In a vain attempt to keep Missy's thread on topic, and because this is a necessary question ...

I, for one have never had cybersex. I am amazed, cos I'm a yes man with most things. I am not sure I could be bothered though. As leo said, its sounds like the cyber element could get a tad distracting ... the real thing may be messy, but it does have its advantages, and as I am in a stable-and-final relationship, it may never happen. Damn. Mental note: get another computer for the wife.

My nick is pab, and I am a cybervirgin

What about you? You always got a can of 3-in-1 next to your screen? Or does the whole idea make you not want to touch your keyboard with a barge-pole?

As I said, I've never done it. It sounds like a fairly stupid idea to me but I have no problems with other people doing it.

EDIT: Yay! 100th post

I've done it *blushes*! With a girl in America. It was rather excellent I have to say My boyfriend thought it was cool!

I understand it isn't everyones idea of a good time but don't knock it 'til you've tried it

yes.... alot

Never done it. I can't see how people get anything out of it myself.

Done it. Done it with different people. Am quite good at it. I've been told to write romance novels before from the discription.

However I don't do it anymore.

How come....if you don't mind me asking

I don't think its a great thing to so with a stranger...but your other half is ok.
Its quite sexy...same as the written word (stating the obvious)

Oh I think it's not so bad with a stranger. I don't mean a complete stranger but someone you've been chatting to. Mine was kinda like a one night cyber stand! I met her, we got talking, a couple of days later we were having cyber sex. Simple really.

The irony being is that I absolutely can't do that in real life. I can't just have one night stands or sleep with a guy (or girl ) after a few hours or days (sometime weeks). It has to be right

I guess in that way cyber sex makes me more of a hussy!

I'd happily have cyber sex with my bloke (if he was on-line ) or a girl but not another man. My bloke is fine with my bi-curious state (and any experiences I want to have) but would freak if I did it with another man and I wouldn't want to anyway as I love him

Hope that rambling make sense?

I think I'm in the same position to a degree. I guess someone you've been chatting to for a long time would be ok.
It would really depend on the circumstances.

It doesn't float my boat anymore I suppose.

I would much perfer doing the real thing.

Of course I actually got into the position where the girl was only interested in talking dirty. She didn't want to discuss anything else. I mean nothing at all It was asking her about her likes and dislikes in general, what she was getting up to at home and work and it was always eventually resulted in a smutty response

Don't get me wrong, that was why I was talking to her but if it was real life and not cyber sex you don't just walk up to someone in the street, give them a line, shag them and everytime you see them just shag them again. There is some conversation involved!

Also, just because it's cyber you shouldn't feel obliged to have sex with someone if you don't fancy them as a person. I.e. I have to really like, respect and get on with the person I'm chatting to before I'll consider taking it to that next level in the first place and only if they want to.

In some ways it's even more complicated than just pulling someone in a club

Narth and I do it on occasion considering we can't do it in real life. Other than that, no.

No, Sarah is a little e-virgin. (And a RL virgin...*cough*)

I just think I'd feel so awkward! If people can do it and enjoy it then I guess that's cool, but for me, nuh uh. Maybe (big maybe!) if I had a boyfriend or something and I was incredibly fond of him, then after a while I might consider cybering him, I'm not sure.

I'm such a little prude.

uh, yeah, i have...thing is, i've only done it purposely a few times...a lot of the conversations i seem to have with people wind up to cybering eventually

Yep, I have. Before my husband and I met IRL we were together online for 8 months, mind you.

Phone sex was always our preference, however. It's much better.

I obviously don't do either anymore, as I'm married. I doubt I would even if I wasn't, cause now I actually know what the real thing is like and what I'd be missing.

done it...still do it... I say no more...*walks away*

I did, once. Well, I say "once", I mean "several times wi the same chick". She even sent me photos of herself... an yes, they were *cough*nude*cough*... an that was the first time I spoke to her too, which was pretty odd... Anyways, we did the cyber thing a few times, an then we made some tenuous arrangements to meet up, which I subsequently bailed out of. I dunno, it all seemed a bit too weird fer my likin. So I never did it again.

Oh, an I type slow enough as it is when I use both hands, imagine how hard it is fer me to type at any speed at all while strokin the one-eyed gopher! On second thoughts, PLEASE dun imagine that!

On eyed gopher?

If your willy looks like a gopher, I'd head to the quacks Leo

I heard that euphemism on a Bloodhound Gang album, an it sorta came to me while I was typin... it dun look like a gopher, I promise!

hehe...trust the bloodhound gang to come up with that...

and i've heard way worse

The song that comes off is just so gloriously offensive, but the Casio organ "bossa nova" backbeat on it is DEFINITELY the most offensive part

I have. I think it's pretty good mental stimulation. :D

I used to do it a lot in chatrooms and such way back when i first got the net but i slowly got bored of it. Now of course with a significant other its waaaaaay more fun, the whole sending pics thing and the whole fantasy thing. Definitely good mental stimulation, also on the phone is fun, when both of us are alone at night, which is not as common. IRL was the best though but since we are in a long distance relationship, we gotta have alternatives

Phone sex is cool too, but neither hold a candle to the real thing.

thanks hun... everyone want to know our sex life!

heh but yeah like i said befor im just good with words and i enjoy it more then the real thing

So phone sex huh? This might sound dumb but I never really understood how that worked. I also get soooo embarrassed about talking dirty so I guess it'll never work!

Sorry slightly off topic then.

Cybering is cool. You can be anyone you want to be, as dirty (or not) as you want to be!!

I have.. my baby is in iraq and we talk about all the things we will do to eachother in detail when he comes home... and we do it every day.. sometimes for hours on end lol............... soo yeah... CYBER SLUT woot

...I'm sure this will be a surprise and all, I have done it all pretty much... I cybered before I graduated to phone sex..and the of course THE sex...afterwards with that same girl...

but she left and i moved out after ... it's a realease the way i see it like a one night stand and you can still be happy the next day about it...

the best thing about cyber i guess is the fact that you can let your imagination run and try things you'd probably never try in real life... and not be distracted by such things as, omg why is your EDIT so EDIT weird?...or gravity for that matter

...ahem...anyway ...yeah...

*blushes* um.. yah i have.... it was interesting.... and i as told im very good at details...hm... *blushes* ok, so yah, i just really really embarrassed myself..


the only thing i probably havent done is real sex.... *thinks* hm..... i think i want to keep it that way for a while....

Wow I've tried everything I said I was doing when I cybered. Then again I'm experimental. Never thought of it that way.

Hmmmmmm what wouldn't I do in real that I might do in cyber? I can't think of anything other than hanging upside down of course that may be an option in the future sometime. lol

You could go furry. *nods* Or roleplay. Or do things your body wouldn't normally allow, like bending and such.

Probably?

Trust me, I think you'd have noticed if ya had real sex. Unless ya were asleep an he was dreadful...

Goin to what wes said, I know on the one occasion I cybered, I did "do" stuff I've never done in RL. Mainly cos she was drivin it all the time. Prolly why I never did it again, really, cos if she wasn't so forthcomin then I'd prolly not have started wi her either...

Course I have!!!!!!!! Computer was a bit uncomfortable to sit on for long periods tho....

I have never cybered... wait, scratch that, yes I have... damn, I screwed up the whole poll! Curse my memory lapses!... ... Curse my memory lapses!

A friend of mine likes role reversal - pretending to be the woman, while the woman pretends to be the man.

Phone sex is basically the same as cybering, only you don't have to worry about the typing! I get embarrassed about talking dirty too, but meh I got over it pretty quickly..lol. Only ever did it with the guy who is now my husband though.

I personally never did anything in cyber or phone sex that I didn't eventually do IRL. Although, that does seem like a good idea...Oh well, too late now..lol.

Ta! I just find it all very embarrassing and can't stop myself giggling and as with real life situations that can actually destroy any passion....go on....try it!

I did try text sex but that was just frustrating as it took me ages to type in what I wanted to so and I guess cyber sex is just the easier version!

text sex? that must 1, take absolute f--king years, and 2, cost a bomb by the end of it...

Hrmmm... me thinks my typing would start to get illegible near the end...





Why is everyone staring at me

either that, or very...VERY...slow...

cyber/text sex - i dont know - ive sent dirty messages but mostly jokingly(ish) and im crap at sounding slutty anyways i get far too amused by the whole thing

phone sex ive tried but again im just terrible at sounding all sexy and stuff like that and i end up falling off the bed/kitchen counter in fits of laughter (which probably doesnt help the person on the other line either...)

Well ya know how men can sometimes....er....finish in about 2 minutes.......? It's the same for text sex!!! Nah, only joking!

It was really just talking dirty and winding my bloke up as he was driving over to see me and he just pounced on me when he got in the door.

HURRAH for dirty texts!

cyber, yeah i do it every so often, its fun, i like it


eats up those hours of my life

teh cyber is teh fun. I personally would like to think I'm good at it but I guess that just depends on the person or something *shrugs*

But for me its just another form of say erotic literature, only I get to write it as I go along. Its all just masturbatory prep work *nod nod*