This is one of my "Random Thoughts" on my website, if you'd like to read the others go to My Webpage
and check them out.. this is the one i feel most strongly about.. read and tell me if you agree or disagree... enjoy.

Well I have noticed that many people don't understand how other people act to certing things. And i have thought about it for a little bit now and using my pyschology knowledge and commen snense i have, this is what i have come up with. People are very complex beings, and how they are brought up in their enviornment impacts them greatly. My environment was mainly a military one, beacuse my dad was a very strict military man and a very professional person. This has affected me greatly, because it has fine tuned me to be competive, profesional, and strict in pretty much every thing I do(cept a few things, but thats a different story). Anyway, you see the reason people are the way they are is, because they don't know anything else. You see if you have a family, and they don't talk to each other much(feelings and all that) like mine for example, for say 20 years. Now then, my dad was this way, military have a strict PDA rule and my dad took to it like it was the holy bible, as for all the other rules and such. So our family was a "understanding" one and we never really discussed anything. Now that my dad is retired, he doesn't have to follow the rules, and its completely different, he doesn't know how to act now. He wants to talk, but my family is so use to not talking, we don't want to. Its hard to understand that for my dad because of other things(again another story) So it causes problems. Anyway... You see we are all conditioned to do certin things, and how we are throughout our lives affects how we are as people. This is why we have killers, politicans, doctors, business men, nascar people... EVERY JOB the reason why people do them is because thats what they grew up to be. Sure you are INTERESTED in other jobs, but natuarlly the thing you experince most is what you'll be, but if you go against your "calling" then you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life. So i say this, if you feel right in what you do, DO IT! Because if you don't you'll hate yourself. Well I guess i'm done rambling on.. if you can make sense of this.. congratulations.

What if the person's 'calling' also makes them unhappy? Are they better off trying something else? Do you think people are better off being a little unhappy, but knowing who they are; or better off having fun, but with an underlying identity crisis?

I just do what seems like a good idea at the time. The trouble is, when your younger, your life does take a certain degree of control from your 'rents. I know my mum almost persuaded me to do an A level i didnt want to take. She pretty much runs my life.

Being like the way you were brought up is not always the case. You see it all the time-- children rebel against their parents for whatever reason, and when they grow to be adults, usually the parents and the kids get along at least enough to talk to eachother, but they could not be more different. Like, say, the classic cliche that I hate about the boy brought up by his over zealous parents, raising him to be some star quarter back or something, but omigoodness! he wants to DANCE! Or he wants to SING! Or he wants to go off to California with his BOYFRIEND! Even though that's mostly just a main plot for some terrbile movie or sitcom, things like that happen all the time.