ok, since noone i know is on this forum, i need some help. one of my best friends proposed to me *swoon* and i said yes. *crowd "aw"s in background*. thing is, is that i'm only 15, but I know that this is the right choice. I mean, we both love each other and mean everything to each other. We're perfectly compatable and stuff...blah blah blah. *looks around* he's already told his parents, but i don't know how to tell mine. my other friend already knows, and she's happy for me. but....how would i go about telling this to my mom? i know she'll try to talk me out of it or ground me...so.....help?

thats a tuffy. Well if you really love this guy and want to marry him you should just explain to her how ytou feel about this guy and I am sure she wouldnt yell at you. I think maybe she might say you should think it through abit but I hope thigns work out

this is going to be EXTREMALLY tough for you, or at least id imagine it is.... considering your age, your mom is probebly going to give you the whole "your not old enough to make these kinds of decisions" or "you dont know what true love is" talks... i hope that your parents dont say that, i hope that they are happy that your happily in love.

and now for my suggestion/advice... id say catch your parents when they are happy, and in a good mood (couldnt hurt, right?). calmly sit them down, and tell them, explain that your in love, and that hes the right guy, and that your 100 percent sure that your making the right decision, and that you have thought this out. (because, looking responsible about such a life changing decision is always a good thing)

and above all else, whether they like the decision or not, tell them that the marriage is going to happen whether they like it or not, and that it would be best if they embraced the idea.

i hope this helps, and to you, my congradulations!

Until you're 18, or whatever the legal age is there, telling them it's going to happen whether they like it or not probably isn't a good idea. A) It's just asking for them to assert their authority and It's not going to happen unless or until you have their full support.

My suggestion? You and your significant other should sit them down together. Talk about your plans. If you're planning on waiting to marry until you're older, you'll probably get better reception from them. Even if you aren't, you need to treat your parents' opinions with respect. If they don't agree with it right now, it won't help throwing a tantrum. Show them you're responsible by being an adult about it. Just because they may not agree with it right now doesn't mean their minds won't change later on. The number one thing is to be honest and open with them.

I don't think I have to tell you how big of a decision this is. Make sure you've absolutely no doubts before you actually go through with it. Other than that, good luck..

Let me first say, I am not trying to say any of this to demean you. Don't think for an instant that I don't believe you know what true love is or any of that garbage, because I don't.

That being said...I just have to ask, what is the rush? I know it sounds cliche to say that you have your whole life ahead of you, but it's true. Any love that couldn't wait for 3 years (when you'll both be legally able to live on your own, and more able to support yourself) would not last in a marriage that is supposed to be a lifetime commitment.

I'm sorry, I know it's not my place to say all of this...but well, I got married young (I was 19). Now every time I go to a wedding, I think.."Wow, I'll never get to experience that again..." That is unbelievably sad because my wedding was not what I wanted it to be. And without your parents' approval, I doubt yours will be either.

If you plan to wait until you graduate high school, then that's fabulous. Your parents will be more likely to be accepting of that. My suggestion, if you are afraid of sitting down and talking with them...try writing them a letter, explaining your feelings and when exactly you plan on having the wedding.

Again, I'm sorry for dishing out advice that wasn't asked for. I've just been there, and I'd hate for you to regret the way your wedding happened the same way that I regret how mine happened. (Mind you, I don't regret getting married...that part was never a question. I just should have waited, then a lot of things would have gone more smoothly).

ya, that and....he lives on the other side of the world. ^.^;; he lives in aus, and i'm in america...so, i have to wait until one of us can go to the other. he's in university right now, so i'll probably be able to go over there when i finish school. ya. that made no sense. but it's just going to take a while for him to be able to come here, but he's visiting for christmas(hopefully). *hops around room*

Two of my best friends married young... they were both 18, and have been happily married ever since (that was over 8 years ago)...

But 15 does seem a bit too young. The fact that he's in Oz is also a slight problem.

If you're both as committed to each other as you appear to be then you can wait for him to finish his studies and for you to become old enough to legally marry.

Mention to your parents that you like this bloke, put them on warning; but I'd hold off talk of marriage until you're certain it's going to happen. No point getting your family's hopes up and then discovering that he's not arround for a few more years or that he's not the one...

Good luck.

*points to everyone else*

What they said. Sounds like there is no rush.

And, forgive me for being the sensible voice of cynical reason, but I'm hoping you're a lot more mature than I was at 15. I had trouble finding my ass with both hands and not giggling at the word 'bum'. What I'm trying to say is that with 20/20 hindsight, things can look a lot different, and I know full well that at that age, I wasn't anywhere near prepared to do something as serious and irrevocable as get married.

That's not to say that you're not prepared. Just that if you don't rush, and sit tight for a few years, then you'll be 110% sure that it's the right thing to do. If you do love each other, you'll still both love each other a couple of years down the road - marriage isn't going to change that one way or the other.

congrats on gettin married Silent.

thanks for all the help and supportness, all of you. i think i'm going to wait until after christmas, at least. hopefully he'll be visiting for christmas and i'm about to burst with mooshy/lovy giddiness. and i feel so ...odd. anywhos. ya, thanks...

I completely agree with Jonman.
The man has wise words stuffed in his bonce.

Wow! First off I'm so happy you've found true love so early I'm fifteen too and I can't imagine gettting married. It's just...such a commitment. I guess that's a bit of an understatement

Anyway, I have no advice, I just wanted to wish you good luck. Oz blokes are the best sort (perhaps that's the bias of being one... nah)