paths, then HE does have a problem, and sometimes, as hard as it can be, that
needs to be tackled head on.

Gotta agree with CommieBastard, if your friend was really serious about her boyfriend,
she would've fought a little harder.

Anyhooo, thats enough waffle from me!

Agreed Matthew I was shocked that people still thought this way.

I have never quite understood it but have been afraid to ask encase the answer is going to be something I don't want to hear. Why would you have no problem some one being your friend but not go out with some one who is black.

I knew this still went one but it never really crossed my mind until now. I thought it was a good issue to bring up because until I started asking I never realised how many people are actually affected by this way of thinking.

I think an awful lot of people still skirt around issues of race and sexuality in Britain even nowadays... I think until people are confronted with their own prejudices they just toddle along thinking its ok to come out with such silly and hurtful assumptions.

I think that a lot of Briton's of a certain generation/geographical location still think in terms of colour etc, but only cos they've never been in a situation when they had to deal
with it. I know that's no comfort for being treated differently, just gotta remember that there are lots of stupid people out there!

It is offensive to me, I wonder what his basis for this embargo is?



Agreed, and I kinda feel sorry for them and the oportunities they have missed.

a friend of mine (who is jewish)'s parents told him he MUST marry a jewish girl. they say he can date whoever he wants to experiment, but he can only marry her if shes jewish.

i dont think this is right because in my family, my dad married a puerto rican woman, and there was an uproar about it. she unfortunately passed away before i was born, and my dad married my mom a few years later, who adopted my older brothers and raised them as her own. luckilly, things are ok now, and my once more-closed minded grandma doesnt mind me dating a guatemalan guy or my cousin dating an indian girl or my older brother dating a girl who is half black and half irish.

My dad would freak out if he knew that I so much as have a friend who was black. What he doesn't know is that dispite him constantly trying to get it into my head, I think that It's just a skin color - It doesn't really effect the person.

Of course, He was taught that by his dad, who was taught that by his dad.... and so on. (not that that gives him an excuse)

Offended by it? Well, I'd imagene that if any of my friends knew about that, they would be. If one of my friends and a parent that wouldn't let them be my friend because I'm white, I'd be offended.