There are lots of abuse in this world.. there is phisical, mental, and emotion abuse.. have you ever suffered from one of these? I have.. I just want to know if I'm the only one.. and if I am.. than.. can someone please tell me what the hell I can do to get out of it?

*sighs*

what do I do wrong..?

yes... but no more... i've never told anyone about it T_T

yes... i have been physically abused.... long story that id rather not explain... but it all came down to some 35 or so year old putting his boot in my face and chest a couple of times.... and then having his kids (all older then me) stalk me, which was mentally abusing as i was scared that they were EVERYWHERE...

i dont know how other people get out of there abuse... but i found calling the police worked best, as i knew where the guy lived, and his kids lived with him... dont try to deal with something like this alone... its not the best option, rely on your friends and family to help you, you need the support to get you through tough times....

I think we should make a little club.. where its the "abuse free club" where people can be happy and leave there RL's at there house XD.. just a suggestion

that club already exists... its these forums... we leave our lives at the door... and talk about it if and when we choose...

>__________< lol

well...i was thinking about it... i hate what my parents do to me and to me its like mental abuse but i really think i am just being a little melo dramatic bratty girl. but then i realized: i have been abused. not by my family--but by people at school. when i was in 1st-4th grade i think...these kids would tease me sooooo much.....to the point where i would cry....my mom called their parents but it didnt help...my dad even yelled at them in their faces... the worst part was they all lived on my street!!!!! and i live on this street in the middle of nowhere too! some of them still hate me.... they would say i was fat and stupid. i dont understand it. i wasnt fat-i was a little bit chubby but not fat!!!!! they were all reallllllllly skinny too. so then i learned to ignore them and one of them moved away and the other one moved up to the next school. you see, that is over now, but i realized that boys abuse me ALL the time because of my boobs! always trying to grab me and everything! its horrible and i am strong and i will hit them and even kick them in the balls but they dont stop! arrrrrghhh! and i know this guy who about 3 or 4 years older than me...he grabbed my butt and called me at like 1130 that night....then i yelled and screamed at him and hung up...he called again....then he called me again a few weeks later. and he told me that i look exactly like some porn star and was telling me all about how great the porn mag she was in was..... he called me again 2 more times arghhhhhh!

Hi Neko.

I hate to hear people are hurt in any way, and hope that you are ok.

As you said abuse comes in many different forms...

From my own experiences I have found that there are solutions to abuse - whatever the abuse is.

The first thing (and I know this sounds silly) is to establish that there is a problem... a lot of people who are being abused think that it is normal, or (worse still) that it is in some way their fault! This is not a healthy attitude to adopt.

I am very scared about giving any further advice on this point for lots of reasons... the most important is that I don't know what kind of abuse it is that you are suffering. Usually if there is a way of ending a problem it is only for that specific problem and might not work for other forms of abuse...

If you haven't done so already : try and work out what the abuse is - where it is coming from - who is resposible - why they are abusing you - for how long its been going on...

The Internet has a lot of very dedicated support groups who will be able to give you the right kind of advice (but be careful who you tell and what help they offer)... Once you know what the problem is then you could try looking for some kind of help group / professional advice.

I don't want you to feel you can't talk it out here - I just think that you should also try getting the opinions of people who are more experienced as well.

Whatever you do --- DON'T GIVE UP

and try not to blame yourself... I doubt that you are doing anything that deserves abuse Neko... if you need to talk more most of the people here are ok (but again be careful what you say - don't give away any personal details eg name or address)... I really hope that one of us here can help.

I get emotionally abused by my grandmother.. I live with here.. because my parents are divorced.. my dad's a trucker so he's never around.. and my mom.. she's just drunk all the time.. I get emotional abuse from he most of the time.. when I see you.. she just has to insult.. I got physically abused by he b/f with a frying pan that just came off a hot stove.. that's why I live with my grandmother now.....

My brother has some issues.. and desided the best way to let them all out is on me.... and than there was my ex today.. trying to get stuff from me.. physically.. I have bruises from him because I said no.. I have many many scars from different things that's happened in my live.. wether from knifes, fire, stoves, or getting pushed down things..

*sighs*

sometimes.. wish I was born into a diferent family..

i'm emotionally, and mostly physically abused.

it's a living hell.

and now i can't say anymore because i've never told anyone ._.

Elf,

I hope you don't mind me responding to your earlier post like this...

It took absolutley ages for me to talk to someone about the abuse I was going through (mainly physical abuse but racially and religiously motivated)

You don't have to tell any of us anything if you don't feel comfortable about it.

I just hope that you've got some way of protecting yourself from the abuse you're receiving.

As I said above - try using the net to get advice ... you don't even need to talk/write about it at all. Just a suggestion I hope you don't mind.

well neko, i sincerely hope that the abuse you recieve will stop soon.
personally i have been abused mentally and physically by my "friends" who are now not even parts of my life (quite hapilily might i add) they would make my life hell (explained in the "suicide" thread) and they also would hurt me like punch me and beat me up. it was more mental than physical normally but it was really fu**ed up and i dont know why i put up with it for as long as i did. oh well im over it. im happier than they have become. and i also have many more friends than they. besides my old life was left with the building when i moved houses and schools

I think everyone goes through abuse at one point in their life or another. Though, I find it helps to talk with a group of friends about it and get some decent advice. That's my two cents on that.

friends are the best way to get over things. except that sometimes its a lack of friends or real friends at least, that cultivate the problem and belif that you yourself are doing something wrong when abused. this thread is also closely tied to the suicide thread being that suicide is a possiable outcome of abuse and is one of the more extreme ones therefore deserving more attention

OMG everyone has said yes.

(First - I'm sorry for not replying earlier - but my internet connection went down and has only just got back.... sorry.)

This sounds like you’re getting ongoing abuse... I juast hope that I can make some/any useful suggestions.

You're living away from your mother and her boyfriend - so I hope that you're physically safe on that count.

Your ex boyfriend sounds like a more serious problem, he is physically hurting you and that has to be stopped... if you can avoid him then do so - if not, then try and have a lot of people around you whenever he's near you (if that's possible).
If it comes to it, you could try checking the internet for any websites / groups offering advice on how to deal with violent and dangerous ex's...
I would also suggest that you keep the cops number handy... most police forces have a dedicated team of officers who deal with these kind of problems (you might be able to just talk to a policeman/woman just to let them know there's a problem without making it official).

The same approach of avoiding your brother might work; it depends on what kind of threat he is... I'm not sure... maybe you could try to gently talk to him about his problems (get him to speak about them and let off steam that way - and not bottle up his problems and end up taking it out on you), but this might get him more angry --- I'm not sure -- just try to be careful.

I don't know if there's any way of avoiding your grandmother, maybe talking to her (not arguing - but talking), maybe it would be better to just keep quiet... I don't know, but what is important is that you shouldn't let what she (or anyone else) says make you distressed...
I know it’s difficult to distance yourself from abuse like that but it isn't a reflection on you! You are still a person and you should never feel that you are any bit less a person because of what people say (even your grandmother).

Once again try the net for ideas on dealing with abuse, and call the cops if it gets violent.

I hope you can get some ideas from what I've written... sorry if it's not useful...

This thread is depressing.

this thread is depressing... but.. it is helpful to the people that need help... in this case kawaii... i feel so bad for her...

sad, isnt it? it makes you wonder what kind of world we live in...

thank you for the suggestions Overfriendly_Kitten.. I will wait it out and if more stuff continue than I'll do something about it..

I can't say that I am happy that there are others that are getting the same things.. but its just.. I dunno.. I'm not the only one.. for so long I felt like I was doing everything.. like what the hell can I do to make people so pissed off that they have to hate me..

the really weird thing is.. is that I help my friends deal with there arguements when the parents take away there t.v.. but they havn't had my parents.. no.. a t.v is too easy to take away.. they knew I didn't care bout it.. I more more of the type of person who would sit in the sun and draw things.. just out of the blue... but.. they havn't had what I had.. no.. my mom gets so drunk she swares all the freaking time.. and so she used to lock me in the basement with nothing.. it was horrible.. ever had rats around your feet?.. my dad never knew bout this.. he was too busy being in another state having sex with god only knows how many people.. but when he found out he got me with my nan.. I'm used to all the punches and mental pain people try to cause me.. I've only had one break down.. and that was when my best friend was crying because she saw what they do.. my one soft spot.. someone else crying.. its like totally different from everything else around me.. but one thing has changed.. or has influenced what I do now.. when there is violence around me.. I try to fight back.. its better to go down in a fight you acually got one good hit in.. but for a lone time.. I turned myself cold.. no one could break down my walls.. or shatter my heart.. I protected myself.. didn't need anyone.. than my ex came.. sure he was great.. he broke down all my walls.. and I got comfortable with him.. than he turned.. someone you think loves you.. just wanted you for your boobs or in your pants.. but.. I like to say that I am still a vergin.. and have never been kissed.. I fought to keep that for myself.. one thing no ones is EVER going to steal from me.. No one.. not untill I find the right person..

For those who have kind of gone threw what I have.. I just like to say.. never give up.. you'll get out of it sooner of later.. but you have to find ways.. like next summer I'm going to alabama to meet an online friend.. I'm going for 2 weeks.. and I'm saving up right now.. anyway.. don't think its your fault things happen.. its no.. its just the people around you have problems and need there own help.. do not fall into depression.. its not a great place.. I've been there many many many times.. not fun.. and build walls.. you need defence.. just don't let your heart turn cold..its hard to start trusting people after that..

Its safe to say that I have one thing.. that has been with me forever.. I have a best friend.. we've been best friends for 11 years.. after she turned 13 it will than be 12 years.. she turns 13 really soon ... I feel better.. I let that alll out.. *relaxes now*

Right. I'm no agony uncle or aunt, but once again, I feel the need to mouth off and try to distribute whatever advice I have.

You are a tremendous person for even having kept your spirit after all those hardships. It forces one to grow up faster than those around one, hm? But I can say, most people in your situation would be suicidal and all mess of other problems than you are now, and I truly applaud you for even being able to share such a horrid experience with us. Funny that they have a legal age for alcohol and cigarettes, but they let any crazy dead beat f--k become a parent. When you're an adult, you wont have to deal with their crap any more, and you'll be a better person for having not let them take you over. You've held onto yourself.

Say, have you tested your best friend as someone to just sit and listen to you? You know, the let you cry on their shoulder hand you a tissue give you hugs kind of thing? I suggest it. Because knowing that someone is that close to you in your time of need is a tremendous boost, and it makes the crap a lot easier to go through. But if for any reason, she isn't avaliable for you at the moment, I know everyone in here would be glad to be that person that you rant to. Just drop us a line, alright? You hold up. You've done great so far, I know you won't let those things get you all the way down. Have a good day.

- syuu

thank you ^ ^"

that's the thing.. she's always been there.. the longest fight we had lasted 2 hours.. it was funny.. I'm glade I let all the out.. its been such a pain to keep in.. and thank you all.. I'm am happy to say that this place is like my family.. well maybe not like my family.. but like a family that is there for you.. thank you all *hugs everyone*

i guess its time to explain another for me...

well.. just recently, everyone thought i was going to bomb my school because they misunderstood something i said... now... many many people are scared of me... and all the black students thought i did it because they messed with me and i wanted "payback"... and because of that... all the whitepower kids thought i was the greatest person in my city.. and tried to make me join a white power gang...

well.. at first... i thought it was sorta funny and just shruged it all off... but... now that i think about it... it hurts me... people that know nothing about me... and will probebly never know anything about me, are scared for their lives.... they think i hate them and i really dont... they feel at risk when i walk into a large open area and run off... sometimes its too much for me to handle and it gets me really depressed... there is almost nothing i can do to make them forget what "was going to happen" or make them change their minds about me.... it messes with my head when a someone i dont know starts to talk to me.. its like they are just talking to me to get inside my head and hurt me... it hurts to think like that cause there are a few people i dont know that know that im not all crazy like that... but... i still think that they are going to hurt me...

Never an issue, sweetheart.

it's kinda sad that people get abused. maybe that's why i like the computer so much... i get abused physically mentally and emotionally. more physically and emotionally though... *glares at the evil bitch monster of doom* NOTE: The evil bitch monster of doom would be meh mum.

Moms are like that. e_x;;

no.....i feel special, i've never experienced what i'd class as abuse, guess i'm just lucky

....well there was some arse at school, but that was kids....and it was only him

i once had a dream and i strangled my sister, stabbed my mom, stabbed my bus driver, shot my sixth grade home room teacher with a machine gun, knocked these two jack asses head off with a frying pan then went home and fell asleep... it was... strange...

please... do not spam serious threads....

I guess this thing will just keep going on forever.. because if our parents wer abused.. than more than likely that's how there going to treat there kids.. so maybe.. were no better than them really.. but I got to say.. I don't wanna look like my mom.. ick... *does cross sign with her fingers*

-would add to this, but sharing so much abuse would abuse others, and quite frankly would be here until next thursday typing-

(but i turned out ok)

Hm... I feel like talking about it.

It first started when I was 5 and I accidentally stole a Barbie brush (>_< I wish I hated Barbie all my life, but I didn't. Anyway...) My dad found out, and he started beating me. He stopped for a few years...

And now that I'm in my teens, I think we've been having a lot of problems lately, mostly with my wanting to have more than 15 minutes a day of online. (Yes, I only get 15 minutes a day. But I go on when I'm "doing my homework", etc.) He knows I want to be a graphics/web designer when I grow up, but he still won't let me practice. He promised to give me a laptop for my birthday (which was last month) but ... he decided I didn't need it. The worst part is my mom encouraging him to hit me harder, saying I deserve more.

._.

*whisper* Don't tell anyone outside this board. Please...

-gets all macho and protective-

u tell im he can beat this in future (dont im jk, but thats really quite bad...)

*sniffle* thanks... >_< i hate my life... >_<

*hugs elf*

its ok ^ ^

*hugs more*

we all have our ways at dealing with things.. and believe your not the only one..

damn do i have to protect every1's virtue around here?

-dons his knight in shining armour cozzie-

ok bring em on... (lol)

are you on a horse...?

goddamn! your mom tells him to hit you harder? i cant even imagine... your dad is really bad.. but you mom is really f***ed up.... that really pisses me off.... i cant even put my anger in words....

You'll find that most people have rediculously fucked up parents.

theres a difference between fucked up and that... her parents deserve painful death... painful slow aggonizing torturing death... anyone that abuses someone in anyway deserves that... gah.... im so pissed...

my mom was abused as a child....i dont know if i already said this but her parents wanted her to be a boy and her mother didnt love her, she loved her sister, who could do no wrong, and lived at home her entire life. she got married at one point, it lasted about 2 years because she needed her mommy. my mom is not abusive to me, shes just bitchy. but im bitchy too. its more the guys that are abusive to me. but everyone else has bigger problems..i wonder if anyone even read my first post lol.

sheesh. and the beat goes on.

well... ive never really thought about this untill earlier today... i have been abused by my father for a long time....

my dad... he knows how to control me... in any way he chooses... any time he chooses... its always "youd better watch what you say/do, if you dont watch it, ill make you live down here with me" i hate where my dad lives... i hate where my mom lives... but, i at least know some people at where my mom lives... he knows that me being forced to move would mean my life would come to a crashing hault... he knows that thats what i fear most in life.... he knows that i will do almost anything to not live with him.... he knows... he knows he has his hand on the leash that keeps me doing his will... and it kills me... i can take a beating... id rather take one of those at this point in time... but why the fuck does he have to screw with my mind? why the fuck does he threaten my existence like this? why the fuck does he send me off into depressions whenever he chooses? why doesnt he realize that sooner or later im going to put a hole in his face? or my own....

Because fathers are dumb grown dogs. Don't kill him, grate on his mind.

i cant do anything to him... he doesnt even let my have my opinion.. he controlls me... only thing he cant controll is my anger and hatred... and what i type...

When you're out of the house, it'll all be better.

thinking about this... made me think about my mom... she does the same thing... but to a lesser effect...

she does massive guilt trips on me... everytime i think about doing something that she doesnt like... she always lowers her voice... and sounds all sad... and it makes me feel so bad i cant do what i wanted to do... i know she is BSing me... but i cant stand it... i hate this..

and while im ranting... my grandma on my dads side... you see... my dad still lives with his parents.. right nextstore actually... and she does the same thing as BOTH of my parents... its a guilt trip or the threat to live with them... i cant even yell at them or i feel bad... everyone has a hand on this huge leash im being forced to where... and its a thorned leash... and when im out of line.. they strangle and cut me...

i hate this.. i hate it all... i hate life... i envy the dead....

i wonder if my parents would even care if i hung myself...

No. Never envy the dead, you don't know where they are. Cheez, you're going through absolute hell now, and you've pulled through so far without murdering anyone in the house. It astonishes me how parents can be such absolute morons, and their kids turn out to be awesome. You're a great guy, and I'm sorry your retard birthgivers can't see that. You wont have to deal with it for much longer though. When you're on your own, you don't even have to look back. I don't suggest you should look back at all. Just do your best to grit your teeth and ignore them, until you're gone from there, there's not much else you can do. Know myself and the forums are always here for you, though. Many of us also have skank parents. Chin up, luv. You're well loved. If not by your ignorant parents, then by us.

Don't even think about that. They don't deserve you. Know that it would injure a good many of us if you were to commit such an act. Please don't.