To be completely honest, there's nothing to tell her/them at the moment...

No problem, I didn't have a particularly great time of it when I was trying to comes to terms with being bi so whatever you decide I'll be very happy if anything I say makes it easier.

I'm not sure about the wise bit but it's nice that you think so

lol...Well, I think you (and everyone here) as been a huge help

Um, yes. I'm quite sure. As I've mentioned in many, many other places in this forum, I was raised in a strict, psycho-conservative Lutheran home. My father's side of the family would disown me. They'd like to disown me for being pro-gay rights; imagine what they'd think if I told them all the reasons why I held that view! My mother would accept it on the surface but would be highly disappointed in me, and her side of the family would have very polarized views - some would accept it unconditionally, some would pretend I dropped off the face of the earth.

Somehow, being myself and telling the truth is only going to make my life worse. Which is a sad thought, but knowing it has kept me quiet for five years now.

MissyA, I'm sorry that your family wouldn't be able to handle it, I just hope that one day you'll be surrounded by people who will accept you jus for who you are. If the way you post on here is anything to go by you're a very loving person so I don't doubt that this will happen.

I agree with Mata... I understand though... I can never tell my father I am gay. He would really kill me. And I do not mean figuratively. He would really kill me.. and probably kill my mom to for knowing... then he would kill himself.
He is a great man, but he is old and set in his ways. He was born in a different time period... he is a old man... they didn't have gay people back then so I keep my secret...my mom tells him I am to independent to want a man.. that I am happy with my career and have no desire to be with a "sorry ass man". My mom is completely cool with me, and supports me 99% she will always have a hint of hope that one day I will get married to a big ole man... but otherwise she is completely cool with who I am and she loves my gf. My dad loves her to, he just thinks that she is my roommate

I really have no idea how my dad would react because he's gay. I don't know if he'd be supportive or just say I'm confused because of him. o_O
My mum's been left kind of screwed up by him though so I don't think I could ever tell her.

That is so my father and his family... back in my grandpa's day, they didn't have "Negros" either. They're a throwback to a narrow-minded era, that's for sure...


It's really kind of you to say that... the forum's one of the first places I've dared say anything about my bisexuality at all, and y'all's support means so much to me... I hope I have a chance to be myself someday...

/me hugs Missy.

Not fair is it? Wouldn't it be great if life were simple and more 'mature' members of society were more cosmipolitan when it comes to sexuality...

Maybe by the time we're the more mature members of society, it will be.

Personally, i believe that there is nothing wrong with bisexuality and it doesn't change who a person is. So what if someone likes another of the same sex if there happy isn't it better? There's no point in living in a society in which you can't be yourself... i understand people wanting to keep it from their parents cause if i was i'm sure i would want to aswell, but i just don't understand why it is such a big deal... - the million pound question! - nobody is harming anyone!

I myself am not bisexual but i will comfortably kiss other female friends and i have - much to the pleasure of male friends watching!! And i am completely fasinated by man on man! I'd like to think that i am completely comfortable within my sexuality and i personally could never see myself without a man - i love them to much!

But i don't believe that bisexuality should be treated the way it is today...

And that, ladies and gentleman, is someone at ease with her sexuality.

/me hugs Queenie

uh huh prob too much u prob wouldnt think it if you saw me in the flesh!

I meant you're comfortable with your sexuality (hetro)
Not what others think

Although I guess it can be a big deal as to how people see you in every day life. If I was to decide that I'm bi, I wouldn't want people to know about it as its personal. Its not like hetrosexual people run around shouting 'Look at me! I'm hetro!

*nods*

lmao, the visual I get from that is priceless...

But in seriousness, heterosexual people don't need to run around shouting about their sexuality - it's a societal default for them already. They have no need to distinguish themselves as hetero. The people around them have already assumed as that much about them.

Visual is wondermus...

My friend/exfiancé Harmonie says that girls are prettier. I dunno. She's weird.

being bi does not mean your confused thats the line i hear the most often. i know i'm not confused i made a decision based upon how i feel how is that confused i dunno? anyhow if someone came up to me and asked me if i was gay or whatever id probably tell them or jus plain ignore them...how many ppl ask straight ppl if theyre straight?

anyhoo i'm done rambling

lol yeah I know what you mean..lol I've never bothered to ask anyone their sexual preference...I may be Bi...but I never asume someone else is...or stright or gay or other wise so I never ask...

i suppose i might ask if i was really interested in someone but other than that it wouldnt really cross my mind...cause honestly i dont care lol....

well if I was intrasted then yeah but other then that I wouldn't care...

it can be a difficult situation to ask someone even under those circumstances cause well i dont like being asked either lol...conundrum.

LOL I know I hate asking ppl...it's like oh BTW are you bi by any chance cause I am and I'm digging you...lol then they have to blank stair...

lol i'm usualy afraid that they'll say no and get scared away...

*nods* same here...
It's so hard to find a boyfriend/girlfriend these days...

teeeeeeeeeelll us about it janet....lol lil rocky horror reference there.

LOL yeah...

the relationship front here is rocky and really dramatic lol so much drama i jus threw my hands up and gave in.

I know...I'm single cause I want to be single cause I gave up...

i know the feeling and dag it i've got time

LOL yeah...

Do you wear Micky Mouse Hats and stripey pajamas???

Anyway...I'd be kind of offended if a stranger asked me what sexuality I am. I'd think them nosy.

yeah, i know the feeling well. although i'm probably coming from a different place, in that i want a relationship badly but am such a freak that no one would ever even consider me for a partner/lover in a million years. i know that this seems really depressive but it has been my life for as long as i can remember, and i've resigned myself to it.
p.s: i'm a straight male, by the way. i'm not trying to mess up this thread; i just thought that some of these reccent post were extremely relavent to my own situation. relationships are a kick in the teeth, are'nt they?

in general realtionships can rip your heart out but they can make you stronger and hey you might jus learn something

yeah I know what you mean nordelen... I want someone too...but I'm too violent lol...

::bump::

Wanted to bring this topic back from the dead as it interests me to hear peoples views on this.

I'm bisexual, best sexuality there is! Hell, I'd screw everybody!

Joking aside, my girlfriend's cool about it, she doesn't care. Plus we have similar taste in men (ooh, subtle Placebo reference there). As has been said, it's not a choice, it's what you are. And I'm glad for it. As Woody Allen said, being bisexual doubles your chance of a date on Saturday night (actually my calculations reveal that the chances are in fact increased by 5%, but his one sounds better).
Cool to find out Mata's bi too. Actually it seems a heck of a lot of people are, considering that of the overall population, maybe one or two percent are bi. Probably something to do with the fact that you're all goths. All of you. And if you deny it, that just makes you even more goth.

im bisexual. most guys ive dated loved it because it was there quick and easy way for a 3 some and my quick and easy way to cheat. girls didnt have a opinoin. but yeah id pick a guy over a girl and ive never looked at a guy and went "man hes hot" but ive done it to many a girl... maybe im a sexist bisexual?

That's another thing, threesomes need a bisexual. We're the life of the party!

I know I'm a sexist bisexual, though maybe not in the same way as you. I generally just don't like guys, or at least I don't trust them when first meeting them. I take a longer time to become attracted to males because my first impression, regardless of how they really act OR how they look, is that they're all narrow-minded jerks and only view wimmin as a piece of meat to be violated or conquerred. I also have to be attracted to someone's personality (or at least my perception of what their personality is like) before I can become attracted to them physically. And since my prejudice against guys often doesn't allow that to happen between me and males, I tend to become infatuated with wimmin way more easily. I'm more likely to look at an attractive or interesting-looking femelle and go ga-ga over her without knowing anything about her personality. But with guys, I might notice an attractive one and then dismiss him before it gets to the point of an actual crush. I think I was surrounded by way too many misogynistic and overall narrow-minded, hateful males in my developing years... And believe it or not, I'm not as sexist as I used to be.

The ironic thing is that my sweetie is a male. I remember being utterly surprised when I first got to know him. At first it was just so unbelievable that I absolutely refused to fully believe that there was such a thing as a guy that was NOT a jerk in so many ways, because everything about him went against everything I had assumed about all males up to that point. I think I would have resigned myself to full-out lesbianism at that point, if he hadn't come along.

i agree with what mata said on the first page.

hum threesomes.....over rated...can be good but still over rated.

what none of my friends understands is why I'd chose a girl over a guy..I like guys well enough..but I gusse girls are better...lol

girls are more beautiful than men...well men have penises....oy the decisions decisions.....lol i like men and woman women more but oy/....

lol opps once again drunken jades has messaged as aries (

oh dear at least you know it was me....sorry lol

I've quit stressing over bisexualism...if it happens, it happens. If it does, its gonna heppen with my boyfriend involved because anything else I view as cheating.

That's a really good attitude, WeeJ. No need to stress over it at all. You're happy where you're at, right? Just roll with that for awhile. Enjoy it and all that fun stuff.

And Commie - Bisexuals the life of the party? Here I thought the Obligatory Party Poof was a lot more fun

God, this feels like an ancient thread now. I wonder if the bisexual population on the boards has tipped at all?