We've all seen people making out and hugging while we're out in public. Some people find it terribly offensive, and others could care less. Personally, I find no problem with it at all. I've been caught making out in the halls plenty of times at school. I've even gone as far as to have manual sex in the middle if the mall w/ a jacket covering our areas while a guy was "sleeping" next to us. So I must ask you all, how much do you find acceptable, and where should people stop?

Closed-mouth kissing but nothing beyond. I just don't see the whole point of doing it in public. Beats me. *shrug* I don't really care, but I don't want to see people making out and have to see exactly what they're doing if it's anything beyond the norm of what you usually see. I have no desire to step over people f***ing each other in the hallways, though it shouldn't come to that. I hope.

Sex between two should be an intimate and loving thing, not out for all to gawk at. I'd prefer people to have some decency. Make out in a corner, I don't care, but must you by groping each other on the park bench?

My high school had a "no kissing" rule. Some couples protested by having "love ins" in front of the principal's office.

I'm embarrassed to be caught involved in a PDA...and embarrassed to see other people involved in them...but, really, it depends on how many people are around, where it is....ex., if two people are on the far, non-busy end of a beach, and decide to make out, that's ok, but it has gone way too far when it is obvious there's something going on under the beach blanket that is covering them....

Free love man

I'm fine with it, as long as there's no rutting in the streets... maybe on secluded beaches with towels.... on the whole it doesn't bother me, and I've probably been guilty of a few PDAs in my time as well... If people start complaining... it's time to take it back home...


Nah, making out is fine, very light groping is acceptable as long as you're discrete, anything else is a but too much for public.

my school has a zero tolerance thing. Hugging is too much, if it's a boy/girl. boy on boy hugs are non existant, but the girls could be groping eachother before the teachers did jack squat.

dosen't mean that couples don't manage to sneak in a kiss now and then, but we're all 11-15 and well...they have a point.

either way it dosen't matter. i see both point of views, so whatever. and as long as the sex is kept to the janitor's closet or the nearest bathroom i'm cool.

Oh, well, if you're doing it slightly out of sight, go right ahead...

When it's blatant, see above rules. But sex is usually a no no. Daughter o' mine, you have to do it in crowded areas, like the lunchroom and the gym. The places I had mine

Not necessarily. Not everyone regards sex as a completely bedroom orientated thing. Some people like the thrill of doing it in public. That's their choice. Personally, although it would be quite a turn on, having sex in a park in broad daylight is not something I'd do. I can see why people wouldn't want to see it. I couldn't give a monkey's arse if people do or not, although there is the problem of where to look when you're the only other person around.

Anyway, as for just kissing, hugging, relatively tame fondling etc in public, there's nothing wrong with that in my opinion. Again, using the example of a park (last friday to be precise ) there's plenty of places to go or look if you're toffee nosed enough to be offended by it.

That includes stupid little kids who decide to play football close enough to make us flinch when they kick the ball, inches from our heads. Grr. Fair enough, it's as much their park as it ours, but can't they use a bit of common sense and play a bit further away? Another thing is parents with even younger kids in prams and held by hand walking past (unnecessarily close) and tutting as if we shouldn't be exposing their children to that sort of behaviour. Never mind the fact that there's the whole park for them to walk through, and they choose to walk straight past us!

I'm against public displays of affection, just because it reminds me of how lonely I am.

I'm a hug whore. I'll hug anyone anywhere...constantly!

so I'm cool with hugging in public. But when people start kissing when they are stood right infront of you it's really annoying...especially in queues or at gigs or somewhere it's kinda hard to move from! I don't care if it's somewhere out of the way or when you have option to look away/move, people have a right to show they care but there are times and places.

Anything more than kissing is a big no no. Get a room.

What about a field?

Ditto. A couple of my friends have taken to going "No hugs, NO HUGS" whenever I approach. I'm a very physical person like that. I hug my friends all the time! I touch a lot of the time too, but that's 'very unacceptable' in the school, apparently. Now I have to look out before I noogie my friends in the hallway...

I think it depends on the time and the place, and of course what they are doing...like snoo said, standing in queues where people have no chance of moving is not the time or place for PDAs. Get a room, field or somewhere else where people can avoid you easily I guess.

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Also...what can they have agains hugging really? Does your school want people to grow up and turn into emotionless clones or something?

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I have no clue. For crying out loud, we're not raping each other.

It really isn't their fault. Their administration working for the government. They are beaurocratized. They have to catch flak every time something goes wrong, so they have to institute zero tolerance policies like that.

my old school had some rules that are pretty weird and hardly anyone knew about...

no male is to be within 10cm a female (and vice versa) - pretty dumb when you concider that in many classes, in the lower years especially, we were sat boy, girl, boy, girl elbow to elbow!

girls can't wear shiny shoes incase a male teacher sees a reflection up their skirt - erm so why make us all wear skirts to begin with? Gah. Evil school...strict no trousers for girls policy!

BAH!

umm..yeah there you go!

Isn't that the point of any school?

My school isn't too bad about PDA, as long as it's kept out of the classroom. Hugging, kissing etc out of lessons is usually ignored, within reason.

At cadets though, there's very strict rules about physical contact, anyone with anyone. You have to ask for a person's explicit permission to adjust their uniform for instance. I have been caught out giving someone a hug while on duty at the gliding school. That didn't go down well, especially as the person I was hugging had been a victim of sexual harrassment by one of the staff at the gliding school. But that's a completely different topic (which isn't going to happen).

Shouldn't it be look/move away...

Nevermind.

I don't mind anything up to groping, but sex I would probably find offensive.

And don't you have the libary to make out in? Oh the good old days of making out in the libary...

I think one of the reasons people like making out in public and everything is because ppl find it offensive and its not so socially acceptable. It's the whole excitment of doing it. And also, why should showing affection towards your signifigant other be restricted to just private places? Shouldn't you be proud of who you're with and therefore want to "show them off" (bad choice of words probably) and show them the same affection all the time?

Absolutely. And besides, in public is sometimes the only place where young couples can be together without annoying parentish people breathing down their necks. Ironically, a public place can be more private than a bedroom.

A point you do have, but in that case the best place is a public place in private . An example i've heard is the farside of a beach; it's a place where people would be but aren't, hence the public privacy. just my 2 cents...

or even the family bathrooms in the mall ...........

(off topic- snoo, it is actually illegal for a school not to allow girls to wear trousers- uniform should be skirt or trousers, with no gender specified so even a boy can wear a skirt if he wants.)

anyway, ive been guilty of a few PDAs in my time, but i do think that if theres gonna be kids around to control yourself and find somewhere a little more secluded.

these laws saying that you cant have sex in your own back garden or front room if anyone can see are bloody stupid, people shouldnt be nosing anyway.

but discresion should be used, couples set limits and prudes be a little less prudish

in England?

yeah PDAs...I think holding hands is nice, it's sweet and shows your affection but not in an in your face (literally) kinda way!

What about the PDA's that happen on the dance floor in clubs and bars? Can we even call those PDA's, or is it more like "drunken groping orgy?"

That really offends me sometimes; I've seen people in bars be really explicit, like this one girl practically climbing this guy, and one guy dancing behind his girlfriend with his hands clambed on her breasts. (unfortunately, I knew her!!!) I don't need to see that...I can dance and flirt without letting things get out of hand...

(of course, maybe if I did it I would have a different opinion...maybe that could be fun...have to talk to Tigersong about that...) erm.

If I'm wondering exactly HOW far her tongue is down his throat, and if that's actually physically possible, there's a good time to stop.

snoo- yes, in england. some students took their school to the european court of human rights and won.


nightclubs are a different matter when it comes to pdas imo, theres no kids, and lots of people do go expressley to pull, and its alcohol fuelled, yes, it is distasteful to anyone not involved but its less of an issue than making out in a playground.


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not to offend anyone, but i really must stop these americanisms. from now on i shall refer to 'making out' as 'getting off'. and i will make an effort to refrain from saying 'ass' and use 'arse' instead

I think it's best to express your love when no one's watching. You don't have to worry about people saying anything, and it's more interesting when you search for a private nook or cranny. And there's always the suspense of getting caught. Heheh.. the buildings in my neighborhood have these pillar things on the first floor. We hide behind them when we want to express our love.

What about the back of a cinema?

No it's not, the school I left about nine months ago didn't allow girls to wear trousers.

It should be painfully obvious that I'm not a prude, but I've never found full-on tongue action particularly tasteful or pleasant to watch, and it irritates me when people do it in front of me.

I don't really mind ppl making out in the hallways, as long as they aren't completely all over eachother. The lunchroom however I feel is too far, or when it looks like they're about to rip eachother's clothes off that's a good stopping point too.

Kissing and hugging is one thing.

Dropping down on your knees and blowing a guy in the middle of the hallway is another.

There has to be some decency.

Although I can say that as far as public sex goes, the back of the movie theatre is one place that I don't really mind ppl making out. I think that the prospect of getting caught turns many ppl on and that's why they do it. But there there is a point when enough is enough.

It depends on where the tounge action is taking place

I can say that I'm not especailly bothered about PDAs, my first proper kiss was on the edge of a moshpit. Not the best place to do it, but I wasn't bothered, anywho we soon moved to the bathroom so it wasn't that bad.

After a messy break up last October my first weekend single I spent in Paris, a bad place to be after a break up, and I avoided any signs of PDA, even simply holding hands infront of me was a crime. But I'm beginning to feel like that again...

Gar you're not alone, ain't life a bitch.

I remember being surprised about the number of PDA's going on in the streets of Paris when I was there....has anyone else noticed this, or was it just me?

I guess you just don't see that kind of full-out tongue action between adults on the streets of Winnipeg in the spring....

Well, Paris is the official Capital of Romance, and Winnipeg is... well... funny sounding and not much else.

i can hold hands, and give little pecks on the lips, but i definatly cannot shove my tounge down their throat or have their hands all over me. i just happen to be a private person, and i find that PDA is a very personal thing. it doesnt bother me as much as most, but i do think it should be kept out of view. i guess there are exceptions, for instance, your hubby/wife is leaving for a bit and you two are saying goodbye at the station/airport/wherever (same if they just came home from being away for a bit) and you two throw aside all respect for others, thats understandable, in fact its almost expected. i dont concider myself prudish for this, its just being respectful to yourself and to the people around you.

ditto but apparently they've had to make it an option (according to my younger cousin) and as of next term girls will be allowed to wear navy blue pin stripe straight leg trousers. Obviously seeing as this is the ONLY option (and trust me when my old school says ONLY they mean ONLY, you wear skin coloured tights in year 9 you won't be for very long) nobody is going to go for it because they are gross and don't go at all.

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In my opinion, most people make out on park benches, mall benches, corners of schools etc. because they want attention. I mean, there's a difference between seeing your boyfriend and running to give him a hug, and maybe a kiss, but actually having to sit down and concentrate at it just makes me think that your advertising the fact that you have someone.
Even some private stuff is annying. When a couple friends of mine went out (for 3 years, to all of our total dibelief) we would be in the basement watching tv or whatever *cough* and all of the sudden they'd be on top of eachother, slopping about and rolling, and giggling, and whispering... for HOURS. Oh my goooooood. eventually we yelled at them, but they didn't do much, just cut it down to about half an hour. If there are other people in the room, and they're trying to you know, watch tv, or talk... whatever, don't start eating someone's face. Blah

Or maybe, they wanted to kiss each other.

I'm fine with all public displays of affection. If I want to kiss/huggle/squeeze the person I'm with, then why the hell not? Why shouldn't I be pleased to be with that person and enjoy touching them?

Admittadly, if you're talking about public displays of lust - well, that's a bit different. I have publically been...um...amourous(sp?) with partners when out and about but we were always very discreet about it. Admittadly, that was more because we could get arrested for it then any consideration for the people around us.

Like when you can't hear the damn movie. "Please leave the sound effects to the cinematographers..."

I would want to watch the movie first, and then make out somewhere else.

"Psst! Hey! Stoppit!"

"What?! What's wrong?"

"Just let me see this action roll..."

Hehe. Whenever I have parents downstairs or something I would usually put a film on as an excuse as to why we were up in the spair bedroom alone. Music is to obvious but a film can be innocent. I just can't watch action films or thinking films while making out because I am the sort of guy who ruins the moment because he has to look up for a death, fight sequence or a view of Arwen's arse.

*shakes finger* Tch...

Well, a couple of girls on the bus back from our field trip made out three times for three dollars. First of all, a bus? Second, only $3? I don't really approve of that sort of thing.

Bah, you bunch of prudes.

Why should I have to censor my relationship with my wife just in case I offend someone? Crapsticks to 'em, say I. None of their gosh-darned business who and where I kiss, pinch or grab. I'll do what I want, where I want (within the bounds of laws and cultural customs, of course). If they get uncomfortable with me expressing myself physically, then maybe they need to loosen up and chill out.

I will concede that there's a huge difference between your standard PDA in public, and one in a social context. Anything more than lip-to-lip while you're in the middle of a social interaction with other folk outside of you and your chosen PDA-partner is a bit weird.

I'm guilty of making out in a corner on occasion, but I personally don't like making out in the middle of a room for all to see. It's fun sometimes, but most of the time, it's just not my deal. I do agree with J-man when it comes to corners and what-not. If I'm making out in a corner or something, let me make out. I'm not hurting anyone.

when i was in grade 11, there were four couples in our group. at lunch time, three of these couples would make out during lunch. now i like to think of myself as a liberal minded person, but when i'm surrounded by 6 people groping each other (with hands under clothing) and frenching while i'm trying to eat, i think that's pretty darn rude. especially when we had a table in the middle of the caf... incidentally, that's why i moved over to jaq and tigersongs' lunch table.

My school wont allow people to make out but couples can hold hands. On the other hand some of the (taken) people in my technology class (where im the only girl) come pretty close to sexual harrasment and the teacher doesnt even attempt to stop it.

In public *shrug* it depends on the time, place and circumstances. My parents are strictly against PDAs (to the extent they made me close the curtains when me and my bf were making out on the sofa at 9pm) so im kinda inclined to be more tolerant.

PDAs only bother me when I'm out with my friends and all of a sudden any couples in our group start trying to swallow each others tonsils. Anyone not hanging out with me is welcome to have a make-out session against a wall if they like.

But since I don't hang out with my friends much, thats no biggie.

Personally, I've made out on a bus before with my (then) boyfriend.... mind you this was a bus full of the grade below us and we were probably in about the middle of the bus. No groping though. I'm a bit anti-overly-public-groping.

Movie theatres are great! As long as you keep it to the back three rows. They're a no go area for non-couples at our local theatre.