Well, my problem is that my parents are divorced (I'm okay with that, I suppose) and they're now doin' the custody battle thing. I'm sixteen, so it's pretty much my choice...but I don't wanna choose. I love 'em both, so I feel bad about choosin'. Has anyone else ever been in this kinda situation?

my parents are divorced, but i didnt get the choice of which parent to live with... but still, i can see where your coming from. the best bet is to look at both relationships you have. which do you get along with better? which do you feel could better help you move though the future?

When my parents divorced I was 7. I had not choice I had to live with my mom and see my dad on specific dates. Then when I turned 12 it was up to me who I wanted to live with and if I wanted to visit the other person anymore. I was the only child in the family to not try a bit of time living with my dad, instead at age 12 I just stopped going to see him. That's just me though.

I wish I had your life and liked both of my parents. I hope you figure everything out.

Well, I get along with my dad better, and he's the only one who grad. from highschool, so I know he can help me out with schoolwork. But the thing is, I've lived with my mum since I was five (they divorced then) when she got custody of me, so I'm used to living at home with her.

::shrug:: Why he's waited till now to try and get custody is beyond me.

hmm... well, heres the way i would handle things, if i were in your place.

if you decide to stay with your mom - tell your dad its simply because your more used to living with her, and you wouldnt have to make adjustments to straighten your life and get it back to normal. (or something along those lines)

if you decide to move with your dad - tell your mom that its because you want a change of scenery (sp?), and that you feel that you could use the help in school situations (because he graduated and all). (or something along those lines)

it would be best to give a small explination to the other parent that doesnt get chosen to make sure that they dont have any feelings hurt.

::nodnod:: Thank you, heh, this'd be soo much better if they didn't hate each other.

that can make things difficult... make sure both are in good spirits when you make your decision. i would suggest giving a really good explination on why you choose which one to live with...

im very sorry you are having to make this decision

Good idea, I'll make sure they are. Sometimes I just wish that I'd never been born so they'd not fight about this, but that's not a good thing, I know; just can't help it.

I think the most important thing here is to reassure the parent you decide not to live with that your decision wasn't based off anger or bad feelings.. Keep in touch, visit as much as possible, include the other parent in your life.. it will make the transition easier for everyone involved. Sit them both down and talk to them about why you made your decision and ask that they respect you enough to be civil to one another while you're around. It still won't be easy.. but it certainly doesn't have to be hard either..

^^ Everything's wondermous, the custody things over now, my mum got main custody, and I get to see my dad on weekends.

YAY!!!!!!! *hugs tight* *dances* me is happy for you...*grins*

I am glad things got sorted out *hug* and I hope things go well for you in the future.

im happy to know that it all worked out, kalina

oh, that's wonderful, Kalina! I'm really happy that things worked out and you still get to spend time with both of your parents! I wish you all the best!

Good deal... !!!

Glad it all worked out for you. My parents' split was (relatively) friendly, so there were no big custody battles, thank god.

I'm really glad to hear that!

I think it works both ways, really. My parents are divorced and my dad basically packed up and left, and the most I've heard from him in the last 11 years were one or two phone calls. But I never had to go through a custody battle, and things were relatively easy. I miss my dad, since he seemed alright when he was around. Upside to yours is seeing your dad, and the downside is of course, the custody battle. I guess everything has its drawbacks, but it's awesome the way things worked out. I hope they stay friends!

::hugs the nice people:: Merci to everyone that helped!