do i have a problem because i think love is stupid and has no point????

hmmm... depends, do you hate it for no reason? or do you hate it because of relationship/love problems?

no not realy i just thin there is no point, guys say i love u but i think it doesnt mean a thing.

thats not always true, maybe from the guys you know, but there are guys in this world that mean it when they say i love you... i have said i love you before, and i mean it... i think its just the people you know.

and why do you say there is no point? i think there is a point to love, it makes you happier, and it can make life alot better in many ways, but love is a double edged sword, while it can be the greatest thing you have ever felt, it can also ruin your life and make you feel like s***.... with love, its best to take it slow and make sure you know what your feeling is true, so your not as likely to be hurt. but there is a point... ask anyone who is happily married

but sadly i really cant love and people cant love me so mabe thats the problem

i think everyone has the capacity to love, and to be loved, and i think it just depends on the other person that is involved

im kinda a very unloving person and i have a big anger problem!!! it is a pretty rare sight to see me happy my parents drive me crazy and my sibs care less about my private life so they lie to randomly go though my stuff even when i moved out!!!! i am still only 14 and they drove me to leave!!!!

wow... 14 and already moved out... your family must suck....

you might be an unloving person with a big anger problem, but your only 14, your still young and that might be your problem with finding a loved one.

question - the guys that you said say i love you, but dont mean it, were they boyfriends? if so, how old were they? or was it just a general statement?

oh he was a bf and he was 16 i hate him 4 saying that he loved me!!
oh and yea my family sux really bad!!!

i think thats your problem right there... age... your both young, and maybe one or both of you lacked the maturity to come to a relationship that ended up with him feeling love.... (this is an assumption, dont get mad if im wrong)

and also, as part of my experience on this island we call earth, many 16 year old males are looking for one thing from girls...

i think if you wait a bit and look for a guy who is mature and intelligent, you will find a guy who is willing to love you, and not lie about it

im a little smarter then to let a guy get his way......... and plus im very mature 4 my age i am all ready going into the 12th grade

wow, id just like to take this time and say congratz, ive never met any 14 year olds in 12th grade, quite impressive.

your might be more mature then most people your age, but not everyone is like that, would be best to find someone on the same maturity/intelligence level as you, you might find it will work better...

i just wish i was as advanced as i am.......... i just want to be a normal girl.
every on always thinks i have to do go in every thing, one day i got a D on a test and people started freakin and the teacher ased me if i was on drugs!!!!!!! hehehe it was kinda funny!!!

Everyone hates their parents when they are 14. It's part of being 14.

As for love, it does exist. And I'd agree with Cheese when he said that he thinks everyone has the capacity to love and be loved. Some people decide not to love because it hurts too much, but that doesn't mean that they are incapable of it.

(This is off-topic, but don't you all just love spellcheck? It's such a great invention. Wonderful. Superb. People should use it daily. Sorry, I was just thinking about that. End spam. Back to topic.)

I don't mean to offend any teenagers here, or to sound like a boring adult, but just about every single person I've known has felt the same way you do sometime during their teenage years. What happens for most people is you basically just get over it. It does get better. Well, for most people, anyway, I can't say for all.

I hate love, too. Maybe that's because I've never experienced it and everyone else I know has.

(I don't mean to sound condesending here) Ok...I may be wrong but according to your profile you're fourteen. Although I believe it is possible to fall in love at a young age, you've probably never experienced it yet so you're not likely to be the position to say you hate it. Its like saying you hate mango ice cream when you've never tried it before.

Saying that, you may have been in love and got bitten in the ass by it. In which case, fair play to you.

I agree with Crissi and WeeJ. You'll get over it or get there eventually. Being pooped on from a great height by someone you love/trust is really hard but it happens to the most of us unfortunately

If it was love, you need to pick yourself up and realise that he obviously wasn't the one for you and there will be better people out there who deserve you.

If it wasn't love, don't worry about it. Love is cool when it's right!

I don't want to sound patronising and I'm sorry if I do. I'm 27 and I still have problems with love. Welcome to our world!

Sam
x

P.S.

Spellcheck = good!

Yup.

Anyway, i think you would be better off finding someone your own age, and not some 16-year-old pervert...

thanx people i really thanx u for your addvice

to me love is as hurtful as anything else... you can be in love with someone and then be stabed in the back and dumped.... i am 14 as well, and i have experienced love and in my opinion it was like a big cloud... it impared my judgment and made my vision blurry, it made me see things that i wanted to see, not what was truley there.... everyone can be loved or love someone else, u'll eventualy find someone as advanced and mature as you are, but untill you do, all you can do is hope for the best....
*slightly off topic....i have anger problems as well *
congratualtions on skipping to 12th grade...

Maybe your afriad to be hurt by love. I know how some guys will say they love you just to get into your pants but there are guys who truely mean it. I know that when I say it i do mean it.

Unfortunatly love and pain walk hand and hand and you will probably experience both but you should not shield yourself from feeling love because without it you can become a very cold person. To love someone is to truely live and feel complete.

I have had my share of love and hurt and there is no side stepping the hurt. I am sorry that you feel that way about love and I understand why you do but you are still young and maybe someday you will feel different about it. I hope some day you meet a really nice person who really does love you.