Earlier this year, I realized I was in love with my best friend. She knows because secrets pass through my group too fast, and because I haven't asked, hasn't told me how she feels. Tonight I decided to tell her, but am freaked out about it. Please help...

My rather extensive experiance with this problem should help here. It has never worked for me, and only resulted in heartbreak.

Don't ruin a friendship if you value it unless you are certain the feeling is mutal.

Well you should find out how your friend feels. No harm in that, and no harm in trying either. I was best friends with my guy before we went out so ya it works. And even if they say no, least you can still have them as a friend.

Ouch, that is a tough position to be in. I myself have been on the other side of it. So my advice to you is, tell her. Just get your courage together and go for it. If it ruins the friendship, it really isn't a strong friendship. It might change things, but it's going to come out eventually anyway, right? And it's best if you keep as open as possible. A friend of mine came out to me like that, while I have a boyfriend too. It was really really brave of him too. I would never want to ruin a friendship over that though. Friends are important people to have. So I hope that it goes well for you. Although the results may hurt. But it's a chance you need to take. And just know that there are people here to back you up.

If you need anything, feel free to send me a message, my ears are open.

I really think she at least cares for me, because she's spoken of being with me, but... I'm so afraid of rejection...

i know its hard, believe me i have liked my share of frens, sum of the tihngs turnd out good in the end, i felt better because he finaly knew but one case i wish i hadent becuase he rubbed it in.. and used it agaisnt me. i know who it is your talking about.. and u alreayd know my feelings about her... i think that if you and her are as close as you are, she will udnerstand.. if she rejects you.. it wasnt ment to be... *hugs* u know me and shelly still love you tho.. and ill always be aroudn to talk to if you need me

*Full of pent up happiness...*

I talked to her and asked her her feelings, and right away, she didn't say anything bad and... She does. At least as long as I've loved her and... Now I'm all happy and want to giggle...

Congratulations!

In my experience, while there are risks, I've also noticed that friends dating friends can be some of the best relationships in the world.

Just a warning- the intimacy could be awkward at first, but there are so many advantages to dating your friends-- you already know so much about them!

Hope it works out for you!

Well, Now I have a question. What do you consider dating? This is my first (Real/Serious) relationship, and I'm not quite sure.

Dating? Now that's an interesting question. I guess dating - or seeing each other-- is "engaging in communication and contact with each other when two people both express a romantic interest in each other." How's that? Anything can be dating, as long as the two people are both aware that now romantic feelings are involved!

(Don't ask me, it took Tigersong and I 3 days to decide we were going to start "going out" as the messages were exchanged over e-mail! In the 3rd message I actually asked him via email if he was now my "boyfriend." Ah, 18 year old love...then we talked on the phone and emailed until we could meet each other again and again. So if you have any questions about long-distance...)

YAY!!!!!!! *celebrates*