Is being nice and understanding always a target for pain and sorrow? If not for you, then why always me? Why am I intentionally hurt for not being cold and mean? My friends hurt me, people at school, people I don't know, and even my own family. I guess not wanting to stoop to their level is a bad thing. Maybe having a heart is something worth hurting. Maybe I should become like them. Like Jen said, I'm not much a help to myself either.

being understanding and nice is a good quality and it is bound to get you hurt, but thats life.. it happens to everyone.. if your cold and mean, then no one will want to be around you and that is worse then being hurt... all you can do is be nice and hope for the best.. but u can always have your cold/mean moments.. i know i do

Being nice is never a bad thing... some people just like to abuse the fact that some people are, they use it to their advantage wrong i no but hey - some people can b spineless.
I recently found out that one of the people that i care for most in the world doesnt actually give a toss about me they just continuously lie to my face then i find out the truth from other people... yet still i hang round with them, talk to them an im always there for them. Basically they say jump i say how high Its only afta u realise how bad it really is.
But no i your not the only one that feels used... but being nice doesnt always lead to sorrow some people really appriciate it an can mean the world to them!
A smile can warm peoples hearts especially when their upset!

For some reason, this reminds me of this quote I picked up a few days ago



I suppose that those who are cold and mean are the real slaves, because they can never take the risks that kindness poses. To be kind to others, you must risk ridicule and to care for a person who superficially is nothing. To be kind is to risk being though of as evil (as jesus was by the jews, if you don't mind me getting christian on you) and to be though of as the same as those who you are kind to. People who are mean to others are too frightened to risk this.

I dunno. Thats what I thinki, even if it doesn't stop them from hurting me.

Yanno, I had the same problem... Luckily it's not as bad nowadays, but I usta get treated like a doormat by "friends" an family... I learnt how ta say no to people, an be more firm, an now I dun get treated nearly so badly.

See, it's possible to be firm an still be nice. Ya just haft find the right level. Sayin "no" to people is not about hurtin them, it's about freein yerself. In the cases where a "no" is justified, ya may find the person yer sayin no to won't be half as upset as ya think. An if they are, screw 'em, they are jus takin advantage.

Dun go too cold, hon. There's too many cold people in the world... I like ya as ya are *hugs*