My mother has been baker acted twice, and twice she's been diagnosed with being bipolar. This has run in my family as long as I can remember. My great grandmother had it, so did my grandmother, and my mother. She refuses to take medication for it. And what's worse, is that I prob. too have inherited this. I was thinking about getting pyscho analyzed and if I do show signs of being bipolar, get medication for it, but slip it into her drink and what not, so she'd calm down. She has extreme mood swings, and is highly aggressive. She is full of hate and bitterness. She holds a grudge longer than anyone. Example: My parents were going through a custody battle from like.. 1989-1996. When I was in the seventh grade, my father moved me from Florida to North Carolina. My summer of 6th grade I went to Alaska with my dad for a job instead of spending it with her. She had no idea that we were moving, and was pissed when I didn't spend the summer with her knowing that I was going to move. My dad had told me not to tell her. I didn't know what to do, betray one parent and have them get into another legal battle? She told me, now in the 11th grade that she had just forgiven me for this. I'm sick and tired of her mood swings and overall bitterness. Should I get pyscho analyzed and give her the medication?

Oh no. Oh no no no no. One thing I'd advise against - do not slip it into her drink. Get her to a therapist somehow, but do not do that - it'll just create more problems.

I think you should all get psycho analyzed, get your own meds, and decide whether or not to take them. Sit down and have a long talk with your mother over what you need to do - hopefully that should help. *shrugs* I just don't want things to get worse.

Slipping people chemicals behind their backs is a very bad plan indeed. Even the calmest person in the world will get very angry indeed about that. Plus if you manage to get them prescribed for you giving them to somebody else rather than taking them yourself just doesn't help with your life at all. If you get given them there is probably a reason...

Sweetie, listen. Your mom does, indeed, need help. If she's been Baker acted (for those of you who don't know, the Baker act is a law that states that if a person appears to be a threat to himself or others, he is to be commited to a psychiatric care facility for up to 72 hours; both Harmonie and I have been Baker acted) she needs to seek serious professional help. You can't make her. You can insist that she do it. Ask your brother or stepdad for help. Even if she does seek help, it's not a 100% guarantee that she'll got through with the treatment or take her meds. I've seen a lot of bipolars do stuff like that. Perhaps your seeking treatment would help prompt her to do the same. In retrospect, I can think of a few behaviors you've exhibited that could be construed as bipolar. In any case, listen to what I've said and take my advice. That's the best I can give you for now, dear. Who knows, it might actually work.

Bad. Just very bad. Your mother needs help but slipping her pills would only backfire -- majorly.

Anytime I try to talk to her about any faults she has, so goes ballistic. She won't ask for help, but she is extremely needy. The only way she'll "ask" you for help is if she can "trap" you and then she'll demand help thinking it's her right. If I ask her about getting help, it'll only make things worse at home.

I've talked to my dad, and he said that he tried for years. So did her last husband. I can't talk to my step dad because he's too afraid to "plot" against her, and my brother is moving out, so it's not his problem anymore. And I can't go get analyzed because first off, I don't have a car, and I know for a fact she would't take me. She works and when she gets home she's tired. My brother doesn't understand, he takes her side. "when mom's in a bad mood.. she's in a really bad mood.. but remember Samantha, when she's in a good mood she's the most loving person" and I try to tell him that that's basically how a bipolar person acts, and he just bleh, ignores what I say. It's like, everyone knows, but they won't do anything about it, and she's not the only one that's suffering.

That's how a lot of unmedicated bipolars act, myself included. Severe irritability is very common among bipolars. I hate to say it, but I'm not suprised. It's a shame your stepdad isn't more willing to help her out. She doesn't want help and he won't give it to her on account of this. It happens way too much.


Yeah...It seems the family of the bipolar is affected just as much as the bipolar himself.

Excuse me while I go cry. This saddens me beyond measure.

Don't let it sadden you too much Ri, I'm hopefully moving out of this house as well.. and going back to high school yay!! But I was just thinking about this post.. and maybe it should go into Daily Life.