why why why!!!! do guys even mean it????

you already know my opinion on it... but im sure you will come accross some posts that will say otherwise...

there are guys that do mean it! sure, there are guys in the world that say i love you to get in someone's pants, i wont deny that, but there are guys in this world that mean it.

Uh, yeah. Some do mean it. A lot do, actually. Some may be doing it just to get into your pants, but it's harsh to say that all guys are like that. Not to mention wrong.

yes some guys mean it and some guys are a holes and act like freaks!!!!!!

yep, there are alot of a**hole freak males in the world, wont deny that either... but you cant let a portion of a population effect your overall opinion of that population

i just dont trust guys

hmm... not a healthy way to veiw life, but go ahead and do that... hmm.... do you think it would be too much to ask of you to trust me?

i could trust u ................ u dont know me, u havent seen me , so u o with me lol

hmm... might you use yahoo messanger by chance? i would like to have a word with you sometime...

i have aim do you have that

I love things like this, but girls do the same thing too. Maybe not to get some action but I have friends who jumped right into the love thing just because they liked being in a relationship. It's easy to crack on guys, but girls can be just as evil. I know I have been.

I had a best friend (a chick) who got engaged to me and to whom I lost my virginty. A few months later she called it off. It took awhile, but I forgave her and now she's still my best friend. That, to me, is love. It's the same kind of love (agape) I try to feel with all of my girlfriends as much if not more than romantic love (eros). so that's what I mean when I say "I love you."

I think guys say it just to keep you. Well, that's the way things work where I live. It's all about the A to the double S.

If a man has the balls to say he's in love with someone for a quick lay, he'll surely be punished by the bitch that is karma. Fortunately, you'll find that a lot of guys don't actually stoop low enough to say those things without meaning them. Love is a very, very confusing thing, so some of the time it may even be accidental.

I say it alot. To just about everyone of my friends. I make it a point to say it daily. I say it because I might not get the chance to say it again, and I want everyone to know how I feel. When I say it, I mean it and it's not a lie.

So guys, I love you all. 'Specially you cheese.

That made me feel all warm inside. That someone out there thinks that way. Ahhhhhhh *hugs*

Sam
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I have some friends-with-benefits whom I love more than any girlfriend I've ever had. Personally, I like loving them a lot more than loving any girlfriend I've ever had.

Yes, some people only say it to get what they want. Of course there are others who truly mean it and they are the ones in this world that make mother earth so precious.

When you do find true love, it might make you think sometimes that your crazy but you know you love every second you talk to that person, that person that will be by your side physically and spiritually whenever you need them, and knowing they will always be there for you through thick and thin just as much as you'd be there for them.

Well, there's love an there's LOVE. I mean, I might say I love someone in a platonic way (but not right often, cos I'm a Brit an we dun go in fer that sorta malarkey) or I may say it sarcastically, if one o me RL buds is bein a cheeky git.

But LOVE... I tell me missus I love her every day, an it's 100% true. I've never told anyone that jus to get into their pants. I found far more effective ways o doin that over the years

I say Love to those i really love. It's a powerful word that carries a huge amount of meaning, that's why some people abuse it.

*hugs and snuggles* YAY!!!!

I think the problem isn't the fact that people use the "I love you"

I think the problem is what is meant by the person and what the person hearing thinks it means.

I can say , " I love you Crissi" ( sorry first name that popped up Crissi..hehe)

But that wouldn't mean I love her as a future Mrs. Beck...but maybe as a good friend, a sister, just a really nice person to be around with

But, what would she think I meant? I dunno. So, I guess you should always ask.

And yes, I know some people just use it as a "you're cool, I like you" statement, which can be really confusing...

"I love you man!!!" ...anyway ... just ask ... be honest , question everything...

*jumping up and down and doing cartwheels*

VVes loves meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! ooooohhhh.. I gotta go shopping! I gotta get a wedding dress, shoes, flowers.... OMG, the list is endless!!!

*practicing writing*
Mrs. Crissi Beck
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Mrs. Crissi Beck
Mrs. Crissi Beck
Mrs. Crissi Beck
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LMAOOOOOOOOOO Just joking, VVes hehe I couldn't resist... hehe

phew..for a moment i thought i had to wear a cummerbund<sp> heheh I knows ya iz!!!

...I love you Crissi!!!...

erm... dun wanna be a killjoy or anythin... but serious thread, guys!

I think I agree with a lot of what people have said... The word "love" is a powerful word... and has a lot of meaning... to some people. So of course there are some people who will use it to their advantage... I just think the people who play with other people's emotions like that are just mean... that's too cruel for words.

But there are many different kinds of love... I love all of my family, I love my friends, and I have been in love. I have no problem telling my friends I love them... but I make sure that if I tell a guy friend that I love him, that he knows exactly how I mean it.... "I love you, VVes... you're a great friend!" (you as an example too hehe)

I was writing a serious post too...

Sorry, crissi, guess the moddy undies were gettin a bit restless there...

I wasn't joking, just dramatizing the full implication of the word love...

..again just because I say I love you ... you may take to mean something more than what he thinks he's saying...some guys just say it to be polite, which is both wrong and confusing...

... I meant what i said before...ask...drill him..." ok so you love me in what way (insert name here)..."

clarify what the feelings are, LOVE has no ONE meaning...

now , if people started using ...." I lust you!!..." that would make things much clearer , wouldn't it???

Yep, sure would! An at least it's honest, rather than usin "I love you" as a method of gettin someone into bed...

That was a good one!

But I do love all of my friends-with-benefits. THat's what makes them my friends. After Brandy (Why, God, why?), I can't do anyhing with a chick who wasn't my friend that I didn't love.

That word is one I go to great pains to avoid. As it stands, I didn't make use of it for over a year with my lass, and it had nothing to do with getting into pants. In the sense this thread refers to it isn't the sort of thing that one should 'just say' for one reason or another.

I tell her I love her, because I do. Some people abuse it, and they should be shot.
On a related note, men are not, with a very very few exceptions, "afraid of commitment". That myth is perpetuated by a bunch of lazy untalented novelists too unoriginal to come up with a better plot. If a man doesn't want to commit, he doesn't want to commit to you.

Aye, well said lad!

Aye there!

Now, pass a dube.

I'm sensing a lot of anger here!

I love my boyfriend,he loves me.I happen to be very good at telling whether people are lying when they say they love me,i've had a good few experiances where they do mean it,and others when they don't-and it's those ones that hurt.

I'm one of those people who cant,not wont,say "I love you" when i don't mean it-dont know why-the words just wont come out of my mouth!

Very true.

*sniff*


This is not a good topic to revise when listening to Bon Jovi (YUM!) "All About Loving You" .........pass the tissues!

*jumps up and down excitedly*
I saw Jovi live! I saw Jovi live!

...ahem. I'll take my off-topicness elsewhere, shall I?

I'm eleven---I have a boyfriend...or well.... did. He would tell me he loved me....what is that? I know he couldn't have meant it...it kind of scared me.

Yeah... and some guys like to move way too fast.... You meet them one day and the next day they say they love you, etc... That is scary... And then I just tend to blow them off as being silly and/or insincere and that's it... lol

The only time a guy said he loved me, well, ... *sigh* I don't think he meant it.

It's okay... I think only one guy actually meant it when he said it to me. Most of the time when they say it, I blow it off now because I know they're not sincere... but this one guy said it and I so wanted it to be true... really hurt when I found out it wasn't.

Here here.

Mind you, in the past, I've been caught on the back foot when the girl's muttered the three magic words, and before I could stop my big mouth, they'd jumped out of me as well. When I hadn't really meant it, but the situation kinda demanded that I respond in kind.

Bad me.

That scenario is a real pain in the padded ass.

Before you know what's happening,once they've said it,you go and say it back,even if you don't mean it!Guess it's just an eeeeeeeeeeeeeevil reaction.

Mind you,think how stupid you'd feel if you said the Majic Words to someone and they just grimaced,smiled and said "awwww-good for you!" you'd be like "Hmmmmmmmm-TWAT!" it is nice to have the favour returned,but also bad cos you know the other person (or yourself) doesn't mean it.........dammit!This thing really is evil

P.S-I've been looking at the word Majic-have I spelt it wrong?It looks funny!

Majik............
Majic............
Magic........... AHA!

Wait, I've got an idea: What if the guy really does love you? Scary thought, eh?

I really don't know.. I for one have never said it to someone really so I don't know if I mean it or not.. I hope I do when I say it