Well, I don't know how teenage girl-y this really is, but I am a: a teenager b: a girl and c: it's happening to me so I can only assume as much.

ANYWAY...

I've posted a lot of times about this friend of mine I used to be in love with and how I lost him and all that jazz...but if you haven't seen any of those threads then I had a friend I used to be in love with and even though nothing transpired...I lost him as a friend.

So I really liked this friend of mine recently (What the hell is my problem?!? Why don't I learn?!?) and I am slowly (and sadly) realizing that he just wants to be my friend. And since nothing transpired and we never talked about it I am trying to talk to him like we're just friends, like everything is normal. But I can already feel it. Like the other night, we had a really awkward conversation that was so dull it was unbelievable. And that never happens. I don't want to lose this one...I still want to be friends with him, he is quite cool.

Does anybody have anything to say? At all?

I've got the same problem at the moment. Although, I'm going to try to fix it by asking my guy out. I've had a crush on him for over 4 years (since the literal moment I saw him, actually) so wish me luck!

::wishes Sarah lots of luck and guys and coffee and chocolate and other good stuff::

Sadly Sarah, the only thing you can really do in a lot of situations like that I've found is to wait it out. Then the awkwardness will fade...hopefully.

That's what happened with my friend Allen and I. But we were never quite as close after I professed my love for him and he said "You're like a sister to me." (Ouch.) But, we were able to get past that awkward "I don't know what to say around you" phase.

The only thing I can really suggest is time...I know that's horrible, but it's really the only cure I know for such things.

Good luck! (To both Sarah and Feyliya )

I cant really offer advice cos I've never found a way around this.

Just carry on being yourself around him and try to act normal, even if you dont feel like it.

and good luck *hugs* to both of ya

Well... This has happened a lot to me, which is why I don't have a guy best friend anymore. After a while you have to force yourself just not to like him anymore. It's not easy, but it'll save your friendship.

/me hugs Sarah and wishes her good luck

Yeah, that actually is your only choice....

Hope your alright...

As much as it sucks, the only thing that heals these sorts of things is time. I myself am cursed in some crazy neverending cycle of this type of thing, and time fixes it.

*sends the Better Days Fairy to Sarah*

Ok I learned this much from... painful experience. Those just want to be friends people are just that, friends. You have got to back off a little and just hope to keep your feelings in check. Sorry love.

Life bites...

*screams as Life sinks its teeth into Sarah's arm*

Damn life...

Really there is nothing you can do but back off...otherwise you could come across as obsessive or annoying..it sucks I know, it's one of the worst feeling in the world
If you just have to try and express yourself, just do sweet little things for this person...make them mixed tapes, sendem cards, but make sure not to smother them. Goodluck...

It feels so weird...it seems like just talking to him is excessive behavior. Maaaan...this sucks. I know I've screwed this up...why do I always screw this kind of thing up.

Oh well...I'm 2 for 2...



/end of miserable, pointless, and irritating rant...

*walks into thread, picks Sarah up, huggles her tightly, puts her down, walks out of thread*

sarah I know exactly how you feel
you walk on tip toes not to upset this person and it kills you cuz they're all that's on your mind
they say it's alright and not to walk on glass around them...but the feeling you have inside is so intense and then when they're gone it's gone and you're left w/ a void that nothing can feel and it sucks on your insides until you want to just rage out...
okay maybe that's how I felt about it..but..well, I do hope you feel better

I just realized I put this in Issues when really it's only an issue for me right now...so Mods you can shuffle this into Daily Life if you think it needs to go there...or Daft because I'm feeling like a [EDIT] ninny...or wherever...

sarah... there is no advice i could give to make you feel better... ive never been in this place to give any real advice...

<hugs sarah>

im sorry this has happened, and im sorry you feel this way

this is definately a teenage girl, well a teenager thing. i had a crush on this guy and what was bad was that i never knew and still dont know how he did/does feel about me.

so many times i wanted to say "i really like you as more than a friend" or something to that affect, but the fear of awkwardness and rejection was always too great and i felt i was better off not knowing...

it was really hard because i flirted with him and he would flirt right back..and i would get so jealous when he'd talk to or talk about other girls, but he never had a girlfriend..i always had a feeling that he just wanted to be friends, but then he'd do something like pay for me at dinner or go out to a late night bar for a burger and i would get so confused

the only way i finally got over him was when he moved away and always seemed annoyed or more distracted than usual, and eventually i learned that he knew i liked him and was just playing around with me until i would go away...

i was so angry that i thought i'd confront him and totally kick his butt, but i just started not caring what he did or said to see how he would react to my new cooled off attitude, and once i realized that he really does care, it made my rejecting him so sweet because of the games he played on me...

i started telling him about my new boyfriends and other things and made him sound out of the picture which now he really was...

i used to talk to him everyday, and now it's MAYBE once a month or every few months..


i feel your pain

*cringes*

yea i've shed more tears over him than i have over ACTUAL boyfriends...

i think it was because i wanted so badly to be with him, but we were so close as friends and it was hard understanding and coming to terms with the fact that the friendship outweighed the other