Question: Has anyone here ever despised a sibling for being born?

I know it’s horrible, but…I can honestly say I despise my little sister—and I hate myself for being like this but I don’t know how to get around it! I was five when she was born and now she’s nine…I haven’t had an actual conversation with her in two years…I don’t know…I guess I just want to know If it’s just me…

I guess some people just don't click.

Like my older sister and I. Most of the time we just avoid each other, or get into arguments. Once in a while we get along. She's a real pest and I just try as hard as I can to stay away from her...we're almost total opposites, and that's that. I don't wish she were dead, I wish she was a person I could like more. But she isn't, so I have to deal with that.

Do you know why you despise her? It could be you were happy being an only child, and then she popped on the scene. I was furious at my dad when he told me his wife was pregnant, and I was fourteen! But don't take it out on your sister, it's not her fault for being born. So no, it's normal, it's fine. However you just need to let the anger flow out of you, in time it will dissipate, and you'll find that having a sibling has advantageschick magnet!. Hope that helps.

Don't worry... it's not really hate, i think it's just that your personalities can't seem to mingle. Maybe if you give it some time it will work out.

I'd agree with this, when you are both adults you will probably get on way way better. I am the youngest of siblings and my older brother used to kick, punch and generally be horrible to me but now we are adults we just accept it was part of growing up. He still has his faults though. !

Thing is--I have two older brothers--and I used to love her-couldn't get me to leave her alone...but she developed a Princess Complex---she goes around telling my older brothers and I: "I can do what I want and not get in trouble because Mommy loves me more, and she'll believe me!"
She gives me plenty reasons not to like her. And after she came, things started happening with the rest of my family...we don't get along-we had problems before but they seemed to multiply...

And sorry Maxerpopple---I am a girl...I'd attract guys...unfortunately all the ones I know--just...that's a new subject all together! heh...

Ooh, my little sister is nine. We all try to influence her to shape her into a good person - thing is, she occasionally comes up with bad traits that we tried to prevent. My father is a bit worried she's going to end up like my older sister - everyone knows my older sister tends to be more of an annoyance than a positive contribution to the family. But there's no way you can change people for sure. Your sis probably still has room for improvement, and you can always talk to your parent(s) about her if needed. I'm sure they don't appreciate her Princess Complex very much. We don't enjoy my older sister's, but no matter what we do, it seems to stick. There's only so much you can do - try to do that - and then maybe just keep your distance. Good luck.

Well then you have nothing to worry about. You don't despise her for being born, you just don't like her because she's acting like a b*tch. There's nothing wrong with that. I mean, you don't have to love your family by default. If they're not nice people then you should treat them like people who arn't nice

Amen.

"You *have* to love me, Sarah. I'm your sister." Nope. Love should not be forced, and you shouldn't be guilted into loving.

They know--I talk to my mom and dad all the time...they just play it off as an age thing.

Bullshit. _ _; first it was cause she was 6--then it was cause she was 7-then cause she was 8-and now caus she's nine.

It annoys me..but yes juice--I guess you're right...but still...it all could have been prevented with my friend the condom! ^_~

You're an angry and unhappy teenager, join the club

Not that I don't sympathise with you, in fact, because of that I do even more. But what I'm trying to say is that most families are pretty shite (I said 'shite', not that other nasty word ) so the only thing to do is put on some very loud angsty music and wear strange looking clothes and complain that nobody understands you. Because nobody does, except us

You get my point though? I'm sitting over on the other side of the world with a different problem, but one that is very similar none the less. Take solace in the fact that you are not alone, and we're always here to listen to you complain about your family or unburden any other problems you might have.

The Juice is right. Actually, I don't think we have any unangry, happy teenagers around here.



Well put. (you can borrow some of my angsty CDs if you want. and my clothes. the t-shirts I buy just keep getting bigger and bigger.)

Oh, and do I love to complain about my family. Rare is the time there's a mommy, a daddy, and a bunch of loving kids living in perfect harmony. Feel free to unburden yourself, we're all here for you. OK, I'm just agreeing with Juice. Anyway.

Hey, I like having someone agreeing with me all the time. You need a job? I could put you on the pay roll

No! MY noobmaster! ::steals back gothictheysay::

I'm just messin-I'll share! ::huggles her noobmaster::


I love my angsty music--It's how I survive.....I also have some stuff in Japanese that gets me all perky again.

::hums:: far away-so far away doko made demo daredette kunoshite aruitku

(dunno if I spelled all that Japanese right..I'll fix it later _ _; )

Sure, Juice, put me up for a job...Being a noobmaster is harder work than you'd think



Hehe, I like listening to songs in foreign languages. I don't have music that gets me "perky" per say, but if I'm upset and want to feel better I put on slightly happier-toned music. Don't worry about spelling things right, I can't read it anyway, and I doubt a lot of us will be able to either. Speaking of obnoxious sisters, my sister woke up and immediately kicked me off the upstairs computer. I fled the room because she was smelly. It's called SOAP.

Yeah---soap is a lovely---::looks at the sig:: I HAVE A NOOB BROTHER!

SHWEE!

2 noob brothers at that. Rejoice!

I'm rather emotional, so when people piss me off......yeah, i tend to get really mad about it. Usually, i tend to get more angry when people hurt those close to me more then if they would hurt just me. My brother promised my mom that he would call on Saturday.........of course, he didn't. Mom always holds her breath for him, and yet he still ignores his family. That's pissed me off many a time, but I've never hated him. Just wish i could beat the shit outta him.

Eh, kinda the same deal with my older brother...only he lives at home...and ditches work...pisses us all off...oh well *sigh*

ANYWHO---


I *do* rejoice! I have a whole family now! Tou-san*, Okaa-san**, and too Aniki's***! (can you tell i'm really into the japanese language?)

I only know basics though...but if anyone wants to learn some i'll be happy to share what I know!


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*Father
**Mother
***Older Brother

I hated one of my brothers for years and years, he was such a nightmare and he used to really upset my Mum. But, we're so close now you wouldn't believe it, I love him to pieces and he's one of my closest friends!

Does anyone still remember The Smiths?

They weren't angsty, just depressing