I've noticed two things: I have no friends, and the ones I do have don't talk to me as often as they used to.

I feel as if I'm being used. They come to me when they have a problem, and then they go on about ignoring me until another problem comes up. I'm the only one putting in some effort into a friendship. I'm the only one who talks. I'm the only one who brings up conversation topics. I'm the only one without love. Maybe that's it. I'm behind them. They've found someone new and have forgotten all about me. I really don't mind this at all, but you know what angers me up the most? It's when they fill me up with false hope. You know what I'm talking about. The "my new BF/GF won't come in-between our friendship" bull. I can't believe that. As soon as those words are said, the friendship is altered. Either they don't spend time with you, or they assume you're jealous of them. That's right folks! I'm the jealous best friend! I have no life, so I spend my days fussing over crap!

I have a freind who used to do that... She ended up with no freinds and her b/f left her cos she did it to everyone. Everyone in my school is split up into groups so unless im needed as an agony aunt by somone who used to kinda know me and doesnt kno who else to go to i stay with one group of girls/guys i rlly like. Otoh im pbly not the best person to talk bout this cos im hardly popular... atm i have more enemies than friends.

Hello and welcome to Matazone.

I've always found that if someone doesn't get in touch with somone else, then that person thinks the friend doesn't care when that friend is sat at home thinking the exact same thing.

As for your friend filling you with false hope...I should image that soon you'll find someone you want to share you life with (or you may have already) and you'll see how hard it is not to get wrapped up in each other. Give your friend a break...I'm sure she doen't think your jelous of anything.

Hope it works out.

dont worry! i have no friends either!

I'll be your friend Hins!

Ill be everyones friend

This happens with me a lot with my friends too.

My best friend for example...Whenever she's in a relationship (which is most of the time anymore) she doesn't spend much time with me at all for those first few months while she's making sure that the guy is going to stay with her by spending every free moment with him. I've gotten used to it since she and I have been friends so long, the only thing that bugs me is that when she breaks up with a guy or he with her, then she clings to me until she finds her next man. I see similar things happen with guys as well. I think it's just nature to get all caught up in yourself and this new love or lust or whatever it is that someone has going, and just completely or mostly ignore your friends for a bit.

It may sound bad, but sometimes it's just best to kick back and wait for the hearts to clear up a little bit so that your friends can see you again.

As for the friends thing: Welcome to the otherside, I'm sure many of us are willing to be your friend!

lol...i think someone may have found a friend.

Just a friend?

Aint they married?

Well she is my E-Wife

I suppose so. didn't stop to think of that one.

wow... nice way to spam in issues everyone

anyways, that sucks, and i can understand you very well. i have a few "friends" like that, we were all good and happy, then a girl came into one of their lives, and i was happy for them... until we spoke to eachother about 10 minutes a week... it sucks, and its almost like a betrayel... but in the course of life, we will run into such things, and thus, they must be dealt with. best thing you can do, is start looking for a new group of friends to be with, the ones you had then were obviously not good friends, and thats why they did that.

Seriously, Cheese.

I know how you feel, rabbit. It's the worst feeling to be completely ignored in favor of a new bf/gf. Especially when you have a feeling the relationship won't last, and the friend will come running to you when it all ends. And I think Cheese is right about them not being true friends in the first place. Which hurts even more, I know.

The only thing I've been able to do in situations like that is just move on. I've given people a second chance, but if they do the same thing in their next relationship, then I just break off contact with them, and move on to find new people to hang out with. Of course, I try talking to them about it first, but if they pull that "You're just jealous" crap, I leave them behind. And I always make an effort to maintain contact with my friends when I begin a new relationship. They've been a part of my life longer than this new person, so I think they deserve that much (although that isn't an issue now, I'm married and my husband is friends with them as well, which I love). There's no way around it being painful no matter what you do. I'm sorry you hafta go through this.

Thanks everyone. I feel very special now.

This is a bigger problem than it seems. I do not have many friends around here (two). I'm considered "uncool" and such. I'm social, funny, and completely friend material. But hey, that's the way things go, I guess.