just wondering because of the "looks" stuff going on now

I nulled my vote, because I really can't say. It all depends on the person.

i gotta be attracted to them and they gotta have a good personality.. i mean people say looks shouldnt matter... but if your not attracted him your not goin to want to kiss them or have romance.. whut kinda relationship is that?

I agree with NummyNums. I mean, you have to be honest in saying that a relationship does need some sort of physical attraction, at least. I chose both personality and looks, because while I'm not that picky on someone looking like Jude Law, I would like someone who I would find attractive. And personality is a must, of course. Someone who can't make me laugh is a no go.

id go with personality... sure... looks are great.. but id rather get along with someone before considering a relationship or something....

Personality is definitely what attracts me the most....

Okay... I would rather not be with somebody who bathes only once a month, has missing teeth, etc..... LOL But overall, I would have to say personality is the main thing

If the personality is really good, it often overshadows their looks. Even though it doesn't hurt for that someone with the oh-so-great personality to have some cuteness.



But I think Gizmo is cute...and if a furry little Gremlin is OK with me, you can just imagine how very very lenient I am with how people look...

I'd go fer both looks an personality. I'm quite shallow, cos initially I tend to be drawn more to chicks who look nice (but not drop dead gorgeous, cos 98% of the time they are total BQFHs...) But if their person isn't what I want, then it kinda stops there. Mind, I think I have an odd taste in chicks anyway, cos me friends all seem ta go fer the skinny women, an I don't...

So fer me, the looks bring me in, but it's the personality that keeps me there!

I should add that a proper relationship should have some element of physical attraction...

I knew people would vote for 'personality'!

If you where in a bar 'on the pull' then there is very little chance that you would walk up to a fish faced, dog breathed chinless wonder with a face like a slapped arse and talk to them with the goal of something romantic. Not on first impressions anyway.

You just wouldn't. Its in our DNA.

I agree completely. It just doesn't happen. Luckily I'm blessed with wonderful good looks so I don't have to worry about that......joking!

Personally, looks are the grabber and personality is the keeper. My current bloke was a friend of an old boyfriend and I didn't really fancy him at first....I mean I found him attractive but he didn't catch my eye and make me go "oh my, he's GORGEOUS". Besides I was seeing his best mate and I don't go around fancying my boyfriend's best mates when I'm in love with my boyfriend now!

Now I look at him and I just can't believe how gorgeous he is to me! I put that down mainly to his fantastic personality and the way he is with me.

Most of my long term boyfriends have been friends of friends who I've got to know and then fancied them as their personality has been the deciding point. That's why they've been 'long term'.

If a guy can't make you laugh and tickle your fancy then he ain't worth it IMHO

Sam
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You just summed up my post in one sentence there Sam.

Well I do try

It's true though, personality is a big factor. I love a man (or woman!) who can make me laugh. When Ed and his mates get together it's just too funny sometimes

There is something VERY sexy about someone who can make you laugh out loud. I guess it's because laugher releases endorphins?

Sam
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The thing about looks is its all subjective- my friends all think my b/f is ugly, but i gotta say I find him pretty physically attractive. And he does have a great personality, cos as Sam said otherwise i wouldnt have kept him.

Completley agree there.

What more can i say, you've all done it for me.

Well of course If we all found just a particular type of person attractive then there would be a lot of very unhappy people out there and very very smug, happy and worn out person

Just out of interest, does size make a difference and I'm talking body size before anyone makes a rude comment about men's bits!

Do people have a particular preference or does this fall into the same catagory as looks?

Sam

Guys who are taller than me.

I'm 5ft 2

well what attracts me isn't an option...

i look for smiles...smiles tell a lot about a person...especially if they don't smile...

granted looks play a role as well as personality, but really a person could be incredibly good looking, but without a smile there's just something missing

Some people go for the silent/moody type.
don't know why though.

I'm with Sam on this one. There's nothing sexier than someone who can make you laugh

I voted personality.

I know everyone keeps saying looks are the grabber, but personality is the keeper.

Thing is a personality can make an unnattractive (or less attractive) person look 10 times hotter then a supermodel. Now take a supermodel with a bad personality, and they can look like a pile of dog poo.

Definitely!!! Personality can make a big difference in how you see somebody...

But don't you find somebody attracted to you always looks more attractive?

Personality, definetly.

no.... just because somebody is attracted to you, why would you find them attractive...? Somebody who is attracted to you could still be a jerk, liar, conceited, or crazy/obsessive and scary.... lol

cool you said what I was trying to figure out how to say.

Although someone being attracted to you or me Crissi, they gotta at least have good taste.

ooohhhhhhhh, good point hehe I like that! LOL

when i like someone i usually find them to be second to god, and think they are perfect and that i'm not worthy of them....i seem ta have a very low self esteem...*sigh*

Rubbish; I may start talking to them on account of the perkiness of the chest puppies, but if they prove to be as interesting as accountancy, I'll be making a swift exit, stage left.

On the other hand, if it starts with a quick bit of witty banter, that'll intrigue me big time. Perkiness, or no.

I'm sorry...

to me looks mean nothing since I'm not to good looking anyway lol so looks are nothing

I've never dated anyone strictly because of their physical appearance... I find that the more I'm mentally attracted to a person, the more physcially attractive they become to me anyway.

Besides, looks change... no guarantee on what I'll be looking at a week from now, a month, a year, 10 years... no reason to be looking for a partner based on that...

I fall in love with hearts and minds, not faces or body types...

i talk to everyone and like very few people. the most popular girl in my school is my next door neibor an we were best frinds since i was 4 years old. but that doesnt mean im freinds with her freinds then i have people that were the same clother every other day (they normally wash them i hope) because this guy is the gunniest guy ive ever met and his sister is rather... diffrent. but i dont ever really go "hey look at that hot peice of edit" or "holy edit what the hell is that" i kinnda tread the center line

I just want to draw a line between "attraction" and "liking" I like almost anybody as long as they're not rude, or wickedly obnoxious -as in bad- a bully...etc nomatter what they look, wear, money they have, etc etc

If I were looking for someone to "date" I am a little pickier, I look for a decent balance of the whole package... so, I'm sorta superficial , kill me...i am the one thats gonna spend my life with them ...you know?

exactly my opinion on this, missy.

since i met my husband on the internet, i fell in love w/ his personality first. though neither of us were disappointed when we saw each other....had he been "ugly" it honestly would not have mattered to me, because i love him.

i mean, if he got in a horrible car accident and ended up w/ a face like a picasso painting, i'd still love him...it wouldn't matter. i'd still kiss him and all that lovely stuff. if i didn't, i'd be pretty shallow....

PERSONALITY RULES! w00t!

what good is good milk if you cant carry it with you in some sort fo package????

Huh? I'm confused. Please explain... x_x

I've had crushes on many boys in my life. But as in actually being attracted to them I've only liked three, and they weren't extremely hot, but I found them all cute, no one else did, but I did.

**shrug** I don't know wether this has been said... but I personally have never ever found there to be a truer maxim than "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

For me.. being attracted to someone is made up of a hell of a lot of different factors.. a hell of a lot of a lot.. yes, I admit that looks feature in these factors, but I can't deny my eyes now can I. Enviromental factors also feature... where do I meet this person? what sort of mood am I in? what is the weather like? I'm complex... we're all hella complex.. and we're all different.

Plus.. I do believe I've spent far too long talking cr*pola.. so I'll shush.

Looks mean a lot to me because if you don't think the person you're with is hot then it kinda stinks. But its not like a serious issue ... i dont think the typical "hot" guys are hot, like the abercrombie models. I think shia labeouf is the hottest guy alive.

All those things mean a lot to me, but when it comes to physical attraction, a chick has to be able to work with what she has. I've dated chicks of all shapes, sizes and textures, but what attracted me to them was that they worked with what they had.

i have to agree...

they shouldnt matter...ppl can be great ppl and be "ugly"

but i will admitt your friends have a good time with it...

I once dated a chick who weighed 220 pounds, but she looked good and she was sexy. She was large framed and really muscular (stronger than me, in fact). It was kind of cool 'cause I liked how she'd hold me down and bite my neck and stuff. Hee hee. I also liked her soft tummy and her oh-so-cute smile. Actually, I think it was her smile I was most attracted to. That and she's great to hug.

Rightous, that's about what my boyfriend weighs. He looks......very good. Just celebreated our two-year anniversary. Congradulate me. Please. *grin*

Well, as my friend Big Matt would say (yes, as opposed to Little Matt), "Fat guys make better lovers." He's a 235 Italian love machine. So, yes, congrats.

Pavel is a Ukrainian love machine. Though we have yet to have sex....i'm am certain that after marriage, i will be the happiest woman ever. *woohoo*

Well, given his weight and the force of his pumps times his speed in feet per second times the distance of each pump times how many pumps per second adjusting for fatigue, I'd approximate that, indeed, you will be quite happy with at least the pumping end of it. Size and ability are two variables I'll let you factor in.

Don't you just love my scientific approach to sex?

very lovely. and quite amusing, i must say.

I have to be honest....looks do matter. However - that doesn't mean that that's what's most important. I think looks are important for drawing people closer, making them interested ('cuz unless you're at a party, it's hard to tell what someone's personality is like from a distance)..which is why it's important to try to look nice sometimes. But if the personality sucks, then I'm just not interested anymore.

Well I picked looks and personality, and here's why:

Personality to me is and can be connected with looks in my eyes. A person I find attractive normally has a good personality. Their eyes and body movement can tell you many things about who they are and the verbal point of view they give you about themselves can determine if I find them attractive or not.

Like a self centered person would look good in clothing sense but their eyes can seem dark to me and the constant talk they give off about themselves of course is a dead giveaway.

A shy person can look slightly plain but in an adorable kinda sense and I notice their eyes are moderate but very distant, and of course for verbal they don't speak much or can be easil embarassed.

Ok, Ill use Jonathan as an example for this one. I didn't know what he really looked like for a while (cuz his first pic had him covering his eyes and hair and partly his face). but his personality shone through first as a caring, wanting to help kinda guy. He also was very friendly and very sweet. After seeing his pictures, the match in my head matched to the pictures, except the redhair, that got my attention.

All in all, looks and personality seem to connect with me. Just into someon's eyes and see for yourself.