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BigMistake
post Aug 26 2012, 02:03 AM
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Hey guys,

About two hours ago something happened that scared the s**t out of me, and I'd like to know if I overreacted or not.

Basically, I was in my room and headed for the kitchen when a big dude appeared out of nowhere. He was asking for money (250 euro's) to "borrow" because of some vague reasons which changed several times. Being my small, not strong and not fast I decided to just go along with it. I locked the door to my room (which had plenty of stuff that was worth the amount) and walked with him to an ATM. I know, it sounds really really stupid and it was, but I figured it was better then saying no then and there and maybe provoking him or escalating whatever it was.

We get to an ATM, and I punch in random numbers pretending it's my PIN. My card gets blocked, and he's none the wiser. He insists we try it at a different ATM, so we end up going to a mall where there's a few. I repeat the process and he gets a bit annoyed. After convincing him that internet banking wouldn't work, he said "he'd try a nephew nearby" and said he'd be back later. I proceed to head home, lock all the doors and close all the windows (reminder to self: kick the ass of whoever left that one open), and after about an hour of not hearing anything I decide to phone the police and call it in anyway, just in case. Of course they say what I had been thinking all along, "no criminal offense", etc etc etc.

I've been running through this scenario over and over in my head and I can't stop thinking that I overreacted in the first place. What if I just said "No, and please get out of my house"? I just had this idea in my head where I thought he'd (physically) force me to do withdraw money or the like. Am I wrong for thinking that? Have I just read too many horror stories, watched too much tv?
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post Aug 26 2012, 11:07 AM
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I don't think you overreacted as such. Regardless of the man's intentions (maybe there was a genuine and sincere request in there... somewhere), I would class that as a threatening situation. Perhaps not necessarily "threatening" from a criminal point of view, but I reckon that having a random person requesting to borrow a large amount of money would certainly put most people on edge. 250 euros is substantially more than just, "50p for a cup of tea" or "2 for the bus home". To be honest, I am wary in situations where someone asks for some loose change because they need to get a bus home having got themselves in some kind of trouble. Mostly because, if I am not surrounded by people, it will probably mean getting my wallet out which just makes it easier for it to get stolen.

The key things to remember for your particular situation is that a) you didn't know him cool.gif he was in your home! c) he wanted a lot of money d) his story changed regularly.

You dealt with it pretty well really... trying to show that you were going to help and therefore heading out into the public world, but then putting an obstacle in the way to prevent it from actually happening but making it look like it wasn't your fault (PIN number, etc.).

You were right, in my opinion, to be suspicious. And, if you feel particularly threatened, then just saying, "No way! Get out!" isn't always an ideal option.

I'm just glad to hear that you are okay and nothing awful did happen, even if the strange man's strange request was somehow genuine.
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