QUOTE (gothictheysay @ Aug 16 2010, 03:50 PM)
Getting divorced when you have children is rough, but I think that some people don't realize that sometimes it will be more beneficial for the children too if the parents separate - if together they are making an unstable home.
I often heard of couples staying together "for the children" and, whilst their sentiments may be right, sometimes it is better for them to go their separate ways. A two-parent tumultuous household surely cannot be better than a stable, single-parent one?
Throughout school and sixth-form college, I often felt as though I was in a minority because my parents were still together. It seemed as though the majority of my friends lived with just the one parents, and so it was my
family life that was unusual. Nevertheless, it never crossed my mind that the single-parent families were any less functional as a unit... they were just different to mine.
Having said that, almost all of the friends I had who's parents had separated had a negative view of marriage and "the family". This is understandable, I'm sure, but I wonder how many of these children still feel this way, and are actively avoiding a future that contains marriage? However, one girl who was always adamant that she wanted neither children nor married-life, is now living a life that's about as traditional and domestic as you can get. Maybe the opposite can be true...
In the UK, there was a bit of fuss kicked up when the government announced their plans to introduced a tax break for marriage couples - essentially, giving married couples an extra £150 each year. This included married gay couples ("civil partnerships"), but ultimately there was a lot of complaints about what seemed to be a "reward" for marriage and thus other types of families were being penalised.